Why is it that the original advantages have now become all the shortcomings in his eyes?

People haven't changed, but mentality has changed.

In the vast sea of people, two lonely people will be attracted to each other in some way, and they will come together, and with the passage of time, these attractions will gradually fade, and finally they will become very familiar with each other, but there is a lack of that attraction and freshness between them, which will make the relationship dull.

It's like, when you're in a relationship, the girl will dress up every time they meet, and the longer they hold hands, the longer they hold hands, and even when you're already living together, the girl won't waste time trying to dress up, because they know each other well, and they don't have to pretend about certain aspects.

You have to get used to this normal natural variation, otherwise why would people say that marriage is the grave of love?

Let's talk about it for a good time Put all the complaints in your heart on the table Explain clearly one by one Some things are not said Holding it in your heart will only make the misunderstanding continue faster Isn't there a saying that is good It's easy to fall in love and it's hard to stay together.

I've never suggested that people should make a decision about breaking up at every turn, because behind a relationship, no one wants to hurt anyone in the first place, it's just a lack of understanding, a lack of communication, and even more that causes the relationship to fall apart.

It's not that people have changed, it's often just that people's mentality has changed.

No, as long as you treat it with your heart.

As the saying goes, no one is perfect. People have advantages, but they will also have disadvantages, and the key depends on what standard you look at. The advantages and disadvantages are relative and not set in stone.

Take the Chinese, we were taught to be obedient when we were young, listen to our parents, listen to teachers, and if someone says that a child is sensible and obedient, it is obviously a compliment to him, which is an advantage. The West is different, they encourage independence and seek the development of personality, so if you hear someone say that a child is obedient, it may not be a good but a disadvantage. This shows that there is a lot to do with a person's evaluation and culture and values.

For example, in ancient times, the Chinese would regard obedience to the three obedience and four virtues as a person's virtue, but today these behaviors are regarded as bad habits and must be resolutely abandoned. It can be seen that the advantages and disadvantages also have the limitations of their time.

In addition to this, a person's strengths and weaknesses are also affected by regional customs. For example, being able to drink and speak loudly may be an advantage in the eyes of northeasterners, but in the eyes of gentlemen in the southerners, it may be considered vulgar behavior and a sign of unculture.

Therefore, when evaluating a person, don't always stand on your own standpoint, speculate on others with your own heart, and demand others with your own standards, so that most of the conclusions drawn will be prejudiced. For example, you work hard to get ahead. You see this act of struggle as your own merit.

And when you see that others are at ease with their encounters and have no desires, you will see other people's practices as a mess and a defect. In this way, you will be more or less emotionally involved in your relationship with him, which will bring communication obstacles. As everyone knows, what you think is good is what you think is the same in the eyes of others.

Speaking of which, back to that sentence: people's strengths and weaknesses are relative, only by not setting up a field, can you evaluate others more objectively, in order to understand yourself more rationally.

There are many celebrities who have succeeded by turning their shortcomings into strengths, and here are some examples:

Beethoven: The composer Beethoven lost his hearing in middle school, but he did not give up his career, but instead expressed his emotions through a lot of writing and playing. It is precisely because of the defect of deafness that Beethoven was able to concentrate more on the inner world and created many immortal pieces.

Edison: Inventor Edison also lost his hearing as an adult, but instead of being discouraged, he used it as an opportunity to start his own inventive career. He believes that deafness is a gift because it allows him to focus more on his work and avoid outside distractions.

Oscar Pistoris: South African disabled athlete Oscar Pistorius lost both of his brother's legs at the age of two, but he won multiple gold medals at the Paralympic Games and also competed in the ordinary person category. He firmly believes that disability is not an obstacle, but just a process to success.

Stephen Hawking: Physicist Stephen Hawking suffered from muscular dystrophy at a young age, resulting in an inability to move and speak. But he did not give up studying and researching, expressed his ideas through the use of electronic devices and oral communication, and became a brilliant scientist and philosopher.

The examples of these celebrities show us that everyone has their own flaws and shortcomings, but with faith, perseverance and creativity, we can turn these flaws into strengths, and we can achieve our goals.