Brotherly disharmony in the family is largely caused by parents, why do you say that?

Updated on society 2024-07-27
27 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    As you can see, some family brothers are very harmonious, happy and full of family affection. But in some families, the brothers are very discordant, and they look at each other as if they were enemies, although they are related by blood.

    's relatives also don't get along with each other when they die of old age.

    In fact, for most families, a large part of the cause of brotherly disharmony is directly caused by the parents. Why do I say that? Let's help you analyze the reasons now.

    When I say two brothers, I mean two brothers of the same father and mother, not two brothers of the same father or mother. That kind of brother, the relationship is already complicated, and it is not surprising that it is not harmonious.

    The two brothers, born to the same father and mother, grew up in the same family. They were born to the same parents, but they may be treated differently at home. The reason for this difference is, of course, their parents.

    Some parents are really partial to their children. It is said that parents "a bowl of water is difficult to level", which is very understandable, and it can also allow them to be a little eccentric. But the problem now is that they are not a little biased, but too much.

    Most families will favor the younger son, and it is normal for the eldest son to be wronged. I used to have a neighbor who was like this at home, and they had two sons who were two years apart in age, but their parents were very fond of the younger son and not very good to the eldest son. The younger son who gets a preference is also very rude to the eldest son.

    Finally one day, the 13-year-old eldest son, the more he thought about it, the more aggrieved he became, he really couldn't figure out why Zhou was the son of his parents, he was so unlikable to his parents, he felt that life was boring, so he wanted to commit suicide by jumping into the river. Fortunately, his uncle was at their house at the time, and found that his eldest son was missing, so he searched everywhere, and later found his eldest son who was about to jump by the river near their house. After his eldest son was rescued, he cried heartbreakingly at home, and we as neighbors were also distressed to hear it.

    After this incident, his parents treated him a little better, but they still clearly favored the younger son. Now that their two sons have grown up and become a family, the relationship is very unharmonious, they usually don't interact, but on holidays, they occasionally go to their parents' house for dinner, which is also pretending to show their parents. It is certain that after their parents are gone, the two families will definitely not interact.

    Therefore, it is best for parents not to be too partial, causing disharmony among brothers.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    It's mainly because parents can't level a bowl of water, so there is no harmony between brothers.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    It can only be said that parents may be partial, and they can't balance both bowls of water when they encounter things, and some families prefer younger children, so the disharmony between brothers is largely caused by parents.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    When one parent is partial to one side, the other parent is unhappy and feels that he has suffered a loss, so he will resent his brother, which will lead to discord between the brothers.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I don't think it's all the parents' reasons, of course, the unhappiness of the elders' family life does have a certain psychological impact on the children.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I think it's really the parents who do it, because in a family with many siblings, it's very likely that the parents will favor one of the children and cause the other children to feel uncomfortable.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Personally, I think that the reason for this really comes down to their parents, because when they were young, their parents favored one of the children.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Brothers and sisters are close no matter what, in addition to their parents, the closest people in the world, because they grew up together and know each other's personalities very well, so they still have a closer relationship. It's just that the state of expression of this affection between brothers and sisters and brothers is differentBecause girls may be relatively more attentive, boys are less likely to express that emotion.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think siblings are more close, and the disharmony between brothers is often due to economic factors.

    Affected by the factors of the times, many people have siblings in their families. However, in real life, brothers are often not as close as brothers and sisters, especially after they organize their own families, and there will even be disharmony between brothers.

    Family affection also needs to be managed, and it takes enough time to get along with each other to cultivate feelings. In real life, compared with boys, girls tend to be more delicate and can take care of their brothers' emotions and lives. This is a relationship that has been precipitated in the process of growing up since childhood, and the emotions between sisters and brothers are often enviable.

    The relationship between brothers often begins to compete since childhood, whether it is the attention of their parents, or toys and snacks, it seems that the relationship between brothers has been antagonistic since childhood.

    Although this relationship is also very close, compared with the relationship between sisters and brothers, there seems to be a little bit of separation in between. Especially for brothers with a large age gap, the two people are more like familiar ordinary friends than brothers.

    Most of the disharmony between brothers is due to economic interests. The relationship between me and my brother is not very good, and the reason is that he can only take advantage of it, and he can't suffer losses. We live in the same city, and over the years, I have helped him countless times, but when I go to him for any problems, he always shirks them.

    We don't have much contact in our daily lives, although we say that we are brothers, but we are not as good as friends. In addition, he got married earlier, I got married later, and my parents spent more money on me, which has always been a problem for him.

    In fact, in real life, whether it is a brother or a sister and brother, blood relations are always indelible. Whether the relationship between two people is harmonious or not, when their parents are alive, they can always get along on the surface.

    Only by living your life well can you have the spare energy to help your siblings, which is actually one of the most important factors affecting the quality of the relationship between relatives.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Generally, sisters and brothers are relatively close, and because it is difficult for brothers to get along with each other, conflicts are prone to occur, which affects the feelings of brothers.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think it's brothers, although there is no harmony between brothers, it is because the temper between two men is relatively impulsive, so it is not only harmony.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I think that in life, sisters and brothers are relatively close, and many brothers still have the problem of competing for inheritance, so they are not harmonious.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    In fact, brothers and sisters are very close to each other, after all, they are all biological, born to parents, and some brothers are not compatible, the main reason is because of some interests.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    In fact, in life, some are still close to each other, and the relationship between sisters and brothers is just more taken care of in life, and in the face of major rights and wrongs, brotherhood is more important. And some brothers are at odds because of interests.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    In fact, I think that in life, sisters and brothers should be more cordial, because sisters will take care of their younger brothers more, and the reason why some brothers are not harmonious is mainly because they have to compete for a lot of things.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I think it's still close to siblings, and the disharmony between brothers should be caused by the problems of their parents' property, but there is no such problem between siblings.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I think it's the brothers who are closer to each other. The reason why brothers do not get along with each other is because they have spent too much time together.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It must be that the sister and brother are closer, after all, there are not so many property entanglements between the sister and brother. And brothers need to divide property between each other, so they often fall out.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    In our days, we rarely saw our parents, and when we didn't get up in the morning, our parents had already gone to work, and they had gone to bed after dinner in the evening, and my parents came back from overtime work. They go to work, they do sports, they always do sports, it seems that there is never a time to stop. It's hard to see them, but they also annoy us and make us troublesome.

    We were brought up by my grandmother, and my grandmother's education method was sticks. Because we are a big family, my grandmother has to bear the logistics of the whole family, three meals a day, clean up inside and out, sew and wash, and there was no washing machine at that time. So for us, being a good boy is to go to school in a proper manner, do homework after school and help the family more, and honestly don't cause trouble, everything is Amitabha!

    Once you get into trouble, it's very simple, the stick is waiting for .......

    I'm the eldest and the next three younger sisters. We all have different hobbies and interests, and sometimes it is difficult to agree on opinions, and when I encounter a disagreement, I really can't convince it, and I often want to use force to solve it. It worked at first, but as soon as they threatened, they succumbed.

    Later, they found out that there was a strong ** to deal with me, that is, crying, as soon as I cried, my grandmother appeared, and the stick followed, it can be seen that crying is more powerful than force.

    I had no choice but to be unconvinced, and the resentment remained in my heart, and the relationship with my sister was very stiff if I continued like this. When the elder brother is not like the elder brother, and when the younger sister is not like the younger sister, they grow up in mutual hatred. It wasn't until I went to the countryside that suddenly my relationship with my sister was reversed, normalized, and we exchanged letters, encouraged each other, and fought for progress together.

    When I was young, no one told me how to be an older brother, and no one told my sisters how to be a younger sister. Resentment arises and hurts feelings. It can be seen how important the education of parents and family education is.

    Therefore, I agree with the subject. If siblings are not in harmony, parental education and family education have an unshirkable responsibility.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    If the parents can't level the bowl of water, it is very likely that the two brothers will not be in harmony.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Because the parents are partial and cannot treat each son fairly, it will cause the brothers to be discordant, so the parents need to take responsibility.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I think the disharmony between brothers has a lot to do with the education of my parents when they were young. Because parents are the best teachers for their children, their words and deeds have a great impact on their children.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    When there is disharmony between brothers, it is likely that the relationship between brothers will be affected because the parents do not treat them equally, so they have a great responsibility with their parents.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I think this sentence is very reasonable, the discord between brothers really has a lot to do with their parents, if the parents can do a good job of adjusting in it, then the flesh and blood affection will definitely be very deep.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    This is normal! Because the parents are here, there is still a place to come in life, and when the parents go, there is only a way back in life. "For all people, as long as our parents are still there, our hearts still have a direction and belonging. It doesn't matter what new identities and roles siblings have as they develop in their respective circumstances and developments.

    But unity has an identity, that is, the children of parents. The love and bond between parents and children is eternal and deep, as long as there are no unsolvable knots and grudges between children and parents. So no matter what entanglements and grievances there are with other brothers and sisters, then the kindness to parents in my heart can't be let go.

    So I should go to my parents' house every New Year's holiday, just to chat and chat with my parents. And parents are the root of their children's hearts and spiritual pillars. As long as the parents are still there, the brothers and sisters have a hope in their hearts and have motivation, so in the days of reunion, in the days important to the parents, even if the children settle in all corners of the world, they will return to their hometowns to return to their parents despite all difficulties, and the parents are also happy.

    But the parents are gone, the backbone of the entire big family has disappeared, the children have lost the hope in their hearts, and there is no place worth nostalgia for their hometown and hometown. The focus of children's lives is on their own small family and their own life circle, and the common contact between brothers and sisters is becoming less and less, coupled with the fact that they are getting older and older, the juniors begin to string relatives, and the connection between brothers and sisters is getting weaker and weaker.

    Most families with many children have disagreements between their children because of their parents' education, eccentricity, etc., and there is a gap between children and parents. But when the parents are still there, the parents will mediate and maintain the feelings of their children, and the children will not care too much about the face of their parents, and at the same time, in order not to make each other too ugly, they will also endure, the scene and how to do it, and everyone can maintain a superficial peace.

    But once the parents are gone, the person who speaks in the middle is gone. There is a lack of a bridge of communication between brothers and sisters, and there is no need for everyone to compromise, and there is no need to look at whose face it is, many contradictions will erupt directly, once brothers and sisters start to quarrel, the consequences are more ruthless than strangers, this is the cruel reality.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    There are several reasons for disharmony in multi-sibling families.

    The first is that because of the partiality of the parents, a bowl of water is not flat; the second is to intervene too much in each other's family and point fingers at each other's lives; Third, moral kidnapping.

    In short, it is not a good phenomenon that the family of many brothers and sisters is not harmonious

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    1.Brothers and sisters should realize that although the family affection is deep, it lasts forever, and only by constantly maintaining and strengthening the relationship between brothers and sisters can we create a happy and harmonious family atmosphere.

    2.As siblings grow up, they may actively or passively share family tasks and take care of each other. In order to enhance their own value and achieve their goals, everyone hopes that their efforts can be recognized and rewarded by their families, but this kind of effort may not necessarily be rewarded as they expect.

    Lack of understanding and support may lead to spiritual conflicts between siblings such as blaming each other and complaining.

    3.As siblings grow older, their personal consciousness gradually increases, and their way of seeing things and thinking about things gradually changes. This may lead to obvious differences in concepts, interests, etc., between siblings, and it is easy to produce contradictions in expectations, behavioral habits, and communication styles.

    So how to resolve conflicts between siblings:

    1.Enhance communication and understanding. Exchange ideas, understand each other's ideas and starting points for speeches, eliminate misunderstandings, and find common ground.

    2.Fair negotiation and compromise. Resolve issues of interest through fair and reasonable consultation, and make certain compromises.

    3.Shared care for the family and parents. It is necessary to proceed from the interests of the family and jointly support and care for the elderly in the family. This can enhance feelings and resolve conflicts.

    4.Respect differences, treat others with gentleness. Understand and respect the differences that may exist between siblings, and be tolerant and gentle in their relationship.

    5.Family trust mechanisms. The establishment of mechanisms for coordination and trust within the family, as well as regular communication and consultation on family and sibling matters, can help to enhance understanding and resolve conflicts.

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