What harm will be brought to children if the family relationship is not harmonious?

The family can be said to be the paradise where children grow up at the beginning, and in a harmonious family, the children raised are positive, helpful, and kind. However, if the family relationship is not harmonious, then after the child has been living in this family for a long time, various psychological problems will appear.

1. Lack of love. I don't know if you noticed when you were in school, some students always do it alone in the corner, alone, playing alone, eating alone, and going home alone. However, some children are very optimistic, actively playing with their classmates and helping each other.

This is actually the difference between them due to family reasons, the family relationship is not harmonious, the children who are raised, lack love, because they have not really been loved by their parents, and the environment they live in has been endless quarrels and cold wars. Therefore, these children will not easily play with their classmates in the classroom, because they have never been truly loved, so they will not love and trust others.

2. Psychological problems are prone to occur.

Family relationships are not harmonious, parents are always quarrelling, children have a lot of troubles to solve during adolescence, and parents are often the people they have the most contact with, so parents should play the role of teachers in this regard. However, if the family relationship is not harmonious, the child will not confide in his parents, and over time, there will be serious psychological problems, which will cause immeasurable damage.

3. Have an inferiority complex.

When the child sees that other families are all out and playing with each other, or taking a walk with the family, but their own family is always arguing. It will produce a feeling in the heart that you are always inferior to others, and over time, this feeling will be transformed into an inferiority complex, which is very detrimental to the child's physical and mental health.

Therefore, a harmonious family is very important for the child's growth, and it can often determine a child's personality and psychological problems in the future. Therefore, for the sake of the physical and mental health of your children, please have a harmonious family.

Children will have low self-esteem, lack of security, and have no opinions from an early age! It is also easy to have a rebellious mentality.

Psychological, personality, social, etc., the disharmony between parents will cause a child's psychological shadow, and his personality will also become introverted, irritable and irritable, which will affect his problems in social and interpersonal communication.

Affect the child's three views. In fact, a family with a bad family relationship also has a lot of problems. If it weren't for the fact that people were scheming with each other and only thinking about their own interests, it would not be so easy for families to have conflicts with each other.

And the scheming character between family members, those who always complain about each other, will be heard by your children. Under the influence of ears and eyes, your child will become an egoist, which will seriously affect the child's three views.

What harm will be brought to children if the family relationship is not harmonious?Children who live in a stressful atmosphere for a long time have low growth hormone levels, stunted growth in adulthood and an increased proportion of various diseases, and may lead to psychological disorders.

Family disharmony brings inferiority complex to children, affects children's life, and even some children will have a sense of fear of marriage when they grow up, and some children will go on extreme paths, psychologically unhealthy, and so on.

Clause. 1. The child is insecure.

Parents are the closest people to their children, and children do not allow anyone to abuse their parents and speak ill of their parents. In a child's heart, parents are all they have.

But if the parents quarrel for a long time, it will make the child insecure, and the child's only reliance is on the parents, but the parents always quarrel and fight. In a quarrel, it is inevitable to say some radical words, these words, on the surface, may have no impact on the child, but in fact, these words have a great impact on the child.

A child who has grown up in a quarrelsome family for a long time will also grow up insecure. So for the sake of the children, please don't quarrel.

Clause. 2. The child's character defects.

Long-term quarrels between parents can cause children to become introverted and withdrawn. Children who often live in this kind of family atmosphere tend to have low self-esteem, sensitivity, and cowardice, and many times they are also influenced by their parents, becoming very irritable, and even violent. If the parents quarrel a lot, it is easy for the child to quarrel with his or her significant other over small things when he grows up and has a family.

So for the sake of the children, please don't quarrel.

Third, reluctance to communicate with others.

Parents are their children's first teachers and role models. In the process of children's growth, long-term quarrels between parents will lead to children's insecurity, distrust of social people, and reluctance to communicate with others. At work, I don't want to cooperate and share with others, and in life, I don't know how to communicate with others.

When I grow up, I will only be picky, quarrelsome, and even violent towards my other half.

So love children, please don't quarrel in front of your children, just like us husband and wife, if you want to quarrel, you have to wait until the child is asleep, or when the child is not at home. Many times the quarrels between husband and wife are because of trivial things, and I put up with it at the time, and when I calmed down, I found that it was all trivial. I hope all parents learn from it.

Between husband and wife, frequent quarrels will leave an indelible shadow on the fragile and young hearts of children. The most obvious effects are the following, as a parent, you may wish to take a look!

1. Irritable and withdrawn.

Husbands and wives often quarrel, to be honest, it is nothing more than the child who is hurt, for a long time this will affect the child's character, the original well-behaved and sensible baby, if you often see your parents quarreling in front of you, the personality will become more excited, irritable, and even become grumpy and withdrawn.

In the inner world of children, they often think that other people's families are so harmonious and beautiful, and slowly form a lack of good speech in front of classmates, isolation, etc. There are many words and deeds imitating us adults, because the child's first teacher is the parents, if the vicious behavior of quarreling in front of the child, then, the look and behavior during the quarrel, the child will also see it in the eyes or contain, but also in the heart, so that over time, the child's personality will become very irritable.

2. Lack of sense of security, gain and loss.

I believe that there are many irrational parents, as soon as their heads are hot, they start to shout regardless of who is around, and the children must be scared to cry and be scared, and even think about whether you will be separated, and the stool may lack the company of the mother or baby after laughing, etc.

Parents quarrel in front of their children, it is best not to do this kind of picture of a very hurtful thick chain quarrel in front of the child, because this will make the child feel very frightened and helpless, and seeing the parents quarrel again and again makes the child seriously insecure. In fact, at this time, the child's heart is very fragile and soft. I have read a relevant statistic, 80% of adults who are afraid of marriage have the experience of discord or frequent quarrels with their parents in their early years, and they are disappointed in marriage, and even fearful, which is an insecure factor formed in their early psychology, which has an impact on the child's life.

There are three effects on the child. 1. Cause character defects.

Children who grow up in such families have low self-esteem and sensitivity, some are cowardly and timid, and some are easily irritable and even violent. An older boy said that when he was a child, his parents quarreled, and he always endured it; Later, when his parents quarreled, he would yell at them. And now, he feels that his temper is out of control, and he can't help but want to vent when he sees something unpleasant.

2. Be pessimistic about life.

Many people said that due to the influence of their families, they grew up to be a complete pessimist. Some people say that for the same thing, others may see the positive and positive side, but they can always find a lot of negative things.

3. Lack of self-confidence.

Parents who are easy to quarrel with their lovers, most of them lack tolerance and patience with their children, and children can easily become parents' punching bags, and abuse and blows often occur, and over time, children's self-confidence is ruthlessly destroyed.

4. Indifference to family affection.

Many people have said that when their parents quarrel, every minute is torment, and they wish they could escape from this home immediately, and many people have the idea of running away from home. Because I can't feel the warmth and harmony of home, I am also very indifferent to family affection, and it is difficult to be coquettish and willful in front of my parents, and I am even reluctant to go home for a long time after adulthood. Others have said that they hate their parents even more than they love.

The warmth and harmony of the family is very important to the healthy physical and mental growth of children, and the disharmony of family relations is very harmful to the healthy physical and mental growth of children. The disharmony of family relations will make the parents and grandparents, and parents and children lack the necessary communication, which will make the family atmosphere very cold, which will hurt the child's mind, will make the child's personality change, will make the child's personality distorted, will make the child's mind traumatized, will make the child's mind disordered. The disharmony of the family relationship will make the child lack the necessary care and caress the child.

There is really this factor, and parents should deal with the relationship with their children. First of all, when parents feel bad emotions, first be aware of the emotions, and then try to find ways to adjust, such as sharing their feelings with their partners and finding solutions together, if the partner is unable to provide support, you can practice breathing relaxation, relaxation, or divert attention, such as reading, housework, exercise, etc. When a hedgehog hugs someone, it will definitely prick the other.

Therefore, only after dealing with your bad emotions can you maintain a peaceful mood and get along with your children.

Secondly, parents should understand their children's emotional and psychological changes, changes in children's living habits and learning styles will produce bad emotions, and they should try to accept and empathize with their children's emotions, give the greatest understanding and support, and truly regret sharing their emotional and psychological changes with their children. This is a very important point and also lays a solid foundation for a healthy and stable parent-child relationship.

Third, it is important to maintain boundaries and preserve space. Parents do their own work and household chores and do not have to "supervise" their children's every move all the time. Of course, some children's self-discipline may not be so good, and when the child cannot manage his or her own learning and rest, the family should "remind" them, make a plan with the child, and reward and punish them if necessary.

Fourth, the goal of parenting is physical and mental health, so in addition to learning, parents can arrange some activities and topics to promote parent-child relationship, so that sharing time becomes loving, fun, and effective.

Fifth, if there is a parent-child conflict, then congratulations, because you have found a problem between your parent-child relationship, this conflict provides you with an opportunity to promote a closer relationship, good communication is the magic weapon to resolve the conflict and promote the relationship.