How parents can resolve rebellion in their children s hearts

Try not to conflict with your child, let him be willful in some small things, you will still help him, and after a while, he will be grateful to you, and he will not be so rebellious.

When the child is in a good mood, you can have a long talk with the child, enter the child's heart, and let the child understand the hard work of his parents, so that the child's rebellious psychology will be weakened.

I think that if parents want to resolve the rebellion in their children's hearts, they must pay attention to the communication problem with their children. Shape a child with the right values.

Doing homework every day, too much homework, too strict requirements, too much pressure, irritability. When you enter adolescence, the most important thing is psychological troubles and confusion. Adolescent children already have a certain understanding of the world and are likely to be irritable due to environmental and personal factors.

Adolescent children often have a lot of aspirations, but not being able to do their best in learning or other aspects can affect their mood.

When encountering such a situation, you should always hint at yourself, just like a method of adjusting emotions in the political book of the first year of junior high school - brother tells autosuggestion, you should try to be able to deal with the problem calmly, and look at the problem lightly and envy it.

During adolescence, the interpersonal aspect is also a concern. Adolescent children are still in a relatively ignorant period, so sometimes they may not care much about whether the words are spoken appropriately, and they may lose friends because of this. Adolescents spend most of their time studying and living with their classmates, so it's important to have a close friend who can talk and listen to each other, and most of the time, friends can help you a lot.

It is important for parents to communicate with their children during this period, and to do so:

1. The "rebellious period" is the performance of the child's growth and learning, and parents must not use the mentality of "boiling", and the passive waiting time will pass naturally, but should actively participate in helping and guiding the child, so that the child can learn more and grow faster at this stage.

2. Children don't know what is right or wrong, they will try, parents should help children establish the concept of "me", "my" things "I" have the right to decide, "my" things "I" do by myself; "I" have the right to make a request, but it may not be possible. Clarify the code of conduct in life, and the norms must be followed, regardless of conditions. Unconditionally accept your child's negative emotions, help your child recognize various emotions such as sadness, happiness, jealousy, and fear, and express it in the right way.

Create a stable living environment for your child; Understand the child, respect the child's wishes and ideas, and encourage the child to act according to his own ideas and communicate with the child on an equal footing.

3. Understand the reasons and motivations of children's rebellious behavior, in order to understand the needs of children, parents can not fake others, only pay attention to observation, learn more about children's education, and communicate more with children. Parents should fully understand the child's requirements for trying to sing the eggplant on his own and perform independently, and try to create as many conditions as possible so that the child's requirements can be appropriately or fully satisfied.

4. The problem of principle is not accommodating, and the children in the rebellious period constantly challenge the rules on the one hand, and constantly pursue the rules on the other hand. Parents should be cautious and scientific when making rules, and once the rules are made, they must be followed. To grasp the big and let go of the small, we must have a key point.

In addition to the resolute non-compliance with life-threatening and health-threatening measures, children are encouraged to try, most of the time relaxed, and if they are strict, they will not be strict.

5. The child's negative emotions are treated calmly and patiently, and when the child is emotional, do not reason with the child. Listen quietly to your child's crying for a while to calm your child. Help your child figure out why he is crying, what kind of emotion it is, sadness or anger.

Show empathy and understanding to your child, and when your child calms down, come up with new ways to divert attention.

6. In any case, parents should not beat and scold their children, and countering violence with violence will only be counterproductive. You can't threaten your child verbally, don't always compare your child with others, "Look at it, the sister next door will be xx, why can't you be".