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A friend of mine once asked me the question, "Why do people have so many troubles in the world?" I smiled and said, "The real troubles are actually brought about by the outside world, as long as you can be the master of your own mind, then everything will not be troubled anymore." ”
In the past, our society was backward and trapped in food and clothing and troubled, this is the problem of all mankind, we have no way to solve it, but now we are not troubled by material theory, and we are not embarrassed by spiritual life, and why do we have so many troubles!
Troubles actually come from our own psychology, I heard my father say that his wish when he was a child was to be able to eat white **, and now my father's wish has become able to make a family stronger than others, my father has transformed from the material desire at that time to the current spiritual desire, I can't say that my father is not satisfied, I can only say that people have a comparison heart, when the material is satisfied, people begin to want to live in their own lives, but want to jump their own world, to achieve the position of people, At this time, people's thoughts may not be about themselves, but about what they think in the eyes of others!
People are fighting for a breath", maybe people are fighting for this so-called "qi", slowly sprinkling everything they have into the world, just want others to know how strong they are.
Maybe the trouble of life lies in their own psychological positioning, sometimes we feel that there is no trivial matter because we live in the eyes of others, just like two people have a verbal dispute, if there are no bystanders, maybe this is just a debate, but if there are too many bystanders, it is very likely to fight for these small disputes, the reason may be the so-called face of people, that is, if I don't distinguish a winner and loser, how can I raise my head in front of these people!
There are too many things in life that are fought because of some small things, and the reason may be because we care too much about other people's evaluation of ourselves, if we have such a mentality, everything is for others to live, then how can we not have troubles, maybe these troubles can only be solved by ourselves!
Start today, do yourself a favor, no longer bear the eyes outside your body, don't care about the evaluation of others, and live for yourself; From today on, do yourself a favor, do what you like, love the people closest to you, laugh out loud when you want to laugh, cry wantonly when you want to cry, and no longer restrict the emotional space; Starting today, do yourself a favor, unload all your burdens, forget the pain of the past, heal the wounds of the soul, and let yourself live an easy and full life.
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Do you know, no matter how good you are, some people hate you, no matter how real you are, some people doubt you, in this world, the most unpredictable thing is the human heart, and the most difficult thing to block is the human mouth.
Live yourself. Did you know that rats never think that what they eat is yes, flies don't think they're dirty, bats don't think they're poisonous, and swans are guilty in the world of crows.
Ideas are not at the same level, there is no need to conquer each other. You don't believe in Buddhism. But there is no shortage of people in the temple to offer incense.
Life is not easy, individuals have different needs, and their positions are different. Don't practice yourself in the hearts of others, and don't force others in your own hearts.
Instead of pleasing others, please yourself. Be alone in your own world and go with the flow in someone else's world.
Love yourself for the rest of your life, don't care too much about what others say, they have mouths, but they don't necessarily have brains.
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People who like you, no matter how bad your temper is and how straight your temperament is, the other party can accept it calmly; And those who can't get used to you, no matter how good and hard you are, in their eyes, you are still full of shortcomings.
Life is like this, even if you are frank and open, there will be people who will say irresponsible things to you, even if you have a clear conscience, there will be people who point fingers at you, you do a hundred good things, no one praises you, if you do a bad thing, everyone will complain; As long as there are people, there is no doubt about right and wrong, and even if you stand still, some people will say that they saw you running away.
No matter how well you do, there will be people who can't get used to it, and no matter how happy you are, there will always be people who spit sour water at you behind your back; No matter what way you choose or what kind of life you have, there will inevitably be criticism and opinions, and many times, the more you care about other people's opinions, the more others want to see you laugh at them.
In fact, when others talk about you, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough, and it is not necessarily your fault that others slander you. So, no matter what others think of you, you don't have to care too much, those who understand you don't have to explain, and those who don't understand you don't have to explain.
Everyone is just a drop of water in the sea, a grain of sand on the beach, others are not so important, so why care about other people's opinions.
Live here, not elsewhere; In your eyes, not in other people's mouths.
Everyone has their own unique way of living, and everyone has their own wonderful life.
Life is like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowing, don't care too much about other people's eyes, life is just a process of pleasing yourself.
Life is only a few decades, and if you still need to go against your will and live against your will in these decades, wouldn't it be too painful to look at other people's faces.
Don't live in the eyes of others, the most important thing is to be satisfied.
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Zhuangzi Qiushui: Zi is not a fish, how do you know the joy of fish?
The happiness of fish is to play freely in the water, and the happiness of man is to grow naturally in the world.
Life is like a drama, and we all have our own scripts. If a person drinks water, he knows whether he is warm or cold.
Everyone's understanding of life is different, and the standards for evaluating success and perceived happiness are naturally different.
Hearing that Huizi was blind in the Liang Kingdom, Zhuangzi wanted to visit this friend. A good deed said to Keiko:
Zhuangzi must have bad intentions when he came to Liang Guo to take your place. ”
After hearing this, Keiko was very panicked and wanted to stop Zhuangzi, so he sent people to search the capital for three days and three nights.
Unexpectedly, when they met, Zhuangzi's words made him ashamed of himself.
There is a bird in the south, and its name is Orichi. The chicks spread their wings and fly, from the South China Sea to the North Sea, not the sycamore does not live, the practice does not eat, and the spring does not drink.
But isn't it ridiculous that an owl, which eats rotting mice with relish, frantically guards the rotting rat as it flies by, fearing that it will come to grab food? Do you still think that I will come to rob you of the Liang State phase? ”
People don't perceive happiness the same. Someone else's life may look glamorous, but it may not be for you.
If you can't start your life again, why put the shackles of the world around your neck?
Remember: live here, not elsewhere; In your heart, not in the eyes of others.
Don't live in the eyes of others, because there are thousands of forms of beings in the world, but none of them can compare to the appearance of you being true to yourself.
I like this fable.
A Zen master is by the river, watching the fisherman cast his nets. Suddenly, a fish jumped out of the net, and the Zen master excitedly shouted, "Handsome, see through the net with golden scales!" ”
The Zen master was excited because he had waited too long to see a "fish that slipped through the net" who struggled to change his fate and jump out of the world's net.
Zhuangzi said: Alone with the spirit of heaven and earth and not with all things, not condemning right and wrong, in order to deal with the world.
No matter what kind of person you are, there will always be people who are incompatible with you, there will always be people who are at odds with you, and there will always be bad people and bad things that make you irritable.
Life is a lonely journey, no matter how many troubles there are along the way, in the end, we have to withdraw and count the years alone.
Be true to your life and believe in your creed. Dream and move forward!
If it's really just living in pain, then the meaning of life is much less ......However, perhaps, when you look back, you will find your little happiness! Come on! Hehe......
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