Don t always live in someone else s framework, what you think is good?

There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people, don't care too much about what others think, just live your own life well. You should control your own happiness and don't live in someone else's world.

Everyone climbs up their own path, and the higher they climb, the more exposed they are to everyone's view.

Those who came before them will come to a common conclusion: the most important thing is to be yourself, and not to care about the eyes of others. People sometimes need to discern which kind of person is cancer for you, and if you have time to care about whether others hate you or not, it is better to live a more delicate life, it is better to actively explore the world, make some sincere and interesting friends, and be with interesting people, so that the ordinary life can become interesting, magnify all the happiness, and reduce all the worries and worries.

Because most of the time I accompany myself, it is myself, never someone else.

The more you are not welcomed, the less you can look down on yourself. People should have their own evaluation system, and not live in the expectations, likes and dislikes of others.

That's a good thing to say, and I approve of it.

However, there is one thing that you have come to mind, most people live in someone else's framework, why?

Not wanting to live in someone else's framework is not something that can be done if you want to, this is because this person must have the ability to think independently, have strong problem-solving skills in all aspects, and have little dependence on others. Unfortunately, most laypeople don't. So, often very ordinary people, without someone else's framework, he may not survive.

Dreaming is just the opposite, don't take it to heart, which means that the building is intact.

Given your question. First of all, you should decide which friend to get along with. Don't want this, that.

If you decide to treat him sincerely. You can make an appointment to confess to him directly. See how he reacts?

If he wants to love you with all his heart. He will be happy to be with you. Then you don't have to count what happened before.

Hope that helps.

If you can't accept your past, what is the future! He may really like you, but he may not be able to live in his heart.

Rina to Kan! He hopes that before you meet him, you have always been "Bing Qing Yujie" All the first time you have to be with him, but obviously impossible! To put it simply, it is "psychological cleanliness"!

He minds your past and all the intimate things you've done with your previous boyfriend! Even if he hasn't seen you have an intimate relationship with your ex-boyfriend, he will fantasize about it himself! This kind of boy, he can't figure it out by himself, he can't see it, there's no way to do anything you do!

Only on his own! And for some "scumbags", after having had enough, this is also a good excuse to break up!

The problem is this, you hide it because you are afraid that he will mind your past, and when you finally say it frankly, he minds very much, and it is more about your past than the distrust factor that you are hiding from him, but he finally forgives you for the time being and makes the problem more complicated. Let me first analyze your general relationship, your relationship, you are obviously on the disadvantaged side, living in the man's control framework, you try to cater to him, and strive to be what he wants you to be, this is the main reason for the current situation, you are not independent and autonomous, obey him, and have no lower limit to please and cater to him, which is a very unfavorable state, and your relationship development is an abnormal state, and the man has complete control over it. From your point of view, because you are completely controlled, you live a very happy life, and you do feel very much in love with him, through this subconsciously comfort yourself, to tolerate him to speak ill of you, even if you are absolutely indifferent, you still love him, and even beg him to promise the last time, and because of this incident, you start to live more tired, and even live in fear that he will abandon you one day.

From the man's point of view, he can or dare to say such hurtful things to you, in fact, to a large extent, you connived at it, and he even mentioned the obvious taboo of an ex-girlfriend. He's done a really good job of controlling the frame, and you're able to tolerate all sorts of flaws almost infinitely, and he's able to control you completely. Because of the framework, you ignore or don't care about many of the things he doesn't handle well or even mistakes in his relationship, and even plant the seeds of distrust of you at the beginning, and you are with him.

Your status is too low for him, and he obviously won't cherish it, but if it is spread out, it will not be good for him to break up because the girl has a lot of emotional experiences, so he chooses to let go of this matter first, and continue to find contradictions in the future, and then separate from you. I know you're hard to accept, but you'll be more rational than you'll be caught in it. If you want to keep the relationship going, you have to reverse the framework, not that you have to be in control, at least to have a relationship that is more equal, and he has a slightly higher status, which of course is difficult.

The other, of course, is that you propose to break up, because you also have a feeling that he can't give you a sense of security. Both require a lot of determination and courage, and I hope it will help you.

Now these days, it is normal for both men and women to have exes, you can talk to him openly and honestly, if he still can't accept it, forget it, break up decisively, the twisted melon is not sweet, it is estimated that there will always be a thorn in his heart.

1.Since he's seen it all.

I care about all of this. The source is OK.

Choose to be with you, note.

He used to let go of your past.

And love you. 2.Most men will care, unless he doesn't love you and has fun.

So what you have to do now is:

Show a brand new one in front of him.

of your excellent you, to your softness.

Love and love for him faded before.

Some things.

And you don't shy away from before, some of the existence that can't be changed, whom.

There is a past. If he loves you, he shall.

It should be able to let go. I want him to be clear.

Now it is he who owns you, not someone else.

You didn't hide anything from him, your ex-boyfriend he knew, and he should know how to deal with it when he chose to be your boyfriend!

Your choice is him, and your future is him! He is also suffering because he cares about you, giving him confidence and security!

He's setting boundaries for you, and you can't have this kind of scene in the future. Or he's looking for a reason to break up, although you're already with me, but you've been with him before, and you've shown me. Or maybe he doesn't want to be with you for a long time, he just thinks that no one under the crotch will use it first, and he will talk about it later.

Divide it, a man doesn't pay attention to your present and future, and holds on to the past, then he can't see how much he likes you, he only cares about himself.

Your current heart is too small. He knows that you have had an ex, so he should be mentally prepared for intimacy between you and your ex. If.

If he really minded this, he shouldn't have chosen to be with you in the first place, and it would be too hypocritical to say this after being together. Once or twice, it can be said that he is jealous, and too many times it is a character problem.

If he really loves you, he shouldn't mind your past too much, and should focus on your future. After all, no matter how painful it is, he can't change your past.

It's good if you treat him sincerely and have the heart to do it, and he can understand it. He just can't accept your past for the time being, he may really like you, but he may not be able to get over the hurdle in his heart! If you can't bear him, you can only digest it slowly.

If he loves you, he cares about your future with him, and he has doubts about your self-love and self-control. You should care about him practically, and make the joy of life in the subtle and simple aspects of daily life. If you don't love you, you will have a lot of suspicions, and there will be a gap in the future.

You still need to break up, a man like him will never forgive you for the rest of his life, even if he forgives on the surface, he also resists in his heart, why wait until he gets married, and he will suffer for a lifetime.

You should enlighten him that it's all in the past, who doesn't have a past, if he is old, these past events say that I don't feel the need to go down, he's a villain, who hasn't had a past.

If he always says that, then he doesn't really love you! You have to have a mental number of yourself.

If you really love you, you won't care about this, it's too hypocritical for him, who doesn't have an ex, hasn't he ever had an ex-girlfriend? Haven't you ever been intimate with another woman? Just because you have an ex, he has seen intimate behavior and he is in pain, too glassy, there is no need for such people to be together!

Your husband is a little cautious and emotionally clean, because he should know that you are not his first love, and can accept your past, since he loves you, don't care so much, the important thing is that you belong to him now, and it is enough to love him wholeheartedly.

This bai is a psychological problem, and it really needs to be talked about well, du

If you encounter this kind of man who is not very sunny and not very broad-minded, if he does not have the power to solve this psychological problem, it will only become more and more serious, and even affect your future safety, let alone happiness. So don't continue to talk about it for now, calm down with each other first, and see if you can really accept each other.

It's all in the past, if he has this reason to be painful, it is estimated that it is useless for you to enlighten, you have a spiritual cleanliness habit, but you choose you, you should love you very much, and you will accept it slowly, and try to avoid talking about your ex in front of him.

Don't be like that, and the good thing about the present is to forget the past and start over.

If you don't need it, break up directly to avoid trouble in the future.