If there is a serious disagreement in the personality, should I get a divorce?

It seems that many reasons for breakups or divorces are personality incompatibility, in fact, if the real personality is completely compatible, everyone will think that this life is too boring, so I think this is just an excuse, you haven't really thought about what the problem between you is!

If you don't value marriage very much, and you feel that you don't love each other at all, then you don't need any excuses, don't dump the blame on your personality, divorce if you want to, there is no need to grind. But if you still have feelings for the other person and don't particularly want to divorce, then you should look for your real problems.

You can sit down and talk calmly about your thoughts, as far as a problem is concerned, you must have a quarrel or also have cold violence, take the most recent time, you ask the other party to talk about your thoughts, you talk about your own thoughts, you both of you think from the other person's point of view, both of you take a step back, try to solve this problem, you will find that there is actually no problem that cannot be solved, you are just too egoistic.

What is the reason for the invalidity of the personality? As long as the personality is different, there will definitely be friction, with friction you should learn to face it, to solve, not to use quarrels or cold violence to solve, but everyone has a tolerant and understanding attitude towards each other, things will be much better.

You can try the method I proposed, if you really feel that you can't get by, just divorce, but don't take the next marriage lightly, I think marriage should be two mature people, people who understand each other and respect each other together, it is sacred, not child's play, you are still too immature in marriage.

In my coming, the person to marry does not need anything, but the personalities must be compatible. Because, getting along with people with incompatible personalities is really, really tiring. With such a person, you will only be noisy for a day, and it is better to separate and live separately.

The most important thing is the word "together", what you are looking for is not a person with the same three views, but a person with the same three views and the same personality.

Compatible personalities mean whether they know how to tolerate each other, understand each other, and respect each other. In marriage, there are many small frictions and quarrels, but these are normal. With these small frictions, it cannot be said that your personalities are not compatible.

However, we must know how to tolerate, understand, and respect, and marriage is a combination of small friction and great tolerance.

A person who thinks that he is good at everything, right in everything, and others are wrong as long as they are different from him, don't marry him, because he doesn't know what it means to be a gentleman and different, so you will never be respected by him, let alone expect to be compatible with his personality. A person who only has himself in his eyes and no one else is narrow-minded to say that he is small, but in fact he is selfish. We all know that it is really tiring to get along with a selfish person.

It's also tiring to be with someone who doesn't know how to tolerate at all. <>

The people you really should get married are those who know how to respect and are willing to tolerate you. A husband and wife, as long as they know how to respect each other, will not be too sad. No one is a saint or a sage, and when you do something wrong, you should have someone who will tolerate and respect you.

He will give you support, give you encouragement, and give you courage. And not a person who finds fault with you all day and argues with you.

Just like Sanmao and Jose, they love each other and can understand and tolerate each other. We all know that Sanmao has always liked to wander the world, and his heart wants to go to the Sahara, and when Jose learned about it, he resolutely applied for a job transfer to the Sahara. Sanmao later wrote in "The Story of the Sahara" that at the moment when Jose came to the Sahara for her, she had already decided to live and never give up.

Many people hope that "I want to have a single-minded person, and the white head is not separated", however, I prefer "those who know me, say I am worried" It is good to find a single-minded person in love, but when you get married, I prefer to find someone who understands yourself, of course, this is not a conflict.

Your personalities are already seriously incompatible, it is better to divorce, the rest of your life is so long, are you afraid that you will not find someone who matches your personality? This separation is just to prepare for the next encounter. If you can't get by, there's no need to force yourself, there's no need to compromise and seek perfection, if you're unhappy, just separate.

It doesn't matter if you have different personalities, but if you have a serious disagreement, don't force yourself together.

Nowadays, there are many people, they are in the stage of falling in love, they will find a lot of good about each other, and then they slowly get married and find that the other party may not be as good as we imagined, and the other party may have many shortcomings that they can't accept, so now there will be many people who choose to divorce, this road.

To be honest, in today's society, divorce is a very common phenomenon, we may know in every family that there may be a certain person in their family who is divorced, China's divorce rate is gradually rising every year with the development of society, but I think divorce, although it is very common, but it is not a trivial matter, because in marriage we involve too many factors, marriage has both parents, and there may be our children, we divorce without permission is a manifestation of irresponsibility for them.

If you find that your personality is seriously incompatible in your marriage, you can find a time to sit down and have a good chat, maybe because there is less communication between you, so a long time will cause such a factor, but when it comes to divorce, you must think carefully, because divorce involves too many people, he is not your own business, she is a family, or even a major event of two families. You can find time to go out and talk, the two of you can talk, solve this problem, of course it's good, you don't need a divorce, you can live, a very fulfilling life.

If you really can't solve such a problem and don't want to divorce, you also want to say hello to both parents or if you have children. Divorce is common, but it is also necessary to think carefully, and it is better not to make decisions about the affairs of the two families.

In today's social reality, there are many marriages that are not based on feelings, and in some cases marriage may be just a means of transaction, some for life, some for money, and some for power, and choose to maintain an emotionless marriage, such a marriage may not be broken for a lifetime. But everyone in this marriage is destined to have no happiness in their lives.

A happy and beautiful marriage must be built on a deep relationship, and the important point of the establishment of feelings is that the character of two people, if the personality of two people is not compatible, then it is like two gears that are not a set are forcibly combined together and pressed into the machine, and the two gears must wear out each other under the forced operation of the machine, and eventually both gears will be scrapped, and the two people will only hurt each other in the end, ending in a lose-lose result. It's not good for anyone. A perfect marriage requires two people's personalities to adapt to each other, tolerate each other and complement each other, and it does not have to be the same personality.

But it must not be like two gears that are not a set of gears forcibly grouped together and hurt each other, nor can they be like the tip of a needle to Mai Mang. If that's the case, you can still be together, and there may be some inseparable chains between the two people, forcibly maintaining the two people, so maybe it's not impossible to be together, after all, everyone's pursuit is different. If being together is already a burden for two people, then it may be a relief to be separated.

Serious personality inconsistency, there may be many things that two people cannot reach a consensus, or even-for-tat slowly will produce contradictions The continuation of time, the contradiction may become deeper and deeper, and eventually once it erupts, the consequences may be beyond our control, so we must carefully consider not to regret it.

I don't think it has to be divorced, in fact, many couples will feel that their personalities are incompatible after marriage, but you still lack tolerance, if you know how to be tolerant, you won't care so much.

Divorce-related formalities can be handled through divorce by agreement or litigation divorce. Litigation divorce refers to a divorce system in which the husband and wife cannot reach an agreement on whether to divorce or the division of property, the sharing of debts, the maintenance of children, etc., and file a lawsuit with the people's court to dissolve the marriage relationship through mediation or judgment.

1. The requirements and full text of the divorce lawsuit.

In principle, there are no conditions, as long as one of the spouses wants to divorce, they can sue the court for divorce. There are two ways to get divorced, one is divorce by agreement and the other is divorce by litigation. If both parties reach an agreement, they can sign a divorce agreement and go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to register the divorce.

Litigation divorce refers to a divorce system in which the husband and wife cannot reach an agreement on whether to divorce or the division of property, the sharing of debts, the maintenance of children, etc., and file a lawsuit with the people's court, and the people's court dissolves the marriage relationship through mediation or judgment after trial. As long as one party wants to divorce and the other party does not agree, or both parties want to divorce but cannot reach an agreement on issues such as property, creditor's rights and debts, children, etc., they can file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court with jurisdiction.

Article 1076 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China.

Where the husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority.

The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

Article 1079.

Where one of the spouses requests a divorce, the relevant organizations may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court.

People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

Divorce can be obtained if the personality is incompatible. However, it is generally necessary for both parties to dissolve the marriage relationship by way of divorce by mutual agreement or divorce by litigation. In the case of divorce by agreement, both husband and wife must voluntarily divorce, sign a written divorce agreement in accordance with the law, and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority.

After a cooling-off period of 30 days, you can get a divorce certificate, and if you file for divorce, you need to submit a complaint to the court, and if the court fails to mediate in accordance with the law and confirms that the relationship has broken down, the divorce shall be granted.

Legal basis] Article 10 of the Marriage Registration Regulations.

Where a mainland resident voluntarily divorces, both the man and the woman shall jointly go to the marriage registration authority at the place where one of the parties has permanent residence to register the divorce.

Article 11. Mainland residents who have registered for divorce shall present the following documents and supporting materials:

1) The person's household registration booklet and ID card;

2) The person's marriage certificate;

3) A divorce agreement signed by both parties.

Article 12. In any of the following circumstances, the marriage registration authority shall not accept the divorce registration of the parties to the divorce registration:

1) Failure to reach a divorce agreement;

2) They are persons with no or limited capacity for civil conduct;

3) The marriage registration was not done in Chinese mainland.

Divorce can be obtained if the personality is incompatible. However, it is generally necessary for both parties to dissolve the marriage relationship by way of divorce by mutual agreement or divorce by litigation. In the case of divorce by agreement, both husband and wife must voluntarily divorce, sign a written divorce agreement in accordance with the law, and apply for divorce registration in person at the marriage registration authority.

After a cooling-off period of 30 days, you can get a divorce certificate, and if you file for divorce, you need to submit a complaint to the court, and if the court fails to mediate in accordance with the law and confirms that the relationship has broken down, the divorce shall be granted. Article 10 of the Marriage Registration Regulations provides that if a mainland resident voluntarily divorces, both the man and the woman shall jointly go to the marriage registration authority at the place where one of the parties has a permanent residence to register the divorce. Article 11 Mainland residents who have gone through divorce registration shall present the following documents and supporting materials:

1) The person's household registration booklet and ID card; 2) The person's marriage certificate; 3) A divorce agreement signed by both parties. Article 12: In any of the following circumstances, the marriage registration authorities shall not accept the divorce if the parties to the divorce registration process have failed: (1) they have not reached a divorce agreement; 2) They are persons with no or limited capacity for civil conduct; 3) The marriage registration was not done in Chinese mainland.