Why do I often want to run away from love?

It's good to cool down for a few days. But your feelings make me feel as if you don't love him very much, and it always seems like he's taking the initiative. There is no sorry in love, and if you don't love, you don't love.

Isn't loving someone always like to be with him? How can there be no topic? Even if you don't speak, you have a happy mood, just see him and be with him.

Love is not curiosity, not freshness, not loneliness, and even less impulsiveness, but a faint and warm atmosphere. As long as you are together, or quarrel, or it should be so warm. I think love is like this, there is no boredom and boredom.

After reading your supplement, sure enough, there is no true love between you at all! Of course, it is not ruled out that maybe you will fall in love in the future! His attitude towards you is a step-by-step posture, and you better calm down for a while.

And not just a few days. Maybe after time, you will find that he has shifted his target. I'm just guessing, I don't mean to insult your friend, please don't get me wrong!

In short, don't promise the other party anything in a fool's way. Love makes you happy!

I can understand your current mood, and a short shutdown is a good choice, because only when you are calm can you think about whether he is the person you want to love the most.

From your description, I feel that this boy seems mature but a little childish, which is why you are hesitant to choose him. It's not the kind of thing that makes people feel like they want to rely on. And after you have been in love, you have a deeper understanding of the concept of love.

Maybe your ex-boyfriend bears a slight resemblance to him that makes you reluctant to choose him. I feel like you still want to find a calm boyfriend, and your personality is more suitable for that.

Believe in yourself and believe in him.

Now that you see his heart, why don't you say yes?

If you hesitate, your fear and doubt may become true, and no one has a certain reason to wait for someone they don't love for a lifetime. It's not fair to him.

Not only do men have to be ruthless with themselves, but they can only find happiness by breaking through themselves, although it is difficult.

A short shutdown is a good option, and you can make a decision in a few days!

Some people will run away from romance, which is a kind of avoidant personality. I think for this type of personality state, contradiction is the biggest problem, I think I can't, I can but I don't dare, always take a withdrawn way to deal with the problems between myself and my partner is the biggest characteristic. Therefore, the avoidant personality usually encounters several problems in love:

1. Longing for true love, but when true love comes, it will fall into a state of contradictory anxiety; The inability to form a relationship of mutual trust with oneself and the other party eventually leads to oneself choosing to escape from endless doubts and contradictions, that is, breaking up.

2. In terms of dealing with relationships, an inferiority complex may prevent them from giving according to their true wishes, so they may selectively package themselves as an indifferent person, which also leads to the inability of the other party to be emotionally satisfied and eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.

3. In dealing with contradictions, a strong defensive psychology may make them choose to protect themselves first in the face of contradictions; This makes them look so strong, but in reality, they are very anxious about themselves and their relationships, afraid of losing but even more afraid of being hurt. Therefore, once a conflict occurs, it may be difficult to get a good communication relationship from it, and the Cold War and strong antagonistic relations will become the norm for conflict resolution.

Therefore, people with an avoidant personality will always have many personality problems, and the root cause of the problems may lie in the problems in the family of origin, even if they can realize their own problems, it is difficult to get a fundamental solution in a short period of time. Therefore, falling in love with someone with an avoidant personality is indeed a very challenging thing, preaching cannot solve it, only patience and reasonable guidance may make this type of personality make some progress.

If it is in love, if there is any contradiction between the two, they will choose to escape, so that the other party can't stand it, such a character is difficult to last in love, and it is difficult to go down and have results, so you still need to change it, increase your self-confidence, and make the relationship go smoothly to the end.

Some people may choose to avoid when others confess themselves, they may not be sure whether they like the other person or not, and at this time, they may not notice that they actually like the other person.

It is because many people have a psychology that likes to escape, and they are particularly insecure in their relationship and unwilling to face the facts, so they will escape.

This is because in a relationship, there are also many problems, and when in a relationship, it will also be affected by the outside world, and people can't solve this problem, so they want to escape.

Because these people are unwilling to face reality, and they are also afraid that reality is something they can't accept, so they choose to run away.

It may be that they have been hurt emotionally, or they may have been exposed to some particularly bad things, so they will run away, because these people are really afraid.

It is because these people are really afraid of feelings, or they may be afraid of the hurt caused by feelings, so they choose to escape in their feelings.

Because I faced some post-relationship pressures, such as: financial pressure, self-confidence was tested, and so on.

And the love logic of most girls is like this:

Get to know a guy, then go on a date to observe, and then take various quizzes in the middle, until the guy passes the test, the boy will be recognized. Once identified, they will be firm, and they will keep running in with each other in various ways, trying to change the other party, change to their favorite appearance, and put forward various requirements. Of course, she will also treat boys according to her own standards, and give all kinds of things, in anticipation of this mode of getting along until she gets married.

Brief introduction to love:

Love has different definitions in different eras. The modern definition is the most intense, stable and dedicated feelings that two people can form in their hearts on the basis of certain material conditions and common life ideals, produce and live together, and desire each other to become their lifelong partners.

When you're in a relationship, chemicals in your brain are swirling called monoamines, including: dopamine, phenylethylamine, serotonin (serotonin), and norepinephrine.

In the ancient matriarchal society and the ancient patrilineal society, love had another experience, not simply monogamy, with the development of society, love is also developing in the direction of civilization.

As we grow older, we all start to get tired of trying to get to the bottom of things, and we also hate all kinds of troublesome things, which leads to a real desire to escape when something goes wrong.

After marriage, when we recall our previous memories, we will feel that God has applied for it, and in the past, both parties would always solve problems when they appeared, but now when there are problems, everyone chooses to remain silent or even escape; Is it because we don't love each other? No, sometimes it's life that makes us afraid to touch all kinds of troublesome things, and it's better to let things go with the wind.

First, there will always be troublesome things at work, which leads us to be reluctant to go home and because of emotional problems and all kinds of entanglement in love when studying, when there are emotional problems, both parties will actively find the problem, and to alleviate the emergence of contradictions, but after marriage is completely different.

After we have problems in our relationship after marriage, almost none of us are willing to actively look for problems, either choosing the cold war or pretending that there is nothing wrong; We are busy with work, in fact, we all have all kinds of troubles, in other words, after you encounter a lot of problems at work, what will you do when you go home and encounter emotional problems? Keep discussing with your wife who is wrong? No, in fact, many times I choose to be silent and not speak, and I don't want to find out who is right or wrong, after all, I am really tired.

Second, because they are familiar with each other, they will choose to spend their time in silence in the face of emotional problems, rather than arguing that some couples will choose to escape when they encounter problems, because they are too familiar with each other's personalities, and escape may be the best.

Some things are easy to cause harm when solving some emotional problems, and many people will avoid some small problems, and forget about it. I still remember that my husband and I once had emotional problems because of the child's medical treatment, but in this case, both parties still chose to avoid ignoring it, and my husband "acquiesced" to my approach without opposing or supporting; I used to think that I had won, but later I realized that my husband was deliberately avoiding it, after all, he understood that I was angry and excited.

Fear of trouble, or it may be to protect the feelings of both parties, causing many people to choose to escape or remain silent after relationship problems.

Because I have been hurt too much in a relationship, I feel that every time I fall in love, I will be exhausted, so now I want to escape and don't want to solve the problem.

Because I have experienced a lot and my heart is tired, I don't want to solve it, and if I want to escape, I have lost confidence in this love, and I feel that there will be no good result if I solve it.

Because the idea and goal of people's pursuit of love are completely different now, and people's pursuit of love is also completely different, so they will choose to escape when they encounter problems, and will not choose how to solve them.

First, it may be that I am tired of it, because there was love before, so I am willing to solve it for love. Second, it may be that they don't love each other enough and don't want to spend time and energy to solve the problem.

Because today's young people are pampered and raised, they have not developed the habit of dealing with problems, and will always choose to escape, thinking that if they escape, someone will help them solve it.

Because my emotions are all worn out now, I always don't want to face all kinds of problems.