I graduated and my parents don t approve of me being with my college boyfriend, what should I do?

Updated on society 2024-07-12
16 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    First of all, this is a difficult multiple-choice question:

    Do you get along, or do you forget about each other?

    No one else can give you an answer, because the future is unknown.

    Hehe, some people have said that reality is reality after all, not a movie.

    If it were me, let it be.

    Tell him about your situation and troubles, since you are together, there are many problems, I think you should deal with them together.

    I think if the two of you can convince your parents, then your love wins.

    Sometimes, giving up is also beautiful, and what is left behind is beautiful, at least not destroyed.

    I wish you happiness and happiness.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Although distance produces beauty, one day you will feel tired! Distance is the worst for couples!

    You'll get bored then! The second reason is that it is not necessary!

    It's better now, although I hate reality, but this is now, not in a dream!

    With the blessing of parents, this kind of marriage is happy!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Life is realistic, you've all graduated from college, and you're old enough to think for yourself.

    Now it's not a matter of pointing, it's about choice.

    To choose love is to accept the burden, although it is sweet.

    Choosing the status quo means enduring a broken love, even if it's temporary.

    Life has to give to gain, I wish you happiness!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    - Poor, they're all so big that they can't make their own decisions.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Think about it yourself, after all, life in the future is very realistic! It's not just love that can be lived!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    We often say that when you graduate, you break up. I believe it is not difficult for everyone to find that couples who were together in college are still able to be together after graduation for a period of time, and most of them will break up for various reasons, and the views of family members are also a very important part of it, after all, without the support of their parents, it is difficult for this relationship to continue.

    I really can't accept such a thing from the perspective of young people, after all, two people have been together from college to graduation, and I am afraid that only two people know how much they have experienced, after all, no relationship will not go through hardships, especially this kind of breakup after graduation without disagreement on future planning, it is already rare, but because of the disapproval of parents to break up, this will indeed make it difficult for everyone to choose. Next, I will talk about what should be done when parents do not agree to be with their other half. <>

    In fact, I personally think that most of today's parents will consider their children, and most parents are more respectful of their children, as long as the parents who like the children will agree, after all, the feelings are the children's own business, the most important thing is that the children like, and no parents want to see their children and themselves because of the period of their love and conflict. So now you have to show your heart to your parents, you must let them know that you have been through a lot with him, the relationship is very strong, if the parents don't want to see themselves in a difficult situation between them, don't stop the two from continuing to be together. I don't think parents want to see you so upset, maybe they will change their attitude.

    Of course, this kind of thing is best to get the consent of the parents, and the relationship that can be supported by everyone is happy. There must be a certain reason for your parents' opposition, so at this time, you have to constantly enlighten your parents, so that they can get a good explanation of what they mind, and they will naturally stop objecting.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Ask your parents why they are doing this, and after finding the reason, you can prescribe the right medicine. You also have to ask your partner to give your parents more sweetness.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You should communicate more with your parents, and you can also tell them that you will not break up with your boyfriend and show your attitude.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Then you should let your parents see the good in your boyfriend, and let your parents slowly accept and agree with him.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It depends on what kind of personality the parents are and the degree of affection with their own object.

    1 If you are not sure about your parents' attitude, it is better to talk secretly, cut first and then play, but you need to be excited to drive, remember to wear a helmet. It's not their fault that your parents oppose you falling in love in college, after all, everyone has different positions, and they are also worried about you. Especially for girls, your parents have worked hard to raise you, and they don't want you to look at the wrong person.

    There are so many scumbags, what if you meet them? Make sure to hide your parents from falling in love, remember that the circle of friends is going to be blocked, don't think that your parents don't look at the circle of friends when they are old, the meaning is clueless, and they may be goofs.

    2. Tentatively ask your parents what they think about falling in love! You can post an ambiguous post to get your parents' attention to you, and then test them when they ask if they're in a relationship in college. As for how to set up your parents, everyone is different, so Jingye depends on your eloquence and IQ.

    If you have a certain attitude, talk about what should be discussed, walk together if appropriate, don't keep saying that it will affect learning, and you will cry if you can't find a partner in the future!

    3. Parents are open people, and they have an open-minded attitude towards college students falling in love. Some parents not only do not prevent their children from falling in love, but also encourage them to talk, especially now that there are so many single dogs. The mother of the first and second year of the school said that she was not in a hurry, and when she reached the third year, she said that she should look for it, and what should I do if I can't find it in the future, a 360° change, which scared me to suspect that it was not biological.

    Obviously, you told me not to be in a hurry, but now you're urging me to find one, and I have 10,000 mmp in my heart!

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    When I was in college, I fell in love at an age where I didn't need to hide it from my parents. At this time, if you really like girls, you can tell your parents. In this way, the relationship will also be more formal.

    It depends on what kind of personality the parents are, and the level of affection with the other person.

    It's their fault that your parents are against you and that you don't love in college. After all, everyone has a different position, and they are also worried about you. Especially girls, I want your parents to work hard to raise you and not let you recognize the wrong person. There are a lot of scumbags, what if you meet them?

    Explore your parents' views on their relationship! The action is ambiguous, which attracts the attention of parents, and try it when you ask if you are in love in college. How to apply your parents' words varies from person to person.

    That depends on your mouth and IQ. If it is a fixed attitude, just say what should be said, walk together appropriately, and don't say that it will affect learning. If you can't find a partner in the future, cry.

    Parents are open-minded people who are open to college students in love. Some parents not only do not prevent their children from falling in love, but also encourage their children to speak. Especially now that there are a lot of single dogs. The mother of the first grade of the seniors said that she was not in a hurry, but when she reached the third grade, she said that she should look for it.

    I think it depends on how you interact with your parents.

    If you usually make friends with your parents, let's be honest. I think it's normal for college students to fall in love. In addition, parents who can socialize with their children as friends must be very open to the first stool.

    So I'm sure they'll be okay with that. And I'm sure they should give their children some advice.

    Or, don't declare a relationship with your parents. Although he said that he was not in love yet, there was a young man who had been pursuing himself and did not know if he knew. Ask your parents for advice so that they know about this first.

    Look at their attitude. If you have a relaxed attitude, it is not easy to find opportunities and move forward step by step.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Communicate with them more and explain clearly what kind of person your lover is and how you like it. Submit to Mom and Dad to agree to accept.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If you don't tell them, they won't know.

    Besides, falling in love in college may not be able to achieve positive results, so it doesn't matter if you don't tell your parents.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    First of all, I think that cohabitation is a more serious matter, and couples should think carefully before deciding to live together, and it is recommended not to live together in the early stages of a relationship.

    It is difficult for parents in traditional families to accept that couples live together too early, and if they are told when the relationship is still unstable, the relationship will only add to the parents' troubles. In the parents' mind, cohabitation may represent the future of marriage. In the lives of today's young people, cohabitation may not be so burdensome.

    This gap in consciousness will not only affect the communication between parents and children, but may also affect the direction of the relationship between couples. Cohabitation is indeed a matter that does not need to be carefully considered, and when the relationship is warm, it is easy for two people to make some impulsive decisions. In general, it is recommended to consider cohabitation during the period of emotional stability, when two people have a certain understanding of each other, and it will be easier to solve the troubles caused by different living habits.

    If you still decide to live together after you have thought about it, be sure to tell your parents first. You can choose to talk to your parents tentatively, talk about the cases of friends living together, and listen to your parents' views on living together as a couple. If your parents agree with the couple's cohabitation, then congratulations, you can spend a lot less words, but if your parents don't agree with this matter, don't quarrel with your parents, after all, they are the people who love you the most in the world, you can slowly infiltrate your boyfriend's thoughtfulness and good things for you in your daily life, and slowly let your parents accept him, and then tell your parents about it when the time is right.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    First of all, let your boyfriend behave politely in front of your parents, let your parents know that the other party is a person of good character, and let your boyfriend have more contact with your parents, so that your parents can know more about your boyfriend, and let your parents know that your boyfriend is a very responsible and self-motivated person. <>

    In fact, many parents hope that their daughters can find a good son-in-law in the future, so that they can reduce some worries in life. Therefore, in terms of looking at sons-in-law, they are more strict, hoping that the conditions can be better, but these hard conditions are not the standard for judging a person's quality or badness. <>

    Let the object leave a good impression on the parents, the first impression is very important, many parents between the first impression, may have a big misunderstanding of this person, so when meeting for the first time, you should be polite, gentleman, and look like a very good person, which will leave a good impression on your parents.

    Let the subject contact with the parents, in the process of contact, there can be more time to test the object, and the parents can also rest assured that their daughter will be handed over to such a person. The most important thing to see the object is that the other party must be responsible and self-motivated, so that the future life is also better, at least it will not be abandoned by the beloved, and it will not be so difficult in life. <>

    Education is not a criterion for judging whether a person is capable, so let your parents and the object have more opportunities to understand more deeply, let the object behave in front of their parents, after a long time together, the parents will definitely change, and they will rest assured that their children will be handed over to each other. A beautiful love needs the sincere blessing of the family, so that the two people can go further and the burden will become smaller and smaller.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I think you need to be emotionally assertive, you're living with your boyfriend, not with your parents.

    In most cases, young people need to have a certain sense of independence and at the same time need to take responsibility for their own lives. Especially in the case of choosing a marriage partner, I personally do not recommend that girls follow the advice of their parents too much, as excessive interference in their children's marriage will also lead to the loss of their children's independence in life. If you love your boyfriend very much, you don't need to take your parents' words too seriously.

    You need to be assertive.

    When you and your boyfriend have been together for 5 years, you already know your boyfriend's education. In this case, if your parents are always against you being together, your parents' opposition is basically useless. In other words, unless you choose to separate at the beginning, the relationship between the two of you is already very stable, and you don't need to dislike your boyfriend because of his academic qualifications.

    Personally, I don't recommend that you listen to your parents.

    From my personal point of view, if you can't make your own decisions about marriage, you're a complete mother. When it comes to life, I suggest that all young people listen to their own voices, and that young people can indeed listen to the opinions of their elders on life, but there is no need to delay themselves in their own life choices. The person you marry is your boyfriend, not your parents.

    You can try to proactively communicate this with your parents.

    I don't know why your parents dislike your boyfriend, but if your parents dislike your boyfriend simply because of his education, you can take the initiative to communicate with your parents about this. If it's for other reasons, you can try to regulate the relationship between your boyfriend and your parents so that the two can live in harmony with each other. For you personally, you should try to take responsibility for your own life and never lose your independence in this kind of life event.

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