Why don t your friends, classmates, and colleagues want you to be better off than them?

Updated on psychology 2024-07-27
37 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    People are rarely jealous of celebrities, public figures.

    But he will often be jealous of the people around him. Relatives, classmates, colleagues, too familiar, too close, on the contrary, will make you uncomfortable when you see them succeeding. I always feel that I am tiptoeing, and I must be able to get there, but why he succeeded, it's not fair.

    You can live well, but you can't be better off than me.

    What is jealousy? In simple and clear words, you can live well, but you can't be better off than me. You can be good, but you can't be better than me.

    That's what most people really think. People are selfish, so selfish that they want you to be well, except for your parents, a few relatives and friends, no one wants you to live better than them!

    This world is like this, once it touches its own interests, it will think from its own point of view.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Why don't your friends, classmates, and colleagues want you to live better than them? It's their vanity at work. Because of vanity, they are not willing to act as people who live better than themselves.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Envy, jealousy and hate, is to look at you so red-eyed, in fact, they are not really happy to see you bad, just don't want you to be so lucky and better than them every time, as long as they are not good for them, they will be very balanced and will not envy you too much, otherwise, they always think about you, talk about you, talk about you, in short, they are extremely red-eyed, not to talk about hate, and it is not that they have to watch you have a catastrophe to be happy, but you are lucky to make them greedy and envious.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    People have a desire to compare, so if your friends and classmates are better off than you, you will be jealous, so your friends, classmates and colleagues don't want you to be better than them.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    The situation you mentioned, I think your classmates and colleagues around you are unbalanced, you should hope that you live better, indicating that they are too narrow-minded, they can only be better by others, and they can't see that others are better than themselves, what kind of person is this, it is a low-level interest, it is a low-level interest, a moment of student police, this year I have less to do with them, you do your job well, do your study, arrange your life well, you can only get better and better, it will not be worse than them, work hard, young man, I believe in you, Let those people be jealous, a small chicken farm.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    In the current materialistic world, the rich man is the master, everyone wants to spend their money, the comparison heart is too heavy, and always wants to be outstanding, so there will be this situation, but people who are too heavy in comparison often do not live very well, because their mentality is not good.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Everyone has jealousy, and everyone wants to live better than others, and this hope is achieved by working hard to manage their own lives, not by jealousy.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Because people have jealousy between people, but it mainly depends on the pattern, if it is your real iron friend, I hope you have a good life.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Your friends, classmates, and colleagues don't want you to be better off than them, that's human nature. There are not a few people who have this psychological state, which means that you can only say that you have a relationship of interest, but you are not real friends, nor do you really love your friends, classmates and colleagues.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Now your friends, classmates and colleagues don't want you to live better than them, that's because some people have a stronger comparison mentality, they all hope that they are better than others, and they don't want others to live better than themselves.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    This is human nature, there are not many who really want you to live well, only your parents who really want you to live well, and there are many people who are waiting to see your jokes.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Human nature, if the people around you are better off than you, you will definitely have some jealousy, more or less, but people can't just care about what others say about you, care about those gossips, if you think about this, no one will do things.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    This can only mean that they are not your real friends, and your real friends want you to live well. Those who want others to be bad, when they think like this, first ask themselves what can do them do if they think like this.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    In this world, except for your parents, no one wants you to live better than him, people tend to be jealous of the people around them, he can allow unfamiliar people to flourish, but he doesn't want his friends to live better than himself, this is human nature.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    So in fact, for these things, there is no need to worry too much about yourself, we can live our lives as well as possible, and for some people who are not the same as us, we can keep some distance.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If you are better than them, it means that they are not good, lost the superiority, the heart is inevitably a little lost, in fact, we don't need to compare this true, life is like a spring, there will be peaks and valleys, or learn to be normal, sincere, hand in hand with each other, treat life together.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    This is caused by jealousy, although there are such people, but there are not many, and there are many well-wishers.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Now your friends, classmates, and colleagues don't want you to live better than them, because they always like to live better than others.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Because people are selfish, he wants you to do well. But I don't want you to be better off than him. This is something that is going on in the heart of the Lonely Governor.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Most people will be jealous, but there are also people who really want you to be good, but there are relatively few. Because as long as there is a comparison, many people will feel uncomfortable, but they don't understand the great amount of blessings.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Not everyone is like this, only a small number of people are too jealous, they just can't see others better than her, the heart of a villain.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Why are you around friends now? Classmates and colleagues don't want you to live better than them, in fact, the main reason is because of jealousy. Classmates and colleagues don't want you to have a better life than them, in fact, it's mainly because of jealousy!

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    People nowadays are snobbish. All hope you. It's not good. I only hope that I am doing well, and I don't want others to be good. That's all the way around now.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Now your friends, classmates and colleagues don't want you to live better than them, so this is the hatred of the rich.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    This is human nature, no one wants others to live better than themselves, so we have to work hard.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    My heart is dark, I can't do it, and I don't want others to live well!!

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Not only now, but also in the past, times are changing, but people's hearts have not changed.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Because there are interests entangled with colleagues after entering the workplace, there will be many difficulties after becoming friends with colleagues.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It's because colleagues inevitably have to involve interests. It's not good for each other to stop being friends with colleagues.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Because there is competition between some colleagues, such a friendship cannot be maintained, and it can even hurt you at a critical moment.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    It's because you can't be friends if you only have a relationship of interest with your colleagues, and two people will have great conflicts in life.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    <> don't recommend that you treat your colleagues as friends, why is that? People in the workplace, they are just acting on the scene in the workplace, such as in the same factory in order to work in order to maintain a relationship. A worker is transferred or changed jobs and re-entered another workplace; I went back to work, and I was busy every day for the sake of life, and my former colleagues couldn't be contacted.

    After a long time, I slowly forgot about it. For example, working in the same factory for several years is like a family friend. Suddenly, a colleague opened a company, and they all grabbed an order from each other; Both sides will think that they can't treat their colleagues as friends; In the workplace, especially in the physical enterprise factory, there will be many colleagues, colleagues in the same department, and there are colleagues in different departments; Colleagues who have a certain degree of work contact, colleagues who have a relationship between superiors and subordinates, and colleagues who have different positions at the same level.

    There are colleagues who work together very well every day, and there are also colleagues who are not very familiar with each other at work occasionally. There are often many colleagues, some of whom can become good friends, some of whom are just ordinary friends, and some of whom cannot be friends because of differences of opinion and interests at work.

    When you first meet a colleague with the same three views, you will treat them as good friends and trust them unreservedly. Slowly, you will find that the workplace is the workplace, and it doesn't matter when it doesn't involve interests, but when it comes to interests, it will be hateful for a moment. So keep work and life separate.

    Whether colleagues can become friends in the workplace also depends on the colleague's gender, age difference, personality characteristics, hobbies, etc. In general, colleagues who have common interests and hobbies, are of the same gender, are about the same age, have no obvious interests at work, and have frequent contact at work can easily become good friends. The most important thing about whether colleagues can become friends depends on everyone's personality, some people are outgoing, sociable, and have strong work ability to make a lot of friends, but introverts and people who are not good at talking often have few friends.

    If you are friends with colleagues, will you share the resources in your hands with your colleagues, and the same colleagues may share valuable resources with you? This is about performance, about salary, so don't take colleagues as friends, friends can stick a knife in your ribs, colleagues are likely to give you a knife in the back, colleagues value interests, the same resources, who starts fast and who gets it in the end, compete with each other, and finally have the ability to take the position and become the protagonist, and the incapable can only do tricks!

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Because it is easy to fall into passivity at work if you treat your colleagues as friends, it is not recommended to treat your colleagues as friends.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Because there is competition between colleagues, no one will treat you as a friend, so you can't treat a colleague as a friend.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Because it is possible to confuse life with work. When I met him at work, I was very annoyed when I met him in life.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Because there is a clear conflict of interest between colleagues.

    The workplace is like a battlefield, there is a conflict of interest between colleagues, and people also have a workplace psychology of self-protection and fortification.

    The closer the working relationship, the closer the colleagues, the more obvious the entanglement and conflict of interests between each other, the less contact at work, and the more distant the working relationship, the easier it is for colleagues to communicate sincerely.

    The closer the working relationship of colleagues, the more work interactions, the more obvious the sense of work responsibility boundaries, just like two primary school students sitting at a desk are very concerned about the middle line of the desk, colleagues are also very sensitive to this boundary.

    Both colleagues know this line in their hearts, and they don't want to cross the line, can't cross the line, and are afraid of crossing the line, because if they cross the line, they will go to someone else's field of work, which means invading someone else's territory.

    On the one hand, it is necessary to face the problem of other people's high unhappiness, on the other hand, it is the problem of helping others to undertake the work and suffering from their own losses, and moreover, colleagues have feelings and become friends, and friendship is difficult to last, and this relationship will break down at any time because of the conflict of interests.

    Regardless of whether you treat your colleagues as friends or brothers, the further establishment of the relationship with your colleagues will damage your personal interests in the final analysis, and the relationship in the workplace will no longer be as pure as in college.

    But in a company, behind the seemingly harmonious relationship is actually turbulent, which involves the issue of promotion and salary increase, usually in order to be able to have further development in the workplace, colleagues will tear their faces, and even frame each other, in this context, I am afraid that even friends have to do.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    Because there are inevitably conflicts of interest and competition between colleagues, no matter how good a colleague is, the relationship between colleagues will not be as good as that of classmates in school.

    Conflicts of interest are of course, between different departments, for example, expenses, this department wants to deduct a little, and then deduct a little bit to you, and give you as little as possible, then they will get more bonuses, because the company must want to make money rather than want to spend.

    And the other department, I thought, ah, this expenditure must be a little more, because we want to be a little bit better, and then go and buy higher quality things, but the budget is so much, then you must go for it.

    And then there will be a conflict of interest, you will definitely want to perform better, and then your bonus is a little higher, but they want you to spend less, because then they are better, so it is inevitable that there is a conflict of interest.

    The competitive relationship is easy to understand, and if you are in the same department with good colleagues, especially those in the same department, then there will definitely be a competitive relationship.

    For example, he will do a job a little better, but you do it a little worse, no matter how good your relationship is, he will not give you the project or help you do it, there will be no such thing at all, because everyone is fighting for the future, if you do it or help you do it, then he gets money or bonuses from **?

    And everyone is an adult, in the adult world is often more complicated than the age of classmates, more people feel a little more unpredictable, then it is difficult to make friends, to find a good friend, and the existence of this factor will indeed lead to colleagues even if there is no conflict of interest and competition, there will be no particularly good friends.

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