What should he do if he wants to do something that he doesn t want his child to do?

Then don't force him, let him do it.

I don't understand why you don't let your child do what he wants to do, and why you have to force your child to do what he doesn't like. Why do you have to mold your child into what you want to be? If your child is doing something wrong, you can teach him to correct it and guide him on how to do it right.

If you order him to do things as an elder, he will have a sense of fear of you, and when he grows up, he will become rebellious, and may be more dissatisfied with you, and even behave in a disobedient manner.

The child is pure, like a blank sheet of paper, and at the same time, he is also curious, he is full of curiosity about everything in this world, he may want to explore something, he does not know whether what he is doing is good or bad, but his starting point must be good, because he does not yet understand what is bad.

Therefore, the guidance of parents is very crucial. Children may not understand the big truth, and adults sometimes can't understand children's thoughts, so parents should stand in the child's perspective when reconsidering the problem, and try to understand why all the child's practices are with the simplest thinking.

Think about it from another perspective, think about how your parents educated you when you were young, think about what you hated most when you were a child, and don't use those things to educate your children.

Parents want their children to grow up well, not only physically, but also morally, but many parents do not get the desired results despite their hard work. The child is an independent individual, let him develop on his own, and do not limit his development to the model you imagined.

Children's nature will be somewhat rebellious, the more you suppress the action will be, then there is only one solution, that is, patient teaching and correct guidance, so that children retain their rebellious nature, but know what they should do, what should be done, this is the right way to educate.

I have a little nephew, who is my favorite child, who is cute and sweet-mouthed, but even such a child is often beaten. My eldest sister is not very old, and sometimes it is inevitable to be a little impatient in educating children, but most of the time my little nephew is not very obedient.

I once went to his house to deliver something, and saw my little nephew and another child Duo Duo playing, I was very happy, but Duo Duo had to do homework, Duo Duo's mother took a bench at my eldest sister's house for Duo Duo to sit on, my little nephew grabbed the bench and ran, my eldest sister chased out and reasoned with my nephew, my little nephew didn't listen, and he was beaten.

As soon as I saw that I had to get out of this question, I went to reason with my little nephew: Are you and Duoduo good friends? Do you want Duoduo to come to you to play in the future?

Would you be happy if you were interrupted while studying? "Third aunt, I am good friends with Duoduo, and I hope she comes, but I don't want to study", it was just cute.

Later, at my request, my little nephew apologized to Duoduo, although he didn't understand the meaning of the apology, but in the eyes of others, he was a child who knew his mistakes and could change them, and over time he would develop this habit.

Children are like this, what you don't ask him to do, he will be more curious, and desperate to try, you can let him try, or you show him how to do it without hurting himself, instead of forcibly stopping it.

If you don't let your child do something, you have to do it, which means that your child has entered a period of adolescent rebellion.

Using some tough measures, such as beating and scolding, is already useless, not to mention that parents can't be ruthless. The best way to start is to start with the following:

First, have good communication with your child.

Of course, this communication must be based on equality. Only communication can solve the knots in the heart.

and some unnecessary misunderstandings. For example, children often go home late, but after parents inquire and find that the child goes home to play is not learning, at this time there is no need to be angry, or to communicate with the child, what is the main reason for going home late. Maybe the child is helping others?

Not only should they not be criticized, but they should be praised. So communication with each other is very important. When communicating, you should also pay attention to ways and means, you can take your children out to play, or you can take your children to eat a big meal, and then look for opportunities to communicate with each other, and finally make an evaluation.

Perhaps only by communicating with parents can they understand the real confusion and thoughts in their children's hearts.

Second, respect the child's privacy.

Everyone has their own privacy, so parents must respect their children's views. For example, the child's things are not indiscriminately read, and the child's secrets cannot be inquired all the time. However, if the child goes the wrong way, the parents must stop it.

At the same time, through words and deeds, children can establish good values.

Third, the power of example.

Parents must be good role models, that is to say, some of their shortcomings should not be revealed in front of their children, and the husband and wife should also be harmonious, and do not quarrel in front of their children, or say some vulgar words. Because the power of example is endless.

Fourth, be close friends with children.

Share some happy things with your children, or share some contagious and educational things, and be willing to share your heartfelt words with your children. Then the child will also tell his parents what he knows, so as to establish a good friendship.

Personally, I don't think children are unteachable, it's just that children sometimes don't get the pleasure of doing something, so they don't want to try to do it. At this time, as parents, we should reflect on how to guide our children correctly, so that children can consciously and actively do something.

1. Understand the reasons why your child is reluctant to do something.

Parents need to learn to look at the essence of the phenomenon and understand why the child is reluctant to do it. For example, when we call our children to eat, brush their teeth, or go to the bathroom, they may shout many times and they are not willing to do what we tell them. What is the child's heart thinking at this time?

Are they really reluctant to do it, or is it because they haven't formed a certain order in their homes and are not doing the right thing at the right time? Or do they not want to eat, brush their teeth, or go to the toilet for a while? We need to find out what the child is doing, and then we can educate the child according to the situation.

Second, the whole family needs to agree on the problem of children's education.

When they find that the best speaker at home is grandpa or grandma, and the worst speaker is dad or mom, they will directly seek the protection of grandparents when facing the criticism and education of their parents. Because they know that their grandparents are the most protective of themselves, and they know that as long as their grandparents come forward, there is still room for negotiation. Therefore, I would like to remind all parents that the attitude of the family must be the same when it comes to educating their children, so that the children will not always want to confront their parents and consciously obey their parents' instructions.

3. Children can be guided, but there can be no persecution of children.

When it comes to educating our children, we can guide them with our hearts, but we must not have all kinds of persecution behaviors. For example, when a child does not like to take a certain interest course, parents have to force the child to learn, which not only does not achieve the desired effect, but also makes the child more unhappy. As parents, we need to find ways to let our children experience the fun of interest classes.

If the child really doesn't like this interest class, then you might as well sign up for the interest class that the child likes, so that the child will be more motivated to learn and the results will be more gratifying.

Parents should reason with their children, tell them what kind of knowledge they will learn and what kind of abilities they will improve, and guide them carefully.

Parents can encourage their children to do it, they can also discuss it well with their children, they can also give their children some rewards, they can also accompany their children to do it, or they can say to their children that you are the best.

Parents must not force their children, if they feel that this matter is very meaningful, they can guide their children to do it, for example, encourage their children more, but do not force them.

In life, there are many parents who are faced with their children doing things, and the parents obviously do not let their children do it, but the children want to do it. When faced with such a child, parents should first understand why the child has some rebellious thoughts when educating the child. In fact, the first rebellious period of the child is generally when the child grows 2 or 3 years old, and the child is in the rebellious period.

When parents go out with their children, they do not let their children bring their toys, but the children are disobedient and have to take their toys on the road to play. Parents mainly because they should not have something inconsequential in their hands because they should not take something inconsequential in their hands because they are going out with their children.

As a parent, you should know that when educating children, there may be some children who will have their own ideas. But parents are always willing to impose their own ideas on their children, and even when they take their children to meet the door, they know that their children like to eat strawberries, but they will not consider buying strawberries for their children, but will directly buy watermelons for their children to eat. Because the parents of Jane Pants thought that in the hot summer, their children were only suitable for eating watermelon, but not strawberries, but the parents never considered respecting their children's opinions.

If you find that your child has rebellious thoughts at a young age, you should use language to educate your child and let him know that it is wrong for him to do so. At the same time, it is also necessary for children to understand that their own behavior is completely different from that of their parents. Only by letting the child understand why the parents do not let the child do this openly can the child become more obedient from the bottom of his heart.

No matter at any time, when parents educate their children, they will want their children to be more obedient at home. However, children are independent individuals, and children will also have their own ideas, and parents should not impose their own ideas on children. It is also important to understand that children are thinking from each other's point of view.

Parents should let the child bear the corresponding post-rolling dust, but also let the child know that such a thing can not be done, when the child bears the consequences, the child will not do this in the future, parents do not need to worry too much, and do not force the child to grind respectfully, should let the child try it appropriately, so that the parent will tell the child in the future, what can not be done, the child will not do it in the future.

At this time, parents must communicate with their children, understand their inner thoughts, praise their children more, and encourage their children.

You must praise your children more, care more about your children, and educate your children in an encouraging way.

Introduction: Some parents will always say to their children when educating their children, you are not allowed to do anything. But have you found that after the parents finish speaking, the child will do such a thing, and the parents still feel very angry, we have already said that you will not be allowed to do it, why do you still want to do it?

Isn't this just disobedient and ignorant?

In fact, many times parents do not let their children do things that children are very interested in, he doesn't know what the result behind this thing is, he just wants to explore, he wants to see what parents say this, only when they go to operate to know the final result, and what parents say, what parents say will deepen a negative memory of the child, for example, what can't be done, because the parents said, so he has to try it, Originally, the child didn't feel so much at the beginning, and maybe he didn't move if the parents didn't say it. In addition, all the child's behavior is to pursue a sense of pursuit or to pursue a sense of value, when you want to control the child too much, the child will feel that he is not respected and trusted, and he feels humiliated, and then he will have some wrong ideas, and some wrong behaviors.

Therefore, when parents communicate with their children, they must pay attention to the method, do not let your love become a burden, and can tell the child the disadvantages of doing this, but you have to express your trust in the child, so that the child feels that my parents trust me very much, he believes that I can do what I say, he feels that he is understood, respected, so he has strength, the more such a child he is easier to abide by the agreement. Therefore, it is recommended that all parents must pay attention to the way when educating their children, do not always strengthen a negative impression of their children, use positive language to guide their children, and must give their children a certain amount of trust and respect.