In life, how to solve the problem of losing your temper if you don t succeed in playing with toys?

Baby playing with toys. If you don't know how to play, you're very angry. Parents should guide their children to tell them that playing with toys is unsuccessful, and that they should play in a different way.

Anger won't solve anything, and it's not good for your health. There are also parents who should guide their children to tell their children how to play, so that the children will not lose their temper.

At this time, parents should first be patient, and secondly, let the child understand that he has nothing to do with toys and adults, and should not lose his temper at will.

The first point should be to reason with the child, tell the child that he should learn to use his brain, tantrum is very bad, a behavior to guide the child, the second point should tell the child, do everything should use the brain, let yourself solve difficulties, let the child face difficulties, the third point should cultivate the child's positive spirit, so that the child slowly becomes a good temper.

A child's rebellion is not formed in a day. With the accumulation of some undesirable factors, the child's rebellious behavior will become more and more aggravated. If parents do not use reasonable methods to guide their children, then the children will become more and more rebellious.

More seriously. What should I do if my child is too rebellious?

Learn to communicate with your child and listen to their ideas

Parents think their children are unreasonable, but they are reasonable in the eyes of their children. This is the lack of communication between parents and children. Therefore, it is not that parents are required to respond to their children's requests, but after the children make requests, parents must understand the children's inner thoughts and then decide whether to buy them for their children, which will reduce the child's rebellious feelings.

Unified concept

Because children's values and views of right and wrong are completely given to children by parents from an early age, it is necessary to develop a unified standard. You can't rely on your parents' mood to judge right or wrong. If it is a mistake of principle, parents should have a unified concept.

Make rules for your child

Parents should set clear rules with their children in advance. This rule is not only for children to follow, but also for parents. It is suitable for the whole family. In this way, the child will not resist the rules, and parents can lead by example and give their children stronger role models and positive strength.

Get to know the child

There is only one way to understand people: don't be impatient when judging people. When a child talks to his parents about a topic that he is very interested in, parents should listen carefully and do not perfunctory or ignore them.

If parents are busy with their own affairs at this time, they can patiently explain the reasons to their children so that they can understand themselves. In this way, the child will feel from the bottom of his heart that this is a manifestation of the parents' respect for the child.

Pay attention to your child's self-development

The rebellious phase is the one that can be completely overcome. As long as parents help their children patiently and carefully, they will not ignore the details of their children's growth and believe that their children can have a healthy and happy growth environment.

Know how to listen

Listen to your child, understand his inner feelings and needs, and understand his or her thoughts. Only understanding can understand and understand, and the relationship between children and parents can be improved.

Solve the child's emotional problems first, and when the child wants to buy it, we should calm his emotions and don't let him lose his temper, so that we can listen to our words. There is a reason why we told him not to buy toys, such as having them at home, for example, this time, you didn't tell me in advance that you wanted to buy toys, which has disrupted my plans, so I can't buy them for you. If you have to lose your temper, then I will wait for you quietly here, and when you are done with your temper, we have to go back.

You can't buy toys for him, he will see that you compromised this time to buy him, and next time he will ask you to buy something else, you have to make him understand by giving examples that it is not easy to make money.

I don't think it's important to be used to him in everything, it will make him take it for granted, be strict when you should be strict, and don't be afraid of him crying.

In China's social environment of "filial piety with sticks" and "no quarrel, no can be won", the absolute authority of parents over their children has been formed. This violent environment can stifle too much of a child's creativity and imagination. Let parents turn a lot of children into cowardly, hypocritical children.

How to control your temper without scolding your child?

1) Accept yourself and find the reason.

Everyone has their own emotions. In fact, there is nothing wrong with anger itself, it is just an expression of emotion. And how to deal with such emotions, it is very important to find a solution.

First, we need to learn to accept our emotions. When we sense anger coming, we can try to take a deep breath or actively withdraw to calm ourselves down and solve the problem. When we accept our emotions, we can better communicate with our children.

2) Listen with empathy.

Everyone wants to be respected and understood. When communicating with children, we can try to put ourselves in the child's shoes. When we are willing to listen to our children sincerely, we believe that children will also feel and be willing to talk and communicate with us.

3) Be kind and firm.

When we want your child to stop doing things he shouldn't do, or do things you want him to do, communicate with him in a friendly and firm manner. For example, when a child is playing a game loud, we can gently but firmly tell him "I feel very uncomfortable because you are playing a loud game, please play with your voice low." Stop playing!

The effect is much better.

The impact of frequent tantrums on children by parents:

01 Children are prone to lack of love and insecurity, and are prone to low self-esteem.

Children who are always scolded for no reason, or even treated violently, can easily deny themselves and think that they are not worthy of love and love. In the long run, the child will develop fear, timidity, timidity, submissiveness, and no opinion.

02 When I grow up, my temper becomes irritable and unreasonable.

Parents are the child's first teacher, and the child's behavior is learned by observing, learning, and imitating the behavior of the parents. If parents lose their temper at any time in their daily life and work, then the child will gradually learn to lose his temper and use tantrums to solve the problems he encounters. In daily interpersonal interactions, Chakong likes to lose his temper, and everyone wants to avoid it.

03 Causing disharmony in the parent-child relationship.

Tantrums are a negative energy in themselves. If parents often lose their temper and pass on negative energy, it is easy to make the family atmosphere tense and even lead to disharmony in the parent-child relationship. Growing up in a family with such negative energy, children will have a deep sense of bondage and suffocation, resentment, and want to leave their parents and run away from the family.

1.First of all, every child has their own nature. Many times, only by respecting their nature can they grow better.

In this case, parents should be able to respect and understand the child. Even if they are occasionally naughty, it is a natural relief. In this way, they can get along better with their children.

2.For short-tempered parents, since they have decided to have children, they should be able to regret and control their emotions in life. When you can't control your temper, you must give yourself a little independent space, and learn to use the right way to alleviate your negative emotions, so that you will not beat and scold the child.

It should be the choice to tell yourself that your children are like this, there is no big deal, you can choose to listen to ** to relax or go shopping.

You must control your temper without yourself, you must understand that the child is still young now, and needs to be tolerated by his parents, if you beat and scold him, it is likely to leave a shadow on him, and you must think twice.

Strictly speaking, a 4-year-old child really is not as serious as "rebellion", that is, stubborn or "sensitive period". What matters is parental guidance and follow-up attention and communication. Children are particularly naughty, temperament is still very irritable, toys play for a while and don't want to play, how should parents educate it?

First of all,Education should be unified. Generally speaking, the elderly pamper and dote on their children more, and they are often unprincipled. Therefore, parents should set good rules for the elderly, "educate" their parents more, and tell them that they are also parents.

To educate the next generation, parents must take the lead in education, which is more conducive to the growth of children.

Secondly,Less reasoning, more short language. Don't underestimate your child, thinking that "he's still too young to understand anything." In fact, there are many truths or taboos in life, and parents will often educate their children.

For example, what things are dangerous and should not be touched, which actions are dangerous and should not be done, etc. At this time, if the child deliberately makes another mistake, it is not a matter of ignorance. Maybe he's trying to challenge your authority.

Don't reason at this time, but tell him in short words not to do this, the harm and consequences of doing so! For example: No!

Lie down! It's dangerous for you to play with knives, and you're going to hurt yourself! Note that when saying these words, parents should pay attention to the tone, use a gentle and firm tone, and do not carry emotions such as anger, otherwise the child may still feel that this is the parent's attention to him, which is very interesting.

Again,Punishment should be appropriate. It can't be too light or too heavy. You clap the child's hand, and the child is still laughing, indicating that there is no punishment.

This is a very regrettable thing, because such a punishment not only makes the parents feel distressed, but also does not play the educational role it should have, and the child may be punished next time. We punish a child with a change of meaning, not a punishment for him in the future. We're not talking about spanking kids.

This is just a punishment for the child's discipline-building phase.

Finally,Reasonable disregard for the principle. Let him know that if he does something wrong, it will deprive his parents of their attention for a while! For example, don't look at him, ignore him, don't talk to him, control the time by yourself, such as 15 minutes or half an hour, during this period, strictly follow the principle of "reasonable ignorance" Time has passed, you can still continue to come back to play with him, after doing so for a period of time, the parent's educational prestige will slowly recover, and the child will be more obedient.

First of all, parents should learn to restrain their temper and emotions, and not to get angry at their children easily. Secondly, parents should learn to communicate with their children rationally about their thoughts and gestures, so that their children have an objective feeling of being respected and understood, and children will also reflect on their words and deeds. Calendar.

In daily life, parents should play a good role model and set a good example for their children. When children care about others and make humble concessions, parents should give praise in time and eliminate certain factors that strengthen resistance to bad behaviors, so as to reduce the occurrence of bad behaviors.

First of all, it is very likely that parents have been too doting on their children before, so let the children's personalities check whether they are right or wrong, and they will become very irritable when they encounter some things that do not suit their hearts.

The child is very naughty, and if he is not satisfied, he will be angry, and at this time, the parents of the chain clan cannot beat the child. Parents can use a more correct way to educate their children, such as agreeing with their children about relevant things and the three chapters of the law with their children, in this case, they can educate their children in a better way. And in this process, parents can also choose to give their children positive guidance, which is also very important for children.

Some parents feel that their children are particularly noisy, so they want to hit their children, and hitting them is the worst impact on their children.

Parents should treat their children in the right way and influence their children with the right behavior, rather than making the child correct by beating and scolding the child, because scolding the child will not cause any positive guidance to the child, on the contrary, it will make the child very rebellious. All this is very bad for children, and it can also lead to all kinds of problems for children, so parents must remember not to casually scold children. This kind of behavior is very disrespectful to one's own children, and it is still very harmful to children.

Mom and dad should not always think about guiding their children in this way, and must remember to treat their children's growth with the right attitude. Only in this way can children become better and better. If the child has related problems at this time, then parents should also remember to use the right attitude to deal with the closed key.

Parents can communicate carefully with their children by becoming friends with their children, and figure out what the children are thinking in the process of communication. Only in this way can we get a better education for our children, and in the process, children can also get better guidance.

At this time, children should not be beaten, adults should use the right way to communicate with children, if you beat and scold children, it will cause unpositive guidance, and will make children more rebellious. You can get along with your child like a friend, and communicate well.