How to get rid of the shortcomings of careful eyes? How is the eye formed? How to change it?

Haha, I used to have the same problem as you, this.

How to say it. Have you put yourself in a leadership position?

This leadership position is in your heart, not recognized, or do you feel that you are above the people around you?

If anything. You'd better put your posture down.

Because even if you think you're hiding yourself well, a smile is enough to betray you.

If everyone around you will come to refute you, then it must be your own problem, only if you have any habits that make a group of people around you unhappy, they will be like this, once you fall into such a strange circle, it will be more troublesome.

Because you will feel isolated, and the only way to solve it is to talk less and see more.

There is no 100% certainty about anything, and no opinion is expressed.

If only one or two people will come to contradict you, then this kind of prickly head, you 54 them will be fine.

As for the careful eye.

You may be more face-saving.

This is normal, and observing how your leader behaves in his social circle at that level should give you a little inspiration.

Well, you lack enthusiasm, be kind to others. Join the Youth Volunteers. You'll be very touched.

I believe that the effort will be rewarded. Learn to be grateful when you feel the role and warmth of people who are eager to help you in your heart. You will be moved.

On the contrary, it is the same when you help others. Buy more things to share with others. Fruit those.

Your problem is in most people's minds. So don't worry too much, the solution is very simple, slowly experience and experience life, with the increase of experience, many problems are actually not problems, and you are too lazy to refute. When you slowly understand that many things in life have no answers, or you will find that arguments sometimes do not necessarily get the approval and answers of others, the so-called "careful eyes" will naturally disappear!

People are constantly moving forward, and so are thoughts.

It's normal to be uncomfortable, let yourself go a little

At first glance, you know it's a girl.

Eventually, heart disease requires self-treatment. When you are able to speak up about your problem and face it up to the eye, it is no longer so difficult to solve, and when you can finally look back with a smile, it is no longer a problem.

Be broad-minded. The quickest and best way to solve a problem is to get out of it. After opening the perspective of God, all the hills and ravines in the heart will be swept away. Although this is more demanding for the individual, it is the ultimate solution to the problem.

Live in your own heart, not in the eyes of the outside world. Don't worry too much about it. The world laughs at me for being crazy, and I say you're right. Learn to laugh at yourself and don't blow up like a cat with its tail stepped on at any time. The overreaction from the outside is a testament to the weakness of the heart.

No solution can compare to the strength of the mind. People with strong hearts will humbly accept criticism without feeling that it is a denial of themselves, and will laugh when they are harmless malice. But a big heart and a strong heart don't mean it's weak.

The more serious malice, should rise up and defend themselves. It's not about being careful, it's just about protecting yourself.

Reading is a great way to make your mind strong, and although it is a slow process, even if it has nothing to do with it, I sincerely hope that you will read more. Books can enrich people's hearts, and over time, a strong heart will save you a lot of trouble.

There are many ways in which the eye can manifest itself. Common ones such as jealousy, stinginess, from things to dislike people, too concerned about what others think of themselves. Wait a minute.

Take a chestnut. I wrote today that a biased god I respected pointed out my problems and corrected them in a private message, but I don't feel that he is criticizing my "people". Accept with an open mind that if you don't understand, you will talk less and listen more.

When others give advice, don't hold grudges, but humbly absorb them. Despite the criticism, I still have a lot of respect for this great god and hope to have another discussion with him, and he has added my attention.

I enjoy the feeling of being sucked in again, even if it's in a critical way.

I couldn't agree more with one of the users upstairs that sometimes generosity is a scheming. Save your energy to where it's needed more and absorb nutrients instead of wasting them in unnecessary suspicion and entanglement.

Judge things on the facts, don't talk nonsense because of people, and don't talk about things or people. These words can all be used to refer to my advice. I don't think too much about the situation afterwards, I deal with the problem well, and I don't think about whether the criticism will offend people or whether the criticism is a negation of me.

Learn to be inclusive. No one is perfect. Don't be critical of accepting the flaws of others or the differences you are from yourself. When discussing problems or differences in the three views, there is no need to force it, just seek common ground while reserving differences. There are no two leaves in the world that are the same.

Personally, it took me a long time to train my mind and cultivate these ways of thinking and lifestyle. I hope you don't rush it, slowly develop good habits, be broad-minded, and embrace the whole world with open arms.

I agree with you that being cautious is indeed a big problem, which will affect many aspects of your future study, work and life.

I'm also a cautious eye. After working for so many years, I only now understand and understand the dangers of being careful.

I'll talk about myself and see if it's similar to you.

I'm careful: I have a strong personality, and I'm also narcissistic, I have a strong sense of self-esteem, and I take face very seriously.

Performance: When chatting, others can't disrespect me, let alone underestimate me, otherwise, I will be angry;

Someone else meets up to play after work, and they call me, but I don't want to go, and if they don't call me next time, I will be angry, jealous, and uncomfortable.

Wait, anyway, and many more.

Because of his careful eyes, he often brings irritability to himself, hates this and that, and is in a bad mood all day long.

The most important thing is that because I am cautious, the leader was entrusted with important tasks, but I said that I was not generous enough to avoid talking.

So, be sure to change.

My opinion is: be open, friendly, chic, generous, kind, and happy in everything.

It's over, I don't know if we're the same. I'm telling the truth anyway.

If you ask me this question, it's the right question. I used to be the same as you. I can realize my pettiness and sensitivity, but I can't control it.

I also ask people for help like you, and people always say something very general, such as wanting to open something, or not to think about it; Men are very sensitive and bad, and so on.

But there is a paradox, that is, boys like us are naturally thoughtful and reserved. With age, experience grows. Our thinking will become more and more thoughtful, and we will think more and more.

How can we not think about it, so we are distressed and blame ourselves: such emotions will not only not help us, but will only exacerbate our problem.

And after experiencing some things that I can't change and some more weighty setbacks (not small setbacks), I gradually realized how people like us, this kind of boys, treat this weakness of ourselves.

When others persuade you, they all say, you just need to think less. This is called blocking one's own thoughts, which is very uncomfortable, and often cannot be blocked; So since you can't block it, let's go along with it, why don't you think about it a little more?

How do you think about it? Two points, first: empathy, such as this behavior of others, this sentence makes me uncomfortable and unhappy; So let me think about it from another perspective, if I were him and he was me, with my narrow-minded and retributive character, would I have done more than him?

Wouldn't I be more uncomfortable if I ran into someone like myself? (It's a bit of a twist, but I'm sure you can understand), thinking about it this way, I found that people still give me face, or people still keep face;

Second: learn to be grateful, others make me uncomfortable and make me unhappy, and ask yourself when you are calm, is he good for me? If he has always made me uncomfortable or unhappy, if you think about it, people have been good to me, then you will feel more comfortable, "remember the good of others, is good to yourself" (this is original, not more than people say) If this person has indeed made me unhappy, not good, just think about fate, fate let me meet him, Now that fate has arrived, I just need to go with the flow and quietly distance myself (friends, lovers, colleagues, classmates a truth), at least he (she) is an experience for me, let me understand something, It is one of my "treasures".

Every time you are unhappy, just think about it from these two aspects, over time you will find that you will become more and more open-minded, and your mind will naturally be open-minded, during this period, read Xiao Feng, read Yang Guo, read Sun Wukong. You will be able to comprehend it, and your thinking will rise to a new level, and the "big heart" is practiced in this way, I haven't heard that people who have no heart and no lungs will have a big heart, but people like us have hope.

In short, it's not a day's work, so let's practice; Or go through setbacks!

Don't be too careless about things, in fact, the world is very beautiful, there is no need to waste time on some small issues, others are not angry, you can think from another angle: I can be more competitive than them, turn these negative influences into your own motivation, let go a little, you will be happier! ：）

People who are cautious are generally careful, and people with a rough heart are naturally not careful. I don't care about anything if my heart is rough.