How do you talk less but not be cold? 25

The brother's love experience must be very little, looking at the description of the landlord, it seems that the brother does not understand the "law of attraction" at all.

In the cognitive concept of brothers, such cognition is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people:

As long as you are good to girls, girls can be good to themselves.

After being issued a good person card, he felt that only by ignoring the girl could he change his mind.

In fact, this is the common cognition of many brothers who are just starting to fall in love. Maybe the reason why the girl approaches you at the beginning is because you take the initiative to invest and pay for her.

For example, if you invite her to a meal and give her a gift, the reason why the girl chooses to be with you may not be your own value, but your contribution to her in other aspects.

In order to prevent the breakdown of the relationship, you will increase your own dedication and dedication.

And girls will also enjoy your efforts in a short period of time, so you are in a vicious circle of infinite giving, constantly increasing your own costs to maintain the relationship.

She is always running in front and you are always chasing behind, resulting in an emotional gap between high and low positions, and he will break up when he feels that you are not useful.

After that, you must have also reflected on your own problems, felt that it was wrong to give unconditionally, and felt that it would be too cheap and reduce your value. Then you think that as long as you are more "cold", you can improve your value, after all, many so-called "male gods" in life do this.

As for the ending, no girl will touch you.

And all of this can be explained clearly through the "Law of Attraction".

The Law of Attraction in Gender Relations.

If you want not to lick the dog and not be cold, you must first understand the "law of attraction".

In a relationship between the sexes, attractiveness is determined by two aspects, one is one's own worth, and the other is your availability (or sense of need).

In the first case, if you have high self-worth, high wealth and emotional intelligence, and your availability is high, that is, anyone who wants to start a relationship with you is easy to agree, and your attractiveness will not be too high at this time;

In the second case, if your self-worth is very high, and you are very cold, and you do not start a relationship easily, you are attractive in front of girls, and your attractiveness is extremely high;

In the third case, if you are not worth much, but you do not start a relationship easily, although you are generally attractive, at least there is a certain amount of attractiveness.

In the fourth case, which is also the worst case, you are not worth much, but you kneel and lick everywhere, and you basically can't attract girls at this time.

After reading this coordinate chart, most of the brothers may realize their problems.

If you are a licking dog, there is a high probability that the value is low and the availability is high, and it is useless for you to pretend to be cold at this time, because your own value is relatively low.

Therefore, improving one's own value is the only way out! Again, improving one's own value is the only way out!

After all, in the emotional world, it is best to be evenly matched, the value is not much different, and the availability is similar.

The so-called "right door" is not unreasonable.

So little brother, don't think about how to be cold first, and improve your own value.

If you're going to do it, it's very little, but not too cold. It should be hard. If it is a few words, many people will do it.

But if you do it, it's not too cold. It's hard. How can I say this, a person's temperament determines a person's life.

If you have a bad temperament, it is difficult to talk and think that it is very difficult to do it.

Then make it easier to get to the point when you talk and do something heartwarming, so that you don't speak.

Then you just talk a little bit of business, don't talk nonsense, and talk to the point

You have to be very good and clingy. One is cheerful, the other has few words, and the two personalities complement each other very well.

The best way to attack the heart is to indulge in the past, you can smile in front of other members of the opposite sex, but you must say less in front of him, let alone show interest and enthusiasm for him, and you must pay attention to maintaining your aura and dignity at any time.

Ask me to add him as a friend. Then I said hello to him, I told him my name, and he said yes. How do I reply.

AnswerFirst of all, you can go to his space, find some of the same topics, and make him feel that you may be like-minded, but you must not show a very enthusiastic feeling, which will make the cold man even more speechless.

Asked questions, but he didn't say what to do.

Is there any intersection in real life?

Question: He's from my next class.

You have to get acquainted with the brothers around you and become friends first.

A cold man generally can't stop the coaxing of his good brothers.

But be sure not to confess prematurely or reveal to him your affection for her by asking questions

You can talk about boring topics, such as men everyone knows about games, or everyone knows about the Internet, if women can talk about online shopping, or food or something, these can be fine.

Introversion is not a very good quality, and coldness and arrogance are not necessarily good in interpersonal communication.

To do this, you have to talk less, but you have to be confident. There is nothing to be said confidently and less is called introverted, and there is less confidence to be called cold. Self-confidence radiates from the inside out.

The waist is straight, the facial expression is absent, and the eyes are as far as possible to look ahead.

Do you want to get the attention of someone you like?

No one talks to you anymore, a kind of arrogant look.

Let others know that you are not a cold personality, but an introvert. Be tolerant and generous when socializing with others. When someone misunderstands that you are cold, you have to explain to them in time that I have always been introverted, and my friends will understand.

I think the most important thing is to show it from facial expressions, and usually live with a little more smile on the face and less bitter gourd face.

In fact, I have encountered the same problem as you, just because my personality is more introverted, so it makes people misunderstand that I am a relatively tall and proud person, I usually try to be more tolerant when interacting with others, and I can also listen to others' opinions, and let others feel that they are a warm-hearted person when getting along with others, so that they will slowly change other people's opinions, and I usually participate in more group activities and sports activities, In this way, you can also reach out to your friends more effectively, so that the friends around you can change their perception of yourself.

If others think you are cold, the reason should be that you don't have too many expressions when you usually contact them, not because you don't talk much. If you want to change the image of Gao Leng, you have to keep yourself in a state where you can be approached, rather than being defensive, life is mostly to greet each other with a smile, even if you talk less, you will not feel that you are cold.

In fact, I feel that this should be a very simple one, because when communicating with others, try to show some tolerance to others, as well as generosity, because many people may say that you are more cold. But you have to tell others in time that you are just introverted, not a type of coldness.

Every time I meet new classmates at the beginning of the school year, when I introduce myself, I will tell them that I am not a cold person, I just don't like to talk because I am more introverted. I'm sure everyone will know about me after I say that, and they won't mind too much.

I remember having dinner with friends some time ago, and they brought a new friend to meet us.

Maybe it's because I'm reluctant to speak, people mistakenly think I'm very cold, and then my friend explained that he is not cold, but his personality is unwilling to speak, often like this, just get used to it.

That's when that friend realized that I was an introvert.

I used to be a very introverted like you, and I don't usually like to talk, and others think I'm not easy to contact, especially cold, as if I'm a person who is particularly difficult to contact, so I have very few friends around me.

After joining the work, I try to show my best side to my colleagues, so that others can feel that I am a very caring person, but I usually don't like to talk.

First of all, you have to become cheerful, you can talk to others, find topics, such as what hobbies you have, ask others what hobbies they have, which place has a good scenery and looks fun, such as when others talk about food, which kind of delicious, or which clothes are good, you can also interject and say that you feel good, or you think that in addition to what he said, there is something else that is good, chatting is a simple thing, you have to slowly get acquainted, not too cold, Or if you think it's nonsense, you won't talk about it, and you'll become more and more silent.

No matter how much you talk, there are useful and useless. The rooster sings that the world is white, and the frog crows at night to annoy. If you want to be more sunny or mature, it is better to use other people's nonsense time to read more books to enrich yourself (not only limited to textbooks).

Listen to what they talk about, don't listen to them at first, and start talking to them slowly after a while.

Usually you participate in any activities you have, be helpful, don't talk nonsense, after a long time, there will naturally be like-minded good friends to come to you.

Introverts tend to be emotionally rich people.

If you want to stay cold, you must first have a strong heart, and be able to do it on the outside, no matter what happens, you will not be shocked.

Coldness is an attitude, if you want to maintain coldness, you must make your demeanor and expression very serious, and don't laugh.

As for keeping the cold talk, I feel that when commenting, I should keep a more indifferent attitude when doing things by myself, or when I do things, I can show it.

For keeping it cold, because if you feel something when you're safe, you can keep some cold, or in normal times, if you don't smile at the world, it's okay to disturb the omen. Plum things.

You can make your words concise, and don't talk superfluous nonsense, and play less with friends, hee-hee, ha-ha, hee-hee, haha.

I think the most important thing to keep cool is to be serious. , so you can't joke with others about anything.

For example, when others don't talk to you, don't try not to talk to others. Do less body language.

I feel that I have to stay cold, and it is a very difficult thing for me to do it, because I am not a person with a cold personality, but I feel that I am cold and cold, and my personality is messy.

In fact, I think when you meet someone you don't know, you shouldn't say too much, so that people can feel that you are tall.

The most important thing is that you have to be very capable, so that you can have the capital to keep it cold.

It's the feeling of being far and near, this measure is grasped by yourself, and you can look at the character of the other man, this trick is useful for some people, and it is not cold at all for some people, I personally think it is good to be honest and natural. It's the feeling of being far and near, this measure is grasped by yourself, and you can look at the character of the other man, this trick is useful for some people, and it is not cold at all for some people, I personally think it is good to be honest and natural. It's the feeling of being far and near, this measure is grasped by yourself, and you can look at the character of the other man, this trick is useful for some people, and it is not cold at all for some people, I personally think it is good to be honest and natural.

It's the feeling of being far and near, this measure is grasped by yourself, and you can look at the character of the other man, this trick is useful for some people, and it is not cold at all for some people, I personally think it is good to be honest and natural. It's the feeling of being far and near, this measure is grasped by yourself, and you can look at the character of the other man, this trick is useful for some people, and it is not cold at all for some people, I personally think it is good to be honest and natural.

In fact, chatting with boys is not a very casual thing, now many girls will make the same mistake, that is, they like to say that they are uncomfortable in front of boys, if the boy is your friend, and you have a good relationship, he will naturally care about you, if you just know, you are so familiar, when you say this, he will feel that you have a lot of things or are very hypocritical, in fact, boys are very disgusted with such girls, they don't like girls who feel very good, so girls must remember, Don't pretend how squeamish you are in front of guys.

For the high cold series, it is actually sullen! This kind of boy, you must not be too proactive, he is cold, you are also cold and colder than him! Then pay attention to the things he is interested in, talk eloquently in front of him, pay attention to the substance, it is best to be better than him to make him have a sense of appreciation, pay attention to distance and speed, and take your time!

Be enthusiastic when you should be enthusiastic, be cold when you should be cold, and achieve self-esteem and self-love without losing affinity.

You have to be very good and clingy. One is cheerful, the other has few words, and the two personalities complement each other very well.