Am I doing it selfishly? What is the difference between being yourself and being selfish?

I can't say a bad word, it's very sensitive" You know, since ancient times, a mouth kills people, diseases come from the mouth, and trouble comes out of the mouth! I don't think you should mess with her, she is a person who loves to take credit, she can do what she likes, that's her business, just do her own thing. If you don't speak, you won't speak, and if you don't speak, you won't die!

If you say the wrong thing, you are going to quarrel ! Say what you should say, don't say what you shouldn't say! Don't say that other people's things are bad, you can say more good things, and don't say bad things!

This is the way to get along! I also live with my in-laws, and I don't usually talk to them much, let alone say bad things! If the food is delicious, say that it is really delicious, and if it is not delicious, eat it with a boring head.

When I saw that my mother-in-law was sick, I bought her rheumatic plaster. Communication is not in words, but in action. The elderly are not in good health, help clean up, they will be very happy to see it!

Wash your own clothes. It's okay to be industrious! If you understand the sage that the old man is a treasure, you will know that if you are filial to your in-laws, your career and life will be very good in the future!

If you don't do your filial piety, your luck will deteriorate! Everything is a tolerant heart, you are good to others, and others are good to you! Be from the heart!

It's a difficult question, I can't promise him, I can directly tell him that you can buy your house by yourself, and you don't have to pay for it, old man, your husband is raised with his eldest brother, after all, you are obliged, you can't be unfilial, you are selfish, you are a very good woman, for your happiness, you are doing the right thing.

10 tens of thousands of people in a first-tier city to feed an old man for decades is not enough, when she is old, you must not go to work to take care of her, or hire a nanny.

Don't agree, his eldest brother is really bad, he is the boss, and now he should help his younger brother if he has money, how can there be any conditions.

Of course, I'm not saying that I don't take care of the elders, but you have to know that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies.

His eldest brother can say this kind of thing, so why don't you refuse!

Our rule is that the elderly are supported by the boss.

Obviously, it's just showing some money, and the old man doesn't care anymore, so you can discuss with her to pay thousands of dollars a month for the pension, and it's best to get a legally valid certificate. Otherwise, when your mother-in-law falls ill in the future, you will have no money to treat her. The house payment is also owed, and it is not good to ask them for money at that time, and besides, your mother-in-law is such a person, if you don't take measures now, you will suffer in the future.

It's normal for you to have this kind of thought, and I would do the same, and now there are a lot of divorces caused by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, since you and your mother-in-law can't get along, it's better not to live together, I support you, for future happiness.

Resolutely do not lure wolves into the house, there will be endless troubles.

"Being yourself" is guided by your own inner feelings and intuition, which comes from your soul.

Selfishness, on the other hand, is guided by the satisfaction of the emotional body in the human body.

The message from the soul is actually the creation of the universe.

Dialogue with God, which says that according to the Bible, God created man in His image, but it actually means:

Man and God are of the same nature".

The author believes that the countless individual "people" in the world are nothing more than some kind of doppelganger of God Himself. So every human being is an individual with some attributes of God.

God created all things, so the true soul of man cares not only for himself, but also for all things in the world. People are interconnected and interdependent.

And the "love" in the universe is conserved, and the amount of love you give, the amount of love you will receive.

And selfishness is an emotion to satisfy oneself. In the consciousness of the selfish man, he is separated from other people and from everything in the universe. All he wants is his own happiness and the satisfaction of his various desires.

Others don't care about him. He will base the satisfaction of his desires on the pain of others, even the cost of other people's lives, and can not take into account the interests and feelings of others.

The "Be Yourself" person will also try his best to satisfy his desires, but he will base this satisfaction on the basis of trying not to harm the interests of others. They pursue a win-win situation of "if I'm good, you want to be good".

"Be yourself" comes from the soul, while "selfishness" comes from your emotions.

Self, more inclined to the embodiment of self-worth, is to be aware of the importance of oneself, but also to realize the importance of others, is to understand oneself, is not to infringe on the rights of others, not to rely on others, is a recognition of oneself, to realize one's own value, both respect for oneself and respect them.

Selfishness, on the other hand, achieves one's own goals by relying on others or violating the interests of others, seeing only oneself in one's eyes, only caring about oneself, not caring about the feelings of others, only loving oneself and not respecting others. Selfishness is more about sacrificing others in order to achieve one's own desires.

Ego and selfishness will behave similarly, but in different ways. How to deal with the contradiction between ego and selfishness? When pursuing one's own value, when encountering someone in need, you can stop and help others, instead of only looking at your own goals, ignoring others' help, and seeing no one else but yourself.

Although human nature is selfish, people who only care about the satisfaction of their own needs and interests, and do not think about others, cannot find themselves

Big difference. The meaning of being oneself is that people should have their own independent thoughts and personalities, do not be influenced and influenced by others at will, do not follow the crowd, do not follow what others like, and imitate what others do well; You have to understand what is right for you and recognize what kind of person you are.

Selfishness means that I only have my own interests in mind in everything, and it has nothing to do with others in my business. They do not consider the interests of the team and the collective, as long as their own desires are satisfied, it does not matter if others suffer losses, and even acts that harm others and benefit themselves. There has always been only one person for me, but I never want to pay for others.

There is a certain standard for being yourself, that is, you must be a real person when you are yourself. Be a real person, so that you can say that you have done a good job of yourself. The standard of being oneself is to take into account the feelings of others in all aspects, not to say anything and only consider oneself.

So it's not easy to be yourself.

Selfishness, this is also a kind of human being. The so-called selfishness actually means that this kind of person has no one else in his heart at all, but thinks about himself everywhere and puts himself first.

Therefore, we should be more considerate of others.

Be yourself and follow your heart's thoughts and wishes.

Selfish, thinking about oneself in everything he does, and completely ignoring others.

The difference between the two: to think about the problem is completely from oneself, and it is possible to start from others; But selfishness only starts from oneself.

To be yourself is to allow yourself to live, work, and so on according to your own wishes.

Don't let yourself be bound by some factors in the outside world, it's just completely free.

It's going to be a lot of fun.

And selfishness, this is not the same thing as being yourself.

Selfishness is to think only of oneself and not to accept the opinions of others.

Only put what is good for you first!

There is no utilitarianism in being yourself, and self-loss and self-interest are only your own gains, ignoring the efforts of others.

The advantage of doing what you are best at is that you can practice makes perfect by doing more than you are good at, and you can also increase your personal self-confidence, understand that there is nothing difficult in the world, but you are afraid of the truth that people have a heart, and then, if you have a high level of understanding.

One of the things that I have been thinking about a lot lately is that people are very susceptible to the environment, and this environment is multifaceted, people, environment, and even the weather. That's right, if the weather is gloomy, the mood doesn't seem so beautiful.

What is the cause of this state of mind, and how can it not be affected by it?

Mr. Nan Huaijin said a health care tip, that is, when the eyes see the beautiful scenery, they should use their consciousness to receive the beautiful scenery into the eyes, rather than being drawn by the beautiful scenery, which is probably what it means. I can't help but think of one point, that is, as the main body of consciousness, we should put ourselves in the first place, and everything should live from it, and we must not reverse the priority, such as this example, if the priority is not distinguished, the mind will be confused, and if the mind is scattered, the spirit will not gather, and I am afraid of getting sick.

Put it in daily interpersonal communication, the same is true in the human factor, everyone's preferences are different, and everyone is looking for different, this is not contradictory, what they like is because they have what they want, and in daily interactions, release their original self, this self has likes and dislikes, emotions, interesting, as long as it is in the category of physical and mental health, does not affect others, when people recognize a real and interesting person who is different from themselves, they will be attracted. It's as if I've given you my whole soul, with its quirks, its petty tempers, its flickering light and dark, its eighteen hundred bad things. It's so annoying, it's just a little good, you can like it.

In the future, there will be no comparison between mere talent and three-dimensional personality.

So, be kind to yourself, be true to yourself, be yourself with a fire in your heart, don't be a person who wants everyone to be good to me, but be a person who wants to be good to anyone! Only when you know your preferences and know what you want, can you aggregate into an energy field, and this energy field has a huge boost to the body and mind. This has nothing to do with selfishness, life is a process of increasing entropy, which will eventually dissipate, but the meaning of life is to fight against this entropy.

The concept is more abstract, being yourself, this is a process that requires constant effort, and it is difficult because it is difficult to completely resist being influenced. Inertial thinking will be involuntarily deviated, but at least I have a deeper understanding of the root cause, although I know that it is still far away, so I will add it up later.

Friends with similar experiences, welcome to communicate! Good night!