Why can t children control their behavior?

It has to do with the doting of parents.

In single-child families, many parents regard their children as the center of the family and do their best to meet their children's needs. This practice will make the child look at no one and be self-centered in everything. Even if the parents don't want to agree to the child's request, as long as the child uses a little trick, such as "crying to show you", the parent will immediately resist the request and will agree.

In order for children to have good self-control, parents must first have self-control. Unreasonable requests should be dismissed, and children should be made aware that when the request is unreasonable, it is not effective to splash and roll.

When the child is too attached to his request, parents can try to distract him with other things and make him learn to wait. For some reasonable requests of children, parents can also delay gratification, so that children's self-control can be better improved.

Age-specific factors lead to a lack of self-control.

Babies between the ages of 0 and 2 lack self-control and are sometimes excused. Because the baby's brain development at this period is not mature enough, the inhibitory function of the cerebral cortex is lacking, and it is easy to get excited. Therefore, children at this age are prone to impulsiveness, and when they are impulsive, they will ignore the rules.

Although this is the age characteristic of the baby, parents cannot let it go. From this period onwards, parents should be aware of cultivating their children's self-control. For example, let the baby know which behaviors are allowed and which are forbidden, and avoid scolding the child after the child makes a mistake, but let the child experience the patience of the parents, so that they will feel more secure.

Parents themselves lack self-control.

If parents are impulsive, lose their temper when they encounter something, and will not restrain themselves, then the child may become the same type of person as the parents when they are infected by their parents. In such families, the words and deeds of parents undoubtedly have a negative impact on children. Moreover, parents have a hot temper, the family environment is often not so harmonious, and the tense family atmosphere will make the child feel insecure, and the child's good self-control ability will be more difficult to form.

Therefore, if you want your baby to have self-control, parents should first control themselves, do not expose their emotions in front of their children, and when they encounter problems, they should communicate and analyze calmly with their children.

In some families, parents often quarrel or neglect to take care of their children, resulting in an alienated parent-child relationship. This kind of family makes the child feel little warmth, there is a lack of communication between parents and children, and many of the child's behaviors will be laissez-faire because of the lack of restraint, and it will be difficult for the child to have good self-control in the long run.

Because children don't need to care about what others think, they don't need to control their behavior.

Because children can ignore face, because the last of ignorance allows children to do whatever they want and not make a fool of themselves, so naturally they can't control themselves, and it seems that they don't have to control their behavior.

Hello, children are in the least developed stage of life, their personality is still in the process of formation, and their self-control is also very poor, so they can't control their behavior.

Because children's minds are not very mature and are still in a relatively naïve stage, they cannot control what they do.

Children do not have the ability to think independently, nor do they have a sense of right and wrong and a sense of responsibility, so it is difficult for them to control their behavior.

Children have no self-control because they do not yet know the importance of rational self-control. In this regard, parents should educate their children from an early age and set an example themselves.

Because they have no self-control, they can't control their behavior.

Introduction: Parents always can't control themselves, and tantrums with their children can have a serious impact on their children's physical and mental health. If parents want their children to face themselves well, they must first communicate with their children and understand their children's inner thoughts.

Parents should not blindly impose ideas on their children, which will make them feel very painful. Today, I'm going to talk to you about why I can't control my children all the time?

Parents can't control themselves because they are too familiar with their children, know what their children want and understand their children. If you want to control yourself, first of all, don't hit and scold the child, the child will feel very painful, if the child makes a mistake, parents should properly guide the child to communicate with the child to understand the reasons for the child's mistake. If a parent always scolds the child unscrupulously, the child will be very painful, the child will also feel very angry, parents should not blindly beat and scold the child, scold the child, the child's personality will become very withdrawn, and the child is not willing to communicate with the parents.

Parents should understand that the child's education can not be buried, the child needs to be cultivated slowly, and a child will inevitably make mistakes in the process of growth. If the child makes a mistake, parents should actively guide the child, don't keep beating and scolding the child, and the child will make mistakes, which will become more and more serious.

If a parent is always unable to control himself, the child will become more and more rebellious, and the child will not listen to the guidance of the parent. Parents should properly understand their children's hearts, consider their children's ideas, and think about problems from their children's perspectives, so that they can learn better. If a child can't learn well, parents should not always beat and scold the child, but rationally let the child reflect and accompany the child more, the child will inevitably make mistakes when he is young, parents must control their emotions and communicate with the child with a good attitude.

Because you have invested too much in your child's feelings, you are always calm in the face of other people's things, but you can't control yourself when you treat people who have deep feelings for you. Huai Brigade Shelter.

Because you hope that your child can become more excellent, and because you hope that you can arrange a way out for your child's stool, but your behavior will make the child very oppressive and very uncomfortable.

Because you feel that your relationship with your child is very close, you are also unreserved in front of your child, so you can't control yourself.

This is because the child does not have a habit of self-discipline, and the child's self-control ability is also very poor, so he always can't control himself.

1. Educate children ideally and stimulate their motivation. If a child has the dream of becoming a scientist, he will continue to study hard and will not fail to complete his homework.

2. Establish a "daily behavior routine" with your child, and urge your child to work and rest on time, so as to ensure that your child develops good work and rest habits.

3. Lead by example and set an example for your children. Teaching by example is better than words, and parents should set an example for their children to have strong self-control and good habits. For example, parents should have good work and rest habits, let children do homework, parents should not watch TV or play with mobile phones, etc.

4. Strengthen good habits and correct bad habits. Parents should help their children continue to strengthen the formation of good habits, generally for 21-90 days. Parents should also be good at helping their children find and correct bad hail habits.

5. In the process of children's growth, the principle of parents' education of their children is to manage their children, restrain their children's behavior, and make them late and obedient. When a child is disobedient, parents tend to criticize the child directly and then punish the child. In terms of behavior, children are obedient to their parents, but they are often not convinced.

will lead to the recurrence of mistakes again and again. The tough processing fee implies that knowledge solves the surface of the problem, but does not cure the root cause. To prescribe the right medicine, parents still need to start from the subtleties, observe the child, understand the psychology of the child at each stage, encounter things, understand the beginning and end of the matter, and find a way to remove the essential source of the disease in the child's heart.

Children are a mirror of parents, and the root causes of problems in children can be found in parents. Children have poor self-control, parents should first see if they have made these mistakes?

1. The "bad" influence of parents.

How is your self-control as a parent? Did you want to read a book, but unconsciously swiped your phone? I was going to go to bed early, but I ended up playing games and staying up late? It's time to eat, swipe your phone to play games, and you don't come after calling a few times?

My girlfriend complained to me that her husband likes to play with his mobile phone, and now his children are also addicted to playing with mobile phones. A few days ago, my girlfriend criticized the child for playing with the mobile phone and not eating, and the child actually said confidently, "Why can Dad play games, play with the mobile phone and eat snacks, but I can't?" ”

You see, your every move is seen by the child in his eyes and learned in his heart. Your freewheeling and unrestrained behavior will only make your child feel free to do the same.

Therefore, there must be a parent who is addicted to electronic products behind the child who likes to play with mobile phones, and there must be a family who loves reading behind the child who likes to read.

2. Children lack the company of their parents.

A child whose parents accompany him a lot, his life is full and abundant, and he does not feel that he has nothing to do with you every day. And your negligence and neglect of your children, children can only find things to do on their own, and mobile phones and TVs are the most attractive to them.

When you complain that your child is addicted to electronic products, inattentive to things, and has poor self-control, have you ever thought that it is your selfishness and laziness that push your child to electronic products? It is your lack of communication and companionship that causes your child to look for electronics for comfort.

3. Always interrupt the child's concentration.

When the child is concentrating on building blocks, do you interrupt the child over and over again, let the child drink water for a while, and let the child eat fruit for a while?

In this way, the child's concentration is destroyed by the parents over and over again, and slowly the child loses the ability to concentrate, resulting in the difficulty of the child to concentrate on things, and it is easy to look around during class.

Teacher Sun Ruixue said in the book "Capturing Children's Sensitive Period" that children are born for a few months until they are 6 years old, and the order sensitive period is spiraling, and after children successfully pass a sensitive period, children's mental level will rise from one level to another.

Therefore, parents should never interrupt their children at will.

4. Failure to keep promises.

Recall that you have ever done something like this, "You obediently drink the water, and I will buy you lollipops"; "You play by yourself for a while, and I'll buy you Transformers. "When the child earnestly fulfills his promise, you break your promise, and over time, the child does not believe you. Even if you try to seduce him again, the child will still do what he should do, so you start complaining about the disobedience.

Have you ever realized that your child's bad temper is all "cheated" by you? ”

If you keep your child's word and promise your child to do things on time, then your child's self-control will be stronger; But if you often go back on your word and deceive your child, then your child's self-control will become weaker, and he will not even trust adults, let alone take the initiative to listen to adults.

<> children are often physically and psychologically injured in the process of experiencing domestic violence, and are prone to psychological trauma, such as fear, anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, anger and other negative emotions. In the long run, these negative emotions can have a lasting negative impact on a child's mental health.

In the process of growing up, children are often affected by the family environment and parenting style, if they suffer domestic violence, it will lead to some abnormal changes in the child's personality, for example, the child may become more timid, introverted, sensitive, lack of a sense of remorse and trust, and even produce aggressive, violent tendencies and other bad behaviors.

The experience of domestic violence may also affect the child's social skills, make the child distrustful or hostile towards interpersonal relationships, withdrawn, lonely or depressed, etc., which may lead to more difficulties and challenges in the child's communication.

Impact on relationships in adulthood: If a child has been in a domestic violence environment for a long time, this effect may persist into their relationships as adults. For example, they may develop distrust and suspicion of the behavior of their partners and friends, or be unable to properly manage their relationships with others.

Therefore, the impact of domestic violence on children is very far-reaching. For children who are victims of domestic violence, we need to provide timely care and support to help them get out of the overall psychological shadow and establish healthy interpersonal relationships and a positive attitude towards life. At the same time, we also need to fundamentally strengthen the prevention and handling of domestic violence, and create a harmonious, warm and safe family environment.