What was it like to go from being very confident to being very unconfident?

The process of accepting that you are not good enough is painful. I should be at this stage right now.

I wasn't very confident before, I was just sure that I could be praised, that I could do better than others. Not now, I'm in a place I'm not good at at all.

In college, I didn't like my major very much, not that I didn't fit it at all, and many of my friends used to think that I was a good fit for it. In fact, how can a superficial fit make sense?

When I was in high school, although I was not good at numbering, and even took the first place in my class, I was not in pain at that time, and I had a will in my heart that I would definitely be able to overcome it. Because my Chinese language is not bad, no one in the class can compare with me. Yes, the self-confidence of all eyes is, admittedly, happy.

In college, my major is not at all related to what I am good at, to be precise, although what I am good at, although useful, is not the standard for evaluating people.

What's more, I also have a very powerful roommate. So, I really don't like to get along with him. But how can I pull it down?

So I was crazy about the past and hated the present. The environment, the people, the events, everything turned me into a complaining piece of waste.

I admitted my unbearability again and again, and rekindled the fighting spirit in my heart again and again, but the reality hit me again and again: You are weak. There's nothing like having someone you don't like living around you and also hitting you countless times.

How can I be willing? The person I don't like is better than me? Got more, than me?

I have dissected my heart countless times, telling myself, bear with me, I will return to my Taoyuan hometown in the future, and I will not see or encounter these nasty things again in the future.

After all, I chose to forbear. Because I'm vain and hypocritical. And cowardice, hypocrisy, jealousy... I have also thought more than once that all the dark places of human nature may have sprouted in my heart.

But what about that? I still laugh every day, I don't hate anyone, I don't like anyone.

All I can say is that it was a very, very bad experience.

When I was in high school, I was always at the top of my class, often at the top of my class, and I was appointed by my teacher as a member of the study committee of my class, and although I sometimes did poorly in exams, I never got below the top five in my class, and I was very confident that I could get into the school I wanted to go to. Later, after the results of the college entrance examination, I couldn't even go to one or two books, that feeling as if I had fallen from heaven to hell, I began to question myself, I was decadent for more than a month, and then because I was unwilling, I dropped out of the school I had already applied for, and chose to repeat. <>

And now, I got my wish and was admitted to the school of my choice, and I was very confident in myself, but after taking an English class, I found that my English was still good or bad, and the classmates in the class were so good, whether it was studying or the student union, the competition was very large, and slowly, I became unconfident again.

This feeling is really bad, it makes people feel depressed, irritable, and helpless. Although I have adjusted my mindset now and stopped focusing on the results, the feeling is still unforgettable.

I have experienced this feeling, especially painful, there is a feeling of falling from heaven to hell, my heart is very uncomfortable, in the third year of high school, our school mock exams are very much, every time the whole school ranking, the policy of the class is to enter the top three hundred rewards, I have the motivation to study now, I must study hard. Two months, every day in addition to meal time and sleep time, the rest of the time is studying, when it comes to the exam, I am particularly confident, I feel that two months, my grades must be the most rapid improvement in the class, that exam I am very excited, full of myself can be praised by the teacher scene.

The exam is over, I feel very good, I always feel that I have no problem in the top ten in the class, the teacher sent the answer, let us evaluate the score by ourselves, I don't even want to read the answer, I feel that I have been in the exam for a long time and there is no need to answer the answer. I thought like this, I really thought about it very well, and when the results were announced, I looked at my name from the front, and there was no front, I just saw my name from the back, and I saw my name at a glance, I almost fainted, I couldn't accept such a thing, I thought it must be the teacher who added the wrong score to me, it couldn't be so low, and my heart was extremely cold all of a sudden. I returned to my place and felt very angry, which meant that my two months of hard work had been in vain, and it turned out that I was not as good as I thought.

I don't want to eat for a day, I feel more uncomfortable than fighting, so I don't have the preparation to accept, I was very confident, after the results, I really don't feel confident, I don't want to face the reality needs to be accepted, since then, I have to be in the state of mind between self-confidence and unconfidence, I think this state is the best, to be able to recognize myself, in order to find a way to improve, this is also a very test of me, I need to adjust my mentality, prepare well, always be prepared to be hit by the storm.

If a person becomes very confident, he actually needs some ideas to maintain and make himself more confident. Bandura, a psychologist, developed the concept of self-efficacy in social learning theory. Self-efficacy refers to an individual's assessment of their ability to successfully cope with a particular situation.

In other words, it's about how much you believe you can do something well.

The theory of self-efficacy is concerned not with what skills someone has, but with what an individual can do with the skills they have.

According to Bandura, there are four main factors that determine self-efficacy in a given situation:

1.Behavioral achievement: Efficacy expectations depend primarily on what has happened in the past; Previous successes lead to high performance expectations, while previous failures lead to low performance expectations.

2.Vicarious experience: Observing the successes and failures of others can have a similar effect on self-efficacy as one's own, but to a lesser extent.

3.Verbal persuasion: Self-efficacy can increase when someone you respect feels strongly that you are capable of successfully coping with a situation.

4.Emotional arousal: High levels of arousal can cause people to experience anxiety and tension and reduce self-efficacy.

Some people still have low self-esteem despite their superior conditions (material or non-material)", which shows that self-confidence is not completely determined by one's own conditions, but is also closely related to how individuals perceive their own worth. The analysis of the factors behind the theory of self-efficacy may tell us that the formation of self-confidence is influenced by many aspects: past and failed experiences, the environment (including important interpersonal relationships, whether it can provide more tolerance, support, and understanding), and one's own personality traits.