I want others to be good to me, but I m afraid of being too good, why is this happening?

Personally, I think this is a normal phenomenon, because if others are too good to themselves, they are afraid that others will ask for them, and they are afraid that they will not be able to bear it.

I think this is a phenomenon of general insecurity in this person, because he lacks love and love in his life, but he is afraid that this love will disappear, so he is entangled.

Because the other party is too good to themselves, there will be a lot of pressure. Therefore, to be good to others, you must grasp the degree of goodness.

Why wish others well? Why wish to be good to people who are not good to you?

Hello, I hope others are good, because every filial piety has their own health, happiness and happiness, and they also hope that they can be friendly with everyone. As for those who treat you badly, there are reasons why you want them to be happy too. First of all, this is a positive and healthy state of mind, which allows you to put aside the bad emotions of the past, no longer hold grudges, release your life space, and also allow yourself to gain psychological comfort when you are cautious.

Since my husband and I got married, my parents-in-law have always been very kind to me, and I am very happy to meet such a good father-in-law. I am relatively thin, I belong to the physique of not eating fat, every time I eat, my mother-in-law will ask me to eat more, let me eat this and that, and constantly add chicken thighs and meat to me. But I really wanted to refuse her, on the one hand, because I couldn't eat too much, and I also ate, and I was full after not eating much; On the other hand, I feel that my mother-in-law is too good to me, and I feel that there will be a lot of pressure, invisible pressure.

When I was a child, my mother always gave me the best, and my parents' hard work was to make my school a little easier in the future. I don't have to take care of the housework, I don't have to take care of my parents' business, I just need to study hard. I know that my parents love me, but my parents also have expectations for me, hoping that I will study hard and find a good job after graduation, so that I can repay them well.

But I was always afraid that I would not be able to meet their requirements after graduation, and I would disappoint them, and I would feel that I was not worthy of their good treatment for me.

My mother-in-law is good to me, I know that they want to be good to me from the bottom of their hearts, but I can't help but think that they want me to take care of my body and then have children, I also know that this kind of thinking is wrong, but I just can't control it. I'll lose my temper with them, with my husband, like they're forcing me to eat.

I am also aware of this problem, and I will tell myself in the future that my parents-in-law are really good to me, and I deserve to be so good to me, because I will also treat them better. Even if my parents-in-law are more verbose and tell me to eat more, I should listen patiently and tell them what I think, so as not to make the people who love me sad.

What is the most complicated thing in the world, in fact, everything is very complicated, but some things seem complicated, but when you peel back the cocoon, you find that the principle is so simple...

Some things seem simple and harmless, but when you go deeper and deeper, you find that you are at a loss for complexities, such as people's hearts.

In people's hearts, some friends always say that they hope that you will do well in the exam, do well, marry well, and be happy.

But I slowly found out that he wants you to live well, but just don't be better than him, just don't be better.

When we are no longer simple, when our hearts begin to be complicated, when we also have our own careful thoughts, and slowly approach the human nature that we are not used to.

For example, your best friend is better married than you, for example, the same village is better than you.

For example, a colleague is promoted faster than you.

For example, the children she gave birth to are even better.

In fact, sometimes it is not our selfishness from the bottom of our hearts, but society that forces you to become less and less like yourself.

If your best friend marries better than you.

If you are still struggling and do not have more ability to give your parents a better life, your parents are actually impatient sometimes, waiting for the results you give, but directly see your best friend's life, and give you a comparison that is not as good as her, some comparisons are made by the fermentation of others, and they are still the people you care about the most.

If the same village does well.

The most heard sentence is, you see which university so-and-so was admitted to, you are really inferior to him, which invisibly made me make a secret comparison between you and the same village in my heart, breaking the balance.

If a colleague does a good job, he may indeed be more capable, maybe you will admire his ability, think he is very powerful, if the superior always says, you see who does things more effectively, so that our originally very calm heart becomes sour and evolves into jealousy.

Sometimes it's not that we want to compare, but that this society invisibly gives us too many comparisons, making us little by little show that we don't like people.

Jealousy is actually human nature, broken down, in fact, it can be understood, what we do is to avoid such embarrassment, the loss of friends we don't actually need to lose.

Mainly because, you don't want others to interfere in your affairs.

Because we all have our own will, we have our own consciousness space, and we belong to the consciousness of the individual.

Therefore, in some matters, I don't want others, even the closest people, to care too much or interfere too much.

The kindness of others is often not what the individual needs, and even unacceptably annoying.

Thus, subconsciously rejecting this kindness of care or love.