Compare what the heaviest person is like

Why do some people have a very heavy heart for comparison:

The reason for the comparison is mostly due to the impetuousness and anxiety in the heart, as soon as these two emotions come out, there will be a kind of psychology of eagerness, and people will become unsteady. Let's take a look at the specific reasons for the desire to compare:

1. Low self-esteem. Low self-esteem exists in many people's psychology, but many people have no way to change their inferiority complex and make themselves confident.

When our goals are set relatively high, we will begin to rush for quick success, we will take the goal too seriously, and we will become very paranoid in behavior, and the final result will be different from what we expected, and then we will enter a cycle of inferiority.

2. Conceited. Most of the egotistical people are people who are not accurate in their self-positioning. Because of the conceit, it will become too ambitious, and I always feel that I am much better than others, but in fact, there is a big gap.

3. Self-loathing. People who hate themselves will also hate everything in their own family, and they can't face themselves with a calm mind, and the final result is to envy others all the time, the so-called ambition of others, and destroy their own prestige.

4. What you see is what others let you see.

We only see the surface of many things, and only we know what our lives are like. Seeing the good of others, but only seeing the bad of yourself, pushing it down, is that everything is unsatisfactory for yourself.

Comparison is something that everyone has, so you don't have to worry too much. There are good and bad things about being stronger, depending on how you take advantage of it.

First of all, there is a climbing bird town to compare the heart can prove that you are a stronger person, prove that you have higher requirements for yourself, a proper comparison can make you do better at work, this is also a good way to spur yourself, a proper comparison can promote people to improve.

But in other words, if the comparison heart is too strong, your life will be unhappy, because there are always people who are richer than you and better than you, and they have been chasing others, and they will forget themselves in the chase and ignore their own excellence, in fact, they should find their own strengths and advantages, give full play to their own strengths and strengths, and don't always compare their shortcomings with the advantages of others, which will only make them more depressed.

Finally, we should look at the comparison reasonably, don't blame ourselves too much and don't pursue what we can't get too much, and cherish what we have in front of you is the happiest.

Everything should have a degree. A moderate comparison shows that you are not the first to accept defeat and are self-motivated. But if the comparison psychology is excessive, it is easy to lose oneself, and the answer is very heartfelt and tired. Always live in the eyes of others and in other people's worlds.

Strong comparison, I think Qian Cong is not a good person, I think he is not good at comparison, if you suddenly compare, it will make you feel that you are worse than others Zheng Sheng, or you may lose your wealth.

It's not good to be strong, and it's jealousy.

In the face of such a friend, I may take the following approach:

1. I need to clearly recognize that the behavior of such people is actually psychological inconfidence, they lack a sense of security and self-esteem, so they need to highlight their superiority by degrading the position of others. At this time, I need to put my mindset in the right frame of mind and not mind the comparison and blows of these people, because the whole world knows that confident people do not need to prove their superiority by belittling others.

2. I can respond to the statements of these people with appropriate wording. When these people try to belittle you, you can be blunt about telling them that such behavior is undesirable and give them a chance to reconsider their attitude. At the same time, I should also insist that my faith has not changed because of the comparison and blow just now.

3. Finally, if I think that the person is not worth associating, then I can try to minimize contact with the person as much as possible and not be bothered by the words of such a person. And if I think there is something worth relating to this person, then I can try to communicate with them and come up with clear principles for getting along. In short, when I meet people who compare with us and suppress me, I need to put my mindset right, stick to my beliefs, and try to reduce the influence of such people as much as possible.

At the same time, I can also change their attitudes and ideas through appropriate response and communication, so that my circle of friends can be more harmonious.

4, people will only compare with the things they see, so the friends around you are also very cautious to cover the normal, the so-called comparison of the heart of the heart of the people, this is sometimes related to the three views, different people, see the place is not the same, so the things are different, people or a positive point is better. If there are people around me who are more than comparative, I can keep my distance, because I can't control others, but I can manage myself and make myself a positive person, as for those around me who love to compare, stay away if you can, and can't stay away for some reason, then keep your heart and don't care about these.

Some people always want to compare, in fact, the reason is very simple, his sense of self-worth is low, a person only feels that he is not good enough, will show his superiority by attacking and belittling others.

Because those people with a low sense of self-worth feel that they are not good enough, they need to constantly get praise and recognition from the outside world to make themselves feel that life is worthwhile, such people are also inferior, but usually do not show inferiority, and can only comfort themselves by comparison.

Once they fail to achieve their goals, they will passively gain recognition by derogatory behavior if the comparison psychology is more serious, so that they will feel some comfort.

People with a comparison mentality, if you go to understand them deeply, you can actually find that this type of person is extremely fragile and vulnerable in their hearts, and there may be a lot of negative events that they can't digest and deal with in their own growth process, such as having a pair of parents who love to compare and love to belittle them.

If ordinary friends compare with you and belittle you everywhere, then you can properly consider whether the relationship is still worth maintaining, and there are actually some irrelevant friend relationships that can be appropriately trade-offs, because the most important thing to make friends is to be happy, and there is no need to waste feelings for unfamiliar people.

If you have a work or other connection with that ordinary friend, it is best not to poke them in the sore spot in the process of getting along with them, you can keep your distance from them.

If that friend is very interested in your appetite and doesn't want to keep his distance from him, and you have a strong heart, consider giving them some support and trying to understand them while keeping yourself safe and comfortable.

People will only compare with the things they see, so it is normal for friends around you to compare you, the so-called comparison of people has it, which is sometimes related to the three views, different people, see different places, so the things are different, people are still a little more positive.

If there are people around us who are more than comparative, we can keep our distance, because we can't control others, but we can manage ourselves, let ourselves be a positive person, as for those around us who love to compare, stay away if you can, for some reason you can't stay away, then keep your heart and don't care about these.

As an ordinary person, you think you are excellent, but there are actually better than you. If you waste all your time on meaningless comparisons, you will only make yourself extremely anxious. It's better to focus on improving yourself, recognizing your potential, as long as you make a little progress every day, it means that you are constantly growing.

The psychology of comparison is mostly to want something that does not have the ability to consume, which is actually related to the people you get along with.

If you have made some friends who like to show off, there is a high probability that you will be affected by them, causing you to cut back on food and clothing, or want to buy something in advance, if you can't get it, it is easy to feel jealous and disrupt the original normal life and psychological state.

Jealousy makes people ugly, doing everything according to one's ability, having a smile on one's face, and having sunshine in one's heart is more important than anything else.

Most of the time, this state comes from a kind of impetuousness, and after being overly anxious, it is easy to produce a kind of anxious psychology, which is what we usually call unsteady.

1. Low self-esteem Inferiority appears very often in the mental realm, because inferiority will directly guide oneself to no longer have low self-esteem, the so-called superiority!

However, when we set our goals too high, the mind of quick success will appear, and if we take the goal too seriously, our behavior will deviate, and the final result is often not what we expected.

So enter the cycle of inferiority complex again!

2. Conceited people are often people who are not accurate in their self-positioning, because they are conceited, so they are ambitious; Because I am so ambitious, I always feel that I am better than others, but there is a big gap in the facts.

Comparison has become the most critical factor affecting one's own development.

3. Self-loathing People who are self-loathing usually not only disgusted with everything about themselves, but also with everything at home, and cannot face themselves with a calm mind, and the final result is also to envy others.

The so-called "grow the ambition of others and destroy your own prestige".

4. What you see is what others let you see Everything on the surface looks so beautiful, and only you know the hardships of your own life.

So while seeing others good, they only see their own lives bad. By deriving from this, the results are often unsatisfactory.

If you want to solve this mountain problem, you must first learn to focus on the present and live a good life. Secondly, face up to everything about yourself, and know that the direction of life will only match your abilities more and more.

Thirdly, scholars love themselves, change what they can change, and accept what they can't.

In the end, the reason for the comparison is because the pattern and vision are not broad enough, learn more, read more books, and increase knowledge. When you see the bigger world, you will know that all your comparisons are actually meaningless.

Ignore him directly.

People who love to compare are always accustomed to using some aspects of themselves to find a sense of existence, and even suppress the same aspects of others. If you go head-to-head with such a person, you may only provoke the other party to be more serious about comparison. One of the best ways to do this is to keep your distance or pretend to be unsuspecting when the other person wants to compete with you.

It can weaken the other party's comparison emotion.

Diverge the topic. This is a relatively gentle way and is mainly used in the presence of a third person. For example, if you are chatting with another person and find that he wants to compare, try to connect closely with the speaker and don't let his comparison spoil the atmosphere of the chat.

Respond to him in the simplest language.

When we can't stand a person, we can use the simplest language to deal with him, just like the comparison in front of you, and when we ask our opinions from time to time, we can use the simplest, in fact, the most powerless language to respond to him, so that he understands your reluctance, otherwise our simple responses are enough to kill a person's excitement, make him feel bored, and naturally will not say more.

Understand and empathize.

Comparison is a psychology that most people have, but to varying degrees. Some people are even accustomed to comparing without knowing it, thinking that this is a normal pursuit. Therefore, give the correct understanding to the person who has the heart of comparison, as long as his behavior does not hurt you.

In addition, think about it from another perspective, find your own faults from such people, whether you are also comparing yourself in some things, and what can be improved. You may also find room to improve yourself in such a sound.

<> in life, we will meet all kinds of people, and it is inevitable that we will meet people who are not very friendly with us. These people may compare themselves to you, beat you up, and belittle you from time to time. Such people tend to make you feel depressed and embarrassed in your circle of friends, at parties, but how to deal with this situation?

First of all, we need to clearly understand that such people's behavior is actually a psychological lack of self-confidence, they lack a sense of security and self-esteem, and therefore need to highlight their superiority by lowering the position of others. At this time, we need to put our mindset in the right and not mind the comparison and blows of these people, because the whole world knows that self-confident people do not need to prove their superiority by belittling others.

Second, we can respond to these people's statements with appropriate wording. When these people try to belittle you, you can be blunt and tell them that such behavior is not advisable and give them a chance to reconsider their attitude. At the same time, you should also stick to your beliefs and have not changed because of the comparison and blows just now.

Finally, if we don't think the person is worth associating, then we can try to keep contact with that person as minimal as possible and not be bothered by what the person has to say. And if we think that there is something worth relating to this person, then we can try to communicate with them and come up with clear principles for getting along.

In short, when we meet people who compare with us and oppress us, we need to correct our mindset, stick to our beliefs, and reduce the influence of such people as much as possible. At the same time, we can also change their attitudes and ideas through appropriate responses and communication, so that our circle of friends can be more harmonious.