What are some common unspoken lies?

Generally speaking, an unspoken lie is also a white lie. Because I can't bear to hurt you directly, I will tell you a small lie, as long as you are not too dull people, everyone can understand. The purpose of this is, firstly, not to hurt you, and secondly, not to make the scene too embarrassing.

For example, when a person wants to reject another person's confession, he usually says: Actually, you are very good, but I am not worthy of you. It's a white lie and a euphemistic rejection.

The subtext is that I don't like you, we're not fit together. Generally speaking, a person who knows how to observe words and emotions should go down this step, and should not go to the end. Breaking the casserole and asking to the end will only make each other more embarrassed.

For example, when borrowing money. Many times, talking about money hurts feelings, and the thing that often destroys the relationship between friends is to borrow money. Because the other party is not sure whether you will be able to pay it back by then, most people will refuse to borrow money from you.

But if it is a direct refusal, it seems too impersonal and unsentimental. So usually he'll say I've been strapped for money lately and don't have any money to lend you. Or maybe it's an excuse to need money for something lately.

In fact, this is a tacit lie. The real reason is that the other party is not willing to lend you even if they have money. So usually when a friend says this, you will understand that the other party is not willing to lend you money.

Another example is when you're chatting with your girlfriend or boyfriend. If the other party is used to sleeping at that point, and then suddenly one day he tells you that he wants to sleep very early and stops talking. Then he wants to do something else now and doesn't want to continue talking to you.

This is also a tacit lie. Generally speaking, we need to learn to read words and looks.

When I saw this topic, the first thing that came to my mind was: "Sleep, good night." ”

I don't know if you have ever experienced this situation, on WeChat, chatting with others, it is not too late, but at 11 o'clock in the evening, the other party said early: "He's going to sleep, good night." "In my eyes, this is a lie, because in most cases, 11 o'clock at night is the beginning of the nightlife, the prelude to the nightlife, just begun, how could you expect that the show just starts, but you are already ready to curtain call, and then leave.

As long as you are a person with a normal IQ, you know that there is a great possibility that this is a lie. It is a signal that the other party is tired of this conversation and wants to end this kind of scene, in order to maintain a smile that is not polite, in order to decently and simply, not hurt the other person's feelings, so he adopts the strategy of "telling a lie".

In fact, the other party will also know that the thoughts of the person who says goodnight come and go are nothing more than those kinds, and combined with the time point, everyone knows each other, and they will also follow each other's "good night" steps, quietly accept this lie, and then end the conversation, turn around and talk to others hotly.

The second thought was: "It's just luck." ”

In the past, one of us was admitted to Tsinghua University. When others congratulated him, he smiled and said, "It's just luck."

Is it really just luck? In the eyes of others, he is always playing. But when no one was looking, he was reading diligently, and the lights would not go out until late at night.

Is it just luck for such a person? Everyone knows that behind all the glamorous and glamorous will be a lot of bitter blood and tears. So, his modest lies, everyone knows, just don't debunk.