How can I improve my ability to deal with people?

Seeing this topic, the first thing that comes to everyone's mind may be that we must improve our emotional intelligence, and a person with high emotional intelligence can be mellow and generous in dealing with people and things.

Is this really the case? The answer is no. If a person's emotional intelligence is high, then he does not understand the wine table culture and daily etiquette, then his performance may be unsatisfactory.

Emotional intelligence is the opposite of IQ, which refers to our emotional quotient, which mainly refers to the qualities that people show in terms of mood, emotion, will, frustration tolerance, etc. To put it simply, it's the ability to get along with others.

Xiaomei and her husband Zhang Hao live in a community near an urban complex. One day, a female colleague of Zhang Hao happened to go shopping in that urban complex, so he asked Zhang Hao, is it inconvenient to take her after work at night? As a colleague, Zhang Hao was not easy to refuse, so he agreed.

In fact, for Zhang Hao, it is both a way and a way. Because after work, he has to go around to his daughter-in-law's company and pick up Xiaomei and go home together. It's something that the whole company knows. So when a female colleague made this request, he was really embarrassed to refuse.

When it was finally time to get off work, the female colleague was also unceremonious, and directly pulled Zhang Hao to the parking lot. Zhang Hao unlocked the lock, and the colleague sat directly in the co-pilot's seat.

For married people, the co-pilot is an exclusive position that symbolizes sovereignty. In general, that's where the lover is. Then the approach to this female colleague is obviously inappropriate. So how can we improve our ability to deal with others?

1. Be polite and be sure to learn the surrounding culture and etiquette.

I remember the first time I went to a five-star hotel, I was very scared, and all the people I invited were leaders of provincial units. When I entered the private room, I was confused, I didn't know how to use three sets of cups, large and small. So I called the manager of the marketing department and asked him some wine table culture and etiquette.

2. Speak well.

A person who knows how to speak well definitely belongs to a person with high emotional intelligence. The ability to speak well not only expresses one's wishes, but also saves enough face, such people are generally more pleasing. Those who usually speak, get dirty or choke people at every turn, are often not liked.

3. Be honest and trustworthy.

Often from a small thing, we can see the character of this person. I once knew an expert in corporate internal training, and when he went to Beijing, the chairman of a group in Hebei asked him to meet at 10 o'clock in the morning on Saturday. However, at noon on Saturday, the chairman's **WeChat was still uncontactable.

The answer can be imagined, and the subsequent cooperation has all been abandoned.

If you want to improve your ability to deal with people, then you need to communicate with people more, so that you can expand your thinking and improve your ability to deal with people. You can also practice at home.

I think the main thing is to practice, how to say that this is useless, to treat the person around me as an experimental object, everyone to try, to communicate. This will allow you to shorten your study time, and it may be better to try ten people than to read ten books.