What is the right way to deal with forced marriage?

When young people nowadays face the urging of their elders to get married, they should play Tai Chi, hide if they can, and try not to confront them head-on. Because the current elders are really terrible, if you say something that makes them unhappy, then there may be a lot of things that will scare you. And because he is your elder, you can't say too heavy words, it's really a belly of anger, so many people choose to hide if they can, can't be provoked, and can afford to hide.

In fact, to be honest, there are many old people who really like to interfere in other people's affairs. In this life, I think it's enough to be able to take care of my own affairs, and there is no need to worry about other people's affairs, because it has nothing to do with you. Everyone doesn't get married, naturally there are their own reasons, maybe it's because they haven't met the right one, or it may be because they want to play for a few more years.

But in the eyes of some elders, it may be a heinous thing.

If you reach the right age and don't choose to get married, they will think that you can't get married, or they can't find a suitable partner for Suichong. I like gossip, and what I say is very ugly. There are some people who may genuinely care about you, but there may be some people who are really just there to see the jokes.

Anyway, under normal circumstances, I just avoid those people in the house. Don't give them any chance to attack me, and don't give them a chance to speak, because that's the only way they won't break in my ears.

Some people may really care about me, but I really don't have the idea of getting married now, I think it's good to be alone, so why do I have to care about other people's thoughts?Maybe when I'm older, I naturally want to find someone to marry, but it's really not the time yet, so I'm very disgusted that someone is urging me. I can't offend them, I can't say anything serious to them, so the only thing I can do is stay away from them.

Negotiate with your parents reasonably and calmly, and if the negotiation fails, you can first find the reason for your parents to force you to get married, and then lobby your parents' relatives and friends to make them support you. And you can also mess up in life, instilling some knowledge with your parents to subtly change them, outside. You can also start to look out for some of the women you are interested in.

1. Quickly counterattack.

All people who are old and unmarried will definitely hear this sentence: Don't be too high-minded and don't be too picky!

Have you heard?

So, what do you do when you hear this?

You immediately said: I didn't pick it, I just need a person who is not ugly, not short, not too low-educated, and not too bad in income, can you introduce one to me.

Basically, as long as you say this, those three aunts and six women will shut up.

If you really meet someone who is particularly enthusiastic and really goes to give you Zhang Luo, you must be grateful, indicating that he is really worried about you and wants to be good for you.

But I really haven't met any of them, these people are just idle and have nothing to say.

2. Establish a bottom line.

When others chatter and discuss marriage with you, you don't want to stop it in time, use my method above, such as Fu Shiguo After saying this, the other party can't keep up with the interest, and you have to take the initiative to stop it.

I used to go home for the Chinese New Year and if my dad said I got married, I would buy a ticket and leave the next day, yes, just leave without mercy.

My dad knew that I had a strong temper and said that I was useless, so he didn't dare to talk in front of me.

Some people may feel that this seems very unfilial, and this will make it impossible for parents to step down during the Chinese New Year.

But I've always believed that getting along with people is a process of mutual respect, and the same is true for parents and children.

3. Explain.

It's really important to be able to take the initiative in everything, and the same is true for being urged to marry.

What kind of person you want, when you plan to get married, and what kind of life you want to live must be told to your parents in advance.

If your parents can understand, they will give you time to find the person you want and the life you want.

Of course, if we meet such reasonable parents, we must always report our own situation.

For example, I will tell my parents who I met this year and what the reason is that it was not suitable in the end, and they will know that you have worked hard to fall in love, but it has no result.

And after knowing this, your parents will be afraid that you will be sad, and they will not always say it in front of you.

But if you meet the kind of parents who say it is useless, refer to my second rule and keep a distance from them.

Of course, we don't have to confront our parents or try to convince them to understand.

The idea that you are trying to change the concept of your parents, and even all your elders, is like hitting a stone with an egg, which will not only make you suffer the pain of urging marriage, but also make you fall into the whirlpool of parental domination.

In the end, not only will you be scarred in the process of confrontation with your parents, but in the end, it may be the result of your compromise.