Do you deliberately find topics when chatting with others?

I don't think you've been fully prepared for that.

1. For example, if the other party is a man, how do you open the situation, such as starting from the weather, and then the latest hot news, etc., and for example, if the other party is a woman, you ask her what constellation she is, and then how to shoot the advantages of this constellation, starting from the point of interest of the female ** to cut in, how do you know what the other party is interested in if you don't prepare a lot of topics.

2. And in the process of talking to him, did you revel in your own topic and did not pay attention to the other party's expression and attitude, whether you liked the topic, and you did not stop changing the method in time to let the other party bring up the topic.

3. You also need to find a way to get the other party to raise the topic, such as you ask some questions, what books you have been reading recently, what movies you have watched, what work you are busy with, etc., so that there are targeted questions, he will definitely say the topic he is most interested in, and then it depends on how you prepare. This preparation is the accumulation of your usual knowledge, all walks of life, history, sports, military, movies, fashion, etc., try to avoid talking about politics, which will easily cause disputes.

4. The most important point is that if the other party's level is obviously much higher than yours, and what you say is very white, it is normal for him to not like to listen to it, and he will definitely be cold. At that time, you can choose to find something to do for yourself and avoid the embarrassment for a while.

5. The other party doesn't want to chat but is just dealing with you, which will make you want to end the topic in time, let him be cold, and then find yourself a book or look at your phone, let the other party stay quiet, and she will be embarrassed to take the initiative to chat with you later.

There are many, many more, you have seen few people, and you have not deliberately prepared for such a problem.

I usually have to pay attention to getting in touch with some of the fields that everyone likes, and you have to understand some, otherwise it will definitely be difficult to answer, because you don't understand. Make friends must pay attention to nature, don't find something to say if there is no topic, others will think you are stupid, if the purpose is just to attract attention, then quiet is actually very wrong, others are desperate to speak, to communicate, when you are alone and quiet, it seems more charming, more special, hit the snake and hit seven inches, when it is critical, you insert a level of humorous words, others will still think you are very good, quiet can also add to your own mystery. Never because you say less people think you are dumb, on the contrary, some girls with a good sense of superiority hate those who are desperately looking for topics like flies I hope my speech will help you

I think it's the problem of introversion, not the problem of finding a topic.

First of all, you don't need to find any topic to chat, it's not a meeting, a debate, a negotiation, of course, it's about what you see, and everyone is interested in what you talk about. You are often not very familiar with the other party, and you don't know each other, so you will be like this. In this case, you can see what to talk about, just think of what to talk about, mainly to make people think that you are a cheerful person, and the things that people talk about are often nonsense, mainly to make nonsense more interesting.

I don't think you have to find a topic to talk about chatting, generally people around me are who mention something and then talk naturally, if you are introverted and can't find a good topic, why not talk to other people's topics, in fact, there are not so many skills in chatting, it's natural to be fine, deliberate topics will make others lose interest or think you are contrived. If you really want to find something to talk about, you can talk about things around you, and there is no need to find something esoteric.

Hehe! I feel the same way as you ...

I've summed it up.

1 Between the previous always embarrassing, cold field. I have a feeling of unconfidence in myself.

2 Between the first one, the heart is nervous...

3 I didn't let go of my heart ...

4 Pay attention to the interests of others. In order to make them talk very high.

5 Read more books and magazines. Take a look at the news. Combine their hobbies. Raise the topic.

Let's read this book. Eloquence makes a lifetime. I've been watching lately. Benefit a lot from above.

Or should you be able to "look at words and looks", look at the person you are talking about, his career, etc., talk about issues that he may be interested in, or talk about topics that everyone is interested in recently.

The relationship is good, you can talk about any topic, and you can talk very high. If the relationship is average, find a topic that the other party likes, so that you can extract the other party's chat interest, and you can get to know the other party better, so that there are more and better topics to talk about in the future, so that you will not be cold.

First of all, we must find public topics to talk about, hot topics in society.

Then I have to find something that both of you are interested in.

Don't ask embarrassing topics.

Try to find what she likes to talk about.

You can also talk about movies, ** and stuff like that.

Anyone has a greater or lesser fondness for these things.

will hide their favorite movie or ** in their hearts.

Of course the books I like are even better.

Say whatever you want! I can't stop talking to people who are in love!

Oh, yes. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about, and I try my best to think about something.

Cold things are generally just things that happen to people who don't know each other.。。 If it's with an acquaintance.。。 There will only be endless words. So the main thing is to get acquainted with people.

In fact, you can think about it, and the person you're talking to is thinking about the same question as you: What should I say?

This is the same as playing a game, and there must be a routine, such as this host,

Something that happened recently (interesting).

Things that used to be in the past.

Things you don't understand.

Maybe he starts the topic first, and you're it.

Some introverts are not sociable by nature, and it is normal to not know how to take the initiative to find a topic at this time, but they don't know how to open a topic, and if they feel embarrassed by the silence of the atmosphere, they will naturally feel uncomfortable. So, what if you are embarrassed and uncomfortable with people? Let's take a look at the detailed introduction I brought!

Why it's always awkward to chat with someone

It's especially awkward to talk to someone, maybe because you don't know that person well or because you have an introverted personality.

Introverted people are not good at socializing with others, especially when they meet people they don't know well, they will behave very reservedly, and they will look very embarrassed when there is no topic.

But introverts and their acquaintances are still quite talkative.

If you and the other person are going to get along for a long time, such as neighbors or colleagues, don't think so much, after a long time, the relationship between the two people is familiar.

What to do if you are embarrassed and uncomfortable with people

This is the reason why you don't deal with people for a long time, if it's okay, you go to chat with strangers with colleagues or lively places, and it won't be like this, embarrassing just because you have nothing to say or say that you have nothing to say or are not familiar with, the way to deal with this situation is to find the same topic that you can talk about together to avoid awkward conversations, otherwise it will always be embarrassing, this is how I solved it, and slowly discussed it little by little and talked about it together. If you are not a type of person, or not a person of the same level, it depends on the amount of knowledge you have, and it is not a matter of a few words that you can talk about together.

What topics you can talk about when chatting with others

Hair, clothes, pants, shoes, cars, loved ones, friends, hobbies, hobbies! Games, books, life, living people, fishing, skating, eating, drinking, shopping, watching movies, opening a house! Talk about whatever comes to mind, and if you really don't have anything to say to him, you might as well change to a girlfriend.

You have to learn to greet, the most basic daily life greetings, familiar people talk about family life, talk about life, talk about learning, work, emotions, unfamiliar people that are adaptable, some people talk about society, talk about news, talk about entertainment, talk about movies, talk about history, talk about people, usually have to learn, more contact with people, communication, slowly will be better.

If there are many customers in the store, you have to politely ask people to sit on the sofa for a while, and when they sit down, you can take some magazines, Wu Xing or the newspaper of the day to the other party, and then if you want to know more, you can chat, "Sorry, there are a lot of customers today, You may have to wait a while", and then you asked, do you usually come to our store? Do you know a hairdresser? Today I will serve you, my name is so-and-so, I have been studying hairdressing for a few years, you will try it later, and then you can ask the other party if they are usually busy at work, and then slowly chat.