Am I too incomprehensible to do this?

The most important thing between lovers is mutual understanding, trust and support.

Sometimes a lot of things are the size of sesame seeds, but some doubts and misunderstandings can make things bigger.

What do men struggle for outside, isn't it just for the sake of a successful career and a better life for their families and wives?

You are not by his side, he can only face many things alone, a lot of pressure can not be told to you, he is afraid that you will worry about him.

Therefore, he hopes that you can support him, affirm his achievements, and believe that he is the best motivation for him.

Of course, this can't be said to be your fault, but now you should share some of the pressure and burden with him.

You should trust your boyfriend.

Everything he does out there is for you and deserves your full trust and support.

He doesn't give any explanation": the facts don't need to be explained.

If you doubt him, then its explanation will only increase your suspicion of him.

If you love him, believe in him.

Pay more attention to him.

Maybe he's busy, or maybe he's upset?

In short, two people should communicate more when they are together!

It's not that he doesn't contact you.

It's just that you and he are one in the east.

One in the West he has words.

I can't say it in **.

Trust him. Believe in yourself too.

I don't know, it's similar to me, depressed.

That alone doesn't mean anything.

Introduction: It is inevitable in love life, and there will definitely be some small frictions. If these small frictions are not handled properly, it will also have a certain impact on the relationship.

What should I do if I can't understand some of the other party's behaviors? Or that he has no way to understand how to solve such a thing about his behavior.

You must know that everyone is an independent individual, no one's way of doing things is always the same as others, to understand your boyfriend, this method is what he has always been used to, and it is impossible to say that it can be changed suddenly because of falling in love. If you really don't like his way of doing things or don't understand it, then you can consider communicating with your boyfriend first to see why he does it, or if there is a way to change it. The premise is that the two of you communicate well and don't quarrel.

Sometimes the other party feels that there is no problem with his behavior, but when he sees such a method appearing in others, he will also feel a little uncomfortable. If he can understand and accept it, then we need to restrain our behavior. After all, everyone is different, and you can't always force others to be like you.

Of course, if after communication and empathy, the other party still has no way to adjust, or change their behavior, and for this kind of life, you feel very sad, if this is the case, then it is recommended to calm down for a period of time, and then decide whether to continue to be together. Otherwise, if it's very uncomfortable to live together all the time, I think it's better to separate. You must know that no one in this world can live without anyone, so think about it after calming down.

I will tell the other person directly what to do, and I will also tell the other person what I am unhappy about, and I will make the other person have a good improvement.

I will respect my boyfriend's way of doing things, because everyone's way of doing things is different, so if he is different from others, I will also respect him.

I would communicate directly with him and tell him that I couldn't understand how he did things and that he should explain why he did what he did. Then we discussed whether we could change the way we did things.

If you feel that your boyfriend always doesn't understand you, then it is possible that the other party just doesn't understand you very well, and it may be that there is a communication problem between the two of you, and you don't go well to explain your situation, so that the other party has a misunderstanding.

It may be that your three views are different, your ideas about things are different, and the way you deal with problems is different, so he can't understand you. In this way, you can only communicate more, even if you know that there are inconsistencies, you still choose to tolerate everything, and then you can continue to walk.

It's possible to feel that he doesn't understand you, but it's important that he tolerates you.

Your boyfriend knows that you are angry and doesn't coax you to reason because:

1. He knows that you are angry, but he thinks the most reasonable way is to be reasonable.

This is the inertia of thinking that is commonly used in our land.

I used to be, and it was serious, it took many years for me to have an epiphany.

I suffered a lot of losses and studied a lot of psychology courses.

Your boyfriend is like this, it's really annoying, everyone is so angry, and he doesn't coax people, he's really a straight man, it's unbearable, it's so annoying.

If he really loves you and is just used to reasoning, it's okay to tell him and then guide him and teach him how to do it.

Because most of his original family, his parents usually use reason to deal with problems.

and his life experience, all of which he encountered that could be solved with reason, or he didn't find anything wrong with this.

But that doesn't prove that this is all right, it's very different.

Because you don't have any other detailed description, I don't know if you are students, or if you have been working, how long you have been working, what occupation, your family situation with him, basic personal experience, or not much experience, etc., I don't know, so I can only say as much as I can.

Because between couples, the first thing to communicate is emotions and emotions, which is obviously that he can't pay attention to your emotions, which must be infuriating.

But now that you know, he can't know your emotions and ask him, so he still can't realize it, so I repeat that if you love him and want the relationship to go on better, tell him in as clear language or words as possible.

For example, I am angry now, because of what I am angry about, what do I need him to do, is to come and comfort me, if he can't comfort, what can I do, if not, I can push my land to him, let him see.

If he loves you too, he will do it.

If you are not willing to change, this is not called change, it is called growth, and if he is not willing to grow, he just doesn't love you.

2. It's just that you think that he knows that you are angry, but in fact he does not know that you are angry.

This seems to be a bit winding, because it is like this, your way of expression, such as the error of the state of the bulging, the difference in life experience between you and him, the level of his receptivity, and so on, will produce errors in the transmission and acceptance of information between you. That's why communication, intimacy needs to be communicated. No matter how happy "Family with Children" is, there are many such conflicts.

3. He knows that you are angry and knows that he can care about your emotions, but he still deliberately reasoned with you.

This is deliberately foolishness, even if you want to be reasonable, you have to calm your emotions first, and then have the opportunity to be reasonable. It's not called reasoning, it's about communicating with you. Once again, I emphasize the importance of communication, as the name suggests, let's take a look at what is said in the text

Communication": Communication, there is a chasm, only need to be dredged. The ditch, on the left is water, which means that you need to pay "three waters":

saliva, sweat, and even tears to "communicate"; The right side is still "hook", the heart knot is still there, and the knot is unsolved.

When dealing with situations where your boyfriend doesn't understand, here are some strategies we can adopt to improve communication and understanding.

The first thing to do is to maintain positive communication. Communication is the foundation of problem solving, and you can try to communicate your feelings and thoughts openly with your boyfriend. Let him understand your needs and expectations, but also listen to his views and ideas.

Through active dialogue, both parties have the opportunity to understand each other better.

Secondly, you should try to empathize with yourself and make an early test. Imagine yourself in his position and understand the reasons for his point of view and reaction. Sometimes, your boyfriend may simply have trouble understanding your thoughts because of a lack of understanding or a different set of values.

Through empathy, we can increase our empathy and understanding with each other.

Third, find common ground and room for compromise. Look for common ground that is acceptable to both parties, and where compromise can be made. In this way, a balanced and harmonious relationship can be established and conflicts can be avoided due to different understandings.

It is important to respect each other's opinions and choices, and to support and respect each other.

Also, consider seeking outside help. If communication and understanding issues persist, consider finding a neutral third party, such as a counsellor or relationship specialist, to help you resolve the issue and provide more in-depth guidance.

Finally, be patient and timely. Improving communication and understanding is a process that takes time and patience to nurture and develop. Don't rush things, but work together with your boyfriend to gradually build an understanding and supportive relationship.

Dear boyfriend, I hope you have a good smile over the orange. Recently, I have something I would like to discuss with you, and I hope you can understand and support me.

The other day, I noticed that you lent some of my things to relatives. I know you have good intentions, but these things have some special meaning to me, and I hope to get them back soon. I hope you can help me with this issue of trembling.

First of all, I would like to emphasize that I am very grateful for your care and support for me. During our time together, you have been a very caring and caring person. I know you lent these things to your relatives out of kindness, but for me there is something special about them, so I hope to be able to get them back as soon as possible.

Secondly, I hope you can understand my feelings. These things are not only material values for me, but more importantly, they represent a special memory or emotion. I'm sure you'll also understand that there are some things that can't be measured in money.

So, I hope you can understand my feelings and help me get these things back as soon as possible.

Next, I would like to offer some suggestions that I hope will help us solve this problem. First of all, we can communicate directly with our relatives, explain the situation and ask them to return the things. I'm sure they will understand our feelings and will be willing to give it back to us.

If direct communication is not convenient, we can also consider finding a suitable time to visit them in person to express our wishes.

In the end, I hope that we can approach this issue with a positive attitude. We are a team, and we should work together to solve any difficulties and challenges. I believe that as long as we understand and support each other, this issue will be properly resolved.

Thank you for your understanding and support. I know you are a very mature and empathetic person, and I am sure you will be able to help me deal with this. If you have any ideas or suggestions, please feel free to let me know.

I look forward to working with you to solve this problem and continue our wonderful life.