How do you deal with your enemies? Why are enemies often friends?

I also have such an experience, I don't know if I can help you, what about me, because I am a classmate, I see her every day, I pass by every time I see her, and I actively get higher marks than him in schoolwork, and I have to beat him in everything! Every time he wins, the smile of victory、I won't deliberately do it to him, because he can feel naïve.。。 Besides, he used to be a friend, why did a friend become an enemy?

It may be a personality mismatch. It seems to be a good fit for the first time, but Jiuhe found that he was different from him in many ways. Likes things are different.

He will scold you for what you like, and you don't like his stuff either. If this goes on for a long time, sooner or later they will quarrel and become enemies. But if you join for a long time, you must divide for a long time, and this sentence has always been reborn in me.

I had a big quarrel with my friend.,But after a long time, it's automatically better again.。。 But after a long time, they quarreled again. Now, I'm just keeping the right distance.

Look at the point, hate a person is very hard, it's better to put it down. There may be something new coming out, not necessarily

Because the closer you are to yourself, the more you can highlight the contradictions between each other's fingers, when that action violates your own interests, you become an enemy, and if you offend a lot of interests, you will become an enemy who meets each other.

In the face of enemies, you don't necessarily have to retaliate, don't get too close to them, don't have too much contact, and don't conspire with each other in different ways. With distance, there will be no contradictions, and after a long time, you will be able to see it.

If it were an unrelated person, would you list him as your enemy? No! Because he has nothing to do with you, his good or bad has nothing to do with you, you will feel that he is your enemy to prove that you care about him, you care about a person, his every move you will care about, and his small actions may hurt you....

Because often a friend is the one who knows you best, he knows your weaknesses, he knows your little secrets, so he is easy to betray you. It's actually normal to encounter this kind of thing, and almost everyone will encounter this kind of thing. So, relax ( Lala la suggests you do this:

Ask about this matter and make a decision after determining the truth of the matter? Don't let yourself regret it. I can't come back....

Summary. The most ruthless trick to punish the enemy: teach me a way to revenge the revenge It's easy to take revenge on him, think about it first, what he wants you to react most when he takes revenge on you.

He wants to make you angry, he wants to ruin your good image in the eyes of others, he wants to laugh and see you angry. After thinking about these things clearly, it's easy to solve, **can't be angry, have you ever heard of such a definition of anger: punish yourself with other people's mistakes.

When he is against you, we just don't get angry, even if we are angry, we can't let him see it, we just want to be angry with him, so that he will be very angry that he is useless, he can't be angry with you, we have to let him retreat, and gradually he will give up the idea of going against you. Also, think about it, he is against you in front of others, and his words are excessive, and what damages him is only his image, his pickiness, and his unreasonableness, which others see in their eyes, but they just don't say it. Remember, at all times, every move in front of others should give yourself extra points, not damage your own image.

In fact, when he speaks ill of each other, you can pretend not to be angry and jokingly say to him: "Thank you for the advice, keep it in mind." "This will not deduct points for your image, but will give it to you.

The most ruthless trick to rectify the enemy: Teach me the first way to revenge the revenge It's easy to take revenge on him, think about it first, what kind of reaction he wants you to most when he takes revenge on you. He wants to make you angry, he wants to ruin your good image in the minds of others, he wants to laugh and see you angry.

After thinking about these things clearly, it's easy to solve, **can't be angry, have you ever heard of a definition of this destruction of anger: punish yourself with other people's mistakes. When he is against you, we just don't get angry, even if we are angry, we can't let him see it, we just want to be angry with him, so that he will be very angry that he is useless, he can't be angry with you, we have to let him retreat, and gradually he will give up the idea of going against you.

Also, think about it, he is against you in front of others, and his words are excessive, and what damages him is only his image, his pickiness, and his unreasonableness, which others see in their eyes, but they just don't say it. Remember, at all times, every move in front of others should give yourself extra points, not damage your own image. In fact, when he speaks ill of each other, you can pretend not to be angry and jokingly say a word to him

Thank you for the advice, take it to heart. "This will not deduct points for your image, but will give it to you.

Give somebody a taste of his own medicine.

Do unto others as you would do unto you.

Summary. 2。The best way to deal with your enemies is to make yourself better, better, and envious.

1。It's easy to want to take revenge on him, think about it first, what he wants you to do most when he retaliates against you. He wants to make you angry, he wants to ruin your good fortune in the eyes of others, he wants to laugh and see you angry. After thinking about these things clearly, it is easy to solve.

2。The best way to deal with your enemies is to make yourself better, better, and envious.

She didn't take revenge on me, she did something that hurt me all my life.

3 There are two basic ways to deal with one's enemies: one is revenge and the other is resolution, but here I would like to warn you that you are neither extreme and scattered revenge, nor simple revenge, but an enemy who loves you. said:

Roll out your enemies who love you, and bless them.

What's the matter?

You want to be forgiving and forgiving.

Some people may choose to forgive so that past hurts no longer drag their lives forward;And some people may choose to fight back, wanting the other person to get the punishment or revenge they deserve. Still others may choose to forget, let go of the past, and move on with their lives.

Either way, you need to consider your own feelings and the safety of others. If you choose to forgive, you need to make sure that you don't get hurt again, and you need to have enough time and psychology to restore and rebuild trustIf you choose to fight back, you need to consider whether your actions are legal and whether they will cause the other party to fight backIf you choose to forget, you need to make sure that you are relieved of the old things and that they do not affect your emotions and behaviors.

Ultimately, the choice of forgiveness or fighting back, or letting go of the hatred in the chest, depends on each individual's personality and thoughts.

In real life, we will have friends, and there will be people who are not on good terms with themselves, for busy people who are not in good relationship with themselves, we will stay away from them, and do not want to deal with them, but when they encounter difficulties, will they choose to help, which requires us to analyze the other party's attitude towards themselves in the state of their relationship, as well as the other party's character, and finally make a decision, first, according to the state of the relationship between each other to determine whether to help each other, Although the other party is always aimed at himself in daily life, but the specific relationship status between each other is different, which will have a great impact on himself, his impression and attitude towards him, specifically, if the relationship between two people you maintain normal communication, his target is only in a different point of view, then he can help when he encounters difficulties, and if two people can not interact normally at all, then they will definitely not help him, and secondly, according to the other party's attitude towards themselves, decide whether to help each other, If he has a more rational attitude towards himself, and the most interacting between two people is in a frank state, then he can help each other, and if the other party is in a private grudge against himself, then he will definitely not help her today, third, according to the character of the other party to finally determine whether he will help him, the most important thing for us to look at a person is the character of the other party, if the other party's character is good, So even if you can't be friends with him ( °3° ) or even be targeted, you will give him a high evaluation and help him when he encounters difficulties, but if the other party has a bad character and low quality, and the character is poor, he will not help when he sees the other party in trouble at this time!

Pay attention to legal discipline.

Between people, look at the positive side, not just some mistakes and shortcomings.

The most dangerous thing on the battlefield is not that you can't find the enemy, but that you don't know that your allies are in **?

So how to eliminate the interference of the people around you, and how to use the people around you to do things?

Be a person in advance, no one will be fine, except for natural disasters and man-made disasters, it is a human business.

Anyone can do things, and they can't learn, but if the people around them have problems, they can't do anything, and they can't do it. No matter what kind of environment you are in, the people around you can be roughly divided into the following two types:

The first is that some people are fine, others don't give a chance, there is no chance to start, many people complain that they don't meet talents, they think they are a thousand miles horse, but unfortunately they don't look at their own Bole, people are still there just can't find a suitable opportunity. Therefore, those who are willing to give you opportunities and give you platforms are all nobles of life.

The second is that there is no one to do something, and there is an opportunity, but the people around you are obstructing it and making trouble. This will lead to things not going smoothly or directly lead to giving up and quitting halfway, so it is especially important to distinguish between friends and enemies around you. We must guard against and avoid those who hinder our work, and when necessary, we must take some necessary measures to suppress them; For those who are conducive to doing things for themselves, they should be wooed by the code and reported to the group for warmth.

I often feel that it is so difficult to do something when I am doing something! It's not difficult to do things, but I'm afraid of being influenced by others, I'm afraid that others won't give me a chance, and someone will make trouble. There's a good saying:

If you are not afraid that someone will harm you, you are afraid of the lack of support and no one to help Chi Shouting Shed. "If you don't take into account the influence of people on things, then the rest is the difficulties faced in doing things. And overcoming difficulties is done by people.

Everything is done by people, there are always people who can do what they can't do, and there are people who can do what you want to do. The key lies in the psychology of each person. If you don't grasp the psychology of the people around you, you can't tell whether the people around you are friends or enemies, and justice is in the hearts of the people.

My point of view: Since he is my friend, it must be that there is something similar in our ideas or opinions, or something that we appreciate, and if he is very close to my enemy, it also shows that there is a point of mutual appreciation or similarity between them. As for me, of course, a friend is still a friend, but he can't be a close friend, because since he knows about the affairs between me and the enemy, and he is still close to the enemy, it is difficult to guarantee that there is nothing about me that will not be passed on to the enemy, and when the enemy talks about me, he will not necessarily speak for me.

As mentioned above, they often play better in front of you, if it is really a good friend, you should also think about it, it should be to ease your relationship and avoid the two of you getting awkward, instead of frequent contact.

My suggestion is to just make a shallow relationship, and as for close friends, it is better to be able to understand each other.

can be regarded as the most ordinary friend in the world, and we can't be a very good friend, we can't interfere with his friends, we can only break off this stuffy relationship from our side.

Tell him directly, let him know that this person has a bad relationship with you, and avoid embarrassing things in the future. Don't worry about the rest of the laughter, after all, it is someone else's freedom to make friends. It is recommended not to take the initiative to slander first, I personally feel that slandering others is also belittling yourself, no matter who the other party is?