What kind of standard is the daughter in law in the eyes of the in laws?

First impressions in general matter. Woman...There is nothing more than to come out generous and decent.

It doesn't have to look too good. It won't be too bad. Be gentle.

Dealing with things at home is the way to go. Respect them on the line. Now times have changed.

The daughter-in-law in the eyes of the in-laws is a phased change, when you first get married, the in-laws will pay attention to all aspects of your life, especially the mother-in-law, because she wants to see how unqualified the woman who takes care of the baby son instead of herself, the mother-in-law will tell the daughter-in-law what the son likes to eat, because every time he goes home, his mother will cook for him, at this time, as long as the daughter-in-law also follows the delicious, the mother-in-law will also be very happy and will increase the good impression of the daughter-in-law. The father-in-law generally won't say anything, but the daughter-in-law had better not participate in the economic past between the father and son, because that is a man's business, and participation is redundant, the father will not let the son suffer, and the son will not let the father be wronged, the father-in-law will not participate in the economy, even if the father-in-law passes this pass, he will not feel that the daughter-in-law is bad or anything. After many years of marriage, my parents-in-law will change their views a lot, and I feel that young people and young people live their lifestyles, and those who are old people will not interfere, and they will be content to see them more when they have time.

When the grandson grows up, the parents-in-law and mother-in-law are 66 or 70 years old, and the parents-in-law will become like children, and they are very eager for the love and filial piety of their daughter-in-law.

The standard of a good daughter-in-law is to be able to go to the hall and the kitchen, and to serve the family every day, never buy clothes or cosmetics, and most importantly, never talk back to her in-laws, let alone call her husband casually, such a daughter-in-law is simply an angel in the eyes of her in-laws.

The basic standard is to be able to be diligent and thrifty, and to be able to do housework well, to run the family very well, and to be able to take care of the children and husband, and to be able to clean the house, and to be able to honor the elders.

The basic standard of a good daughter-in-law is to be gentle and virtuous, to be able to go to the hall and the kitchen, and to be financially independent and sensible.

Having a stable job, taking care of her in-laws, being filial to her parents, being able to cook, being able to do housework, and being kind and always available, etc., are all characteristics of a good daughter-in-law.

What I can't do myself, but I ask my daughter-in-law to do it, it's sick!

My cousin's in-laws are probably the best in-laws I've ever seen for my daughter-in-law.

I'm not at home all the year round, and I'm envious)

Here are some of the little things I've seen.

part1 My sister belongs to the snack goods and types of goods, and when she usually talks about what she wants to eat, her mother-in-law will make it for the second meal.

part2 When my sister gave birth to a baby, my mother-in-law gave gold ornaments, and the baby was the same as an adult smiling at a person, taking care of my sister's feelings of hardship, rather than focusing on her grandchildren. In many of our parents, the daughter-in-law only cares about the baby after her life.

part3 Because my sister and brother-in-law just got married, my sister is still teaching in the countryside, and every time I go back to the city, it is very troublesome, and I have to wait for the shuttle bus (ps: my brother-in-law is in the city and did not buy a car). So her father-in-law asked her sister to train a car, and as soon as she got the certificate, she gave her an SUV to her sister.

part4 In a summer vacation, when my sister was going to borrow a notebook from me because she was not good at it, her father-in-law knew about it, and her father-in-law didn't make a sound, and went out to bring a pink notebook back, and said, "You should like it."

Explanation: My sister's father-in-law is just an ordinary retired elementary school teacher, and she really treats her sister as a daughter.

His in-laws are very comfortable to get along with, and there is no adult frame and an adult sense of proportion.

The best in-laws should be friendly, respectful, tolerant and caring for their daughters-in-law. They should help their daughters-in-law integrate into the family, respect their opinions, and allow them to have their own way of life. They should also contribute to the family, be respectful of the daughter-in-law's family and other family members.

It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very good, but if it is a girl who is favored and satisfied by the mother-in-law, there is generally no problem in getting along.

The girls who are favored by the mother-in-law are not simple, mainly the elderly, have decades of life experience, have seen a variety of different types of people, can look good to see a person's personality, psychology and other conditions, and when choosing a daughter-in-law, are from the perspective of life, if it meets their requirements, the general character is more gentle, and it is also more virtuous, can deal with various relatives, the relationship between man and machine, so everyone will say that they are not simple.

Girls who can attract future mothers-in-law have these characteristics: first of all, they can handle things, if the daughter-in-law can handle interpersonal relationships well, then there will be fewer conflicts in the process of getting along, and they will be more comfortable; Diligence, this is what most of the elderly pay more attention to, and only diligent people can get a good life. There is also a staring at the grandson to cook, because the old people are more traditional, and the woman who cooks can take care of the housework.

The above are some of the characteristics of girls who are favored by the mother-in-law, when people have different requirements for each region and each family, and can only be used as a reference.

As a mother-in-law, you have to do your part. Treat your daughter-in-law as if she were your own daughter. After listening to "Mentality Changes Destiny", a daughter-in-law should try her best to meet her mother-in-law's psychological wishes and communicate more. Most of them focus on the family, and people's hearts are long.

Respect each other and understand each other!

First of all, the daughter-in-law must learn to empathize. Since they all come together for the purpose of love, there are not so many principled problems, and it is difficult for the old people to change their living habits for many years, so young people should be more tolerant.

The second is to compare the heart to the heart. Many daughters-in-law feel that the old man is too protective of his husband and too critical of himself, first of all, he should face up to the reality that his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no blood relationship, and he will know that his love for his son is an instinct, and it is already very good to be good to his daughter-in-law by the way. If you want the elderly to be sincere to you, you must first be really good to the elderly, observe the needs of the elderly, and meet them as much as possible, but according to my observation, the spiritual requirements of the elderly are far more than the material ones, at least the old people in my family are like this.

Third, be patient. When people are old, many times they are like children, they are verbose, and their memory is not good, so we young people must not be annoyed, and we must think about the day when we are old. At the same time, he also set an example for his children, as if he came to think of everything.

Fourth, the housework should be shared. It is not easy for the elderly to work all their lives, and we should try to share more housework when we go home from work, so that the elderly have time to rest. The old man changed his schedule for the sake of his children and grandchildren, and he did not complain, this is our old man, our parents, and our old baby, so it is natural for us to take on as much housework as possible.

Fifth, we must learn to make peace with the mud. Most men are rough and not good at expressing themselves, and many men are the same for their parents, as a daughter-in-law, a woman should care more about her in-laws in life, and when her husband expresses badly, she must learn to be with the mud. When the husband has a bad attitude, the daughter-in-law must stand on the side of the in-laws, so that everyone will like you.

Sixth, never lose your temper with your husband in front of your in-laws. As a mother, I know that the child in my mind will always be unique, and I want to be angry with other women (daughters-in-law), and my mother should be distressed.

Seventh, if you want to reach a consensus with the elderly on the issue of raising children, you must first obtain the support of your husband, and in the hearts of your in-laws, your son's opinion is always more important and convincing than your daughter-in-law's. First of all, when young parents discipline their children, even if the elderly have objections, they cannot show it in front of the children, which is conducive to the growth of the children. Parents have the right to educate their children, and the elderly only have auxiliary obligations, as long as the division of labor is clear, there will be no disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law over children's problems.

The daughter-in-law is a junior, so she should be good to the elders.