Why do many people like to blame others while ignoring their own shortcomings?

First of all, it is very likely that because "I don't know the true face of Lushan, only because I am in this mountain", I am blind to my shortcomings。People who turn a blind eye to their own shortcomings are not all deliberate, these people may really not find their own shortcomings, but they may be because they are more picky, and they can't stand the shortcomings of others, or they are simply too low in emotional intelligence to be a person, and they can't help but blame when they see the shortcomings of others, and they don't want to think that no one is perfect, and they may also have some shortcomings. These people may really just not see their shortcomings, and you can point out their shortcomings.

Secondly, it may also be because of ".Double standardAsking others is not the same standard as asking oneself。However, some people are deliberate, they don't know that they have shortcomings, they clearly know their shortcomings, but they require themselves to have different standards from others, they are "strict with others, lenient with themselves", which is often called "double standard". They feel that their shortcomings are not a big deal, but if others have a little shortcomings, they seem to be unforgiving, they will desperately blame others, and then find reasons and excuses for themselves, which is nothing more than double standards.

Moreover, there is also a possibility that they actually know their own shortcomings, but they do not admit them, and there are many people who know their mistakes but do not admit them。Of course, there are also some people who are neither blind to their own shortcomings, nor double standards, they may just be unable to hang their faces, unwilling to admit their shortcomings, in fact, their own shortcomings in their hearts.

Clear. In fact, there are still many such people, they don't understand that no one is perfect, and they always feel that if they admit their mistakes, others will grasp them, and they will deny their whole person because of these shortcomings, so they are not willing to openly admit that they also have shortcomings in front of others.

Finally, I personally feel that you should not take this kind of person too seriously, if you really have shortcomings, then improve, and ignore them if you don't have them。However, there is no necessary connection between whether others have shortcomings and whether others want to point out your shortcomings, not that only perfect people are qualified to say others' shortcomings, so who is also qualified to say others' shortcomings. However, only when people know their own shortcomings and face up to their own shortcomings can they improve their shortcomings or develop their strengths and avoid their weaknesses.

So if you really meet such a person, it's okay to be neither humble nor arrogant, if they say that you really have shortcomings, then improve them, if they say that you don't have shortcomings, just ignore them, of course, their way of expression is too much, you can also go back.

Because they are all fans of the authorities, and bystanders are clear. It's not that they turn a blind eye, but they really don't know that these traits in themselves will be shortcomings in the eyes of others.

Because these people can only see the shortcomings of others. Perhaps they also have these shortcomings, and it is precisely because of their lack that they will blame others.

I think this is a common problem for many people, who subconsciously think that it is someone else's fault rather than their own, which should also be more selfish.

It's because everyone thinks they're right, and they're all fans of the authorities and bystanders.

The most important thing is not to be narrow-minded, not to only see the shortcomings of others and compare them with their own advantages, to be sincere, to learn to tolerate, to be able to tolerate, not to be competitive, not greedy, not to worry about gains and losses with others.

When you meet someone you can trust, you must get along with (her) well, because it is not easy to meet a confidant in a person.

When you meet a noble person, you must thank (her and him) well, because (she and him) is your turning point;

When you meet someone who doesn't trust you, you should examine yourself, and try to correct the reasons why you don't trust you, because only in this way can you get to know you anew, trust you, and become your friend.

When you meet someone you once hated, greet (her) with a smile; Because (she he) makes you stronger.

If you promise others, you have to do it, don't agree if you can't do it, and be honest and honest. Only honest people will get everyone's approval, only continuous efforts to innovate will have new harvests, but at the same time of hard work will also encounter setbacks, which is inevitable, no one is smooth sailing, only not afraid of twists and turns, not afraid of failure under the premise, will get the harvest, success.

Whether people are happy or not in life does not depend on the amount of material, but on whether their mentality is in the right position.

To live is to wait for the unexpected happiness. For example, love, children, career. In short, as long as you live, there is hope. With hope, people can live. to be more diligent.

Don't be pessimistic and change your destiny with your mind and hands. You have to go your own way.

The vast majority of human destiny is determined by God, and that is because you have no right to choose your birth, and your birth makes your destiny destined to be different. But there are also a small part of the decision made by the people themselves, that is, to change their own destiny through their own efforts. According to incomplete statistics:

2% completely changed their fate.

28% can change their destiny.

70% of people cannot change their fate.

The fate of man is predestined by seven points and three points by man. If you work hard and go in the right direction, and with a little luck, you can change your destiny.

If you want to treat others as you would like to be treated, you have to treat them as you would like to be treated. You will be undefeated for the rest of your life, and you will find that everyone is a friend of you. You will get real happiness and get real good friends.

Only by doing this will you have a bright future and make your future more exciting.

When you and your friends are walking under the light, can you see the shadow of your friend and your own shadow?

This is human nature, when you have shortcomings, you have to try your best to smooth it out and become natural, but in your own eyes, other people's shortcomings cannot be ignored and cannot be forgiven.

Man is selfish.

That's why not everyone is a sage.

That's because he's so confident ...

Maybe he's a very good person!

1. Fifty steps and a hundred steps of laughter.

Example sentence: (1) He only knows how to criticize others, I think it is fifty steps and a hundred steps of laughter!

2) Don't laugh at 50 steps and laugh at 100 steps, you only get 50 points, not better than me!

2. Blind eyelashes.

Example sentences: (1) People often make the mistake of not being able to see the eyelashes, because it is easy to observe others, but it is more difficult to observe oneself.

2) I also did something wrong in this matter, and I can't turn a blind eye!

3. The crow falls on the back of the black pig, and only sees others black, but cannot see its own black.

Example sentence: (1) If something goes wrong, you will blame others, isn't this like a crow falling on the back of a black pig, only seeing others black, but not seeing yourself black!

2) He himself made mistakes, and he laughed at others, it was really a crow that fell on the back of a black pig, and he only saw others black, but he couldn't see himself black.

4. Flashlight - only shine on others, not on yourself.

Example sentence: (1) When there is a problem, we can't be a flashlight, only shine on others, not ourselves, but also learn to find the cause in ourselves.

1. You have also made mistakes, but you are not repentant, and you are still there with 50 steps and 100 steps of laughter! 2. You still criticize others vigorously, I think it's fifty steps and a hundred steps!

3. One of you peeks at others, and the other smuggles cheat sheets, all of them are cheating, why bother to laugh at 50 steps and 100 steps?

4. Equally didn't get a ranking, but they made fun of each other here, isn't it fifty steps to laugh at a hundred steps?

5. is also late, but he mocks people who are later than himself, it is like 50 steps and 100 steps!

6. Your grades are not much better than his, why bother with 50 steps and 100 steps?

7. He thinks that his opinion is higher than others, and in my opinion, it is exactly fifty steps and a hundred steps.

8, he has a defective product, and he still has to laugh at others for not laughing at fifty steps and a hundred steps?

9, don't laugh there for fifty steps and laugh for a hundred steps, you only get sixty points, you are not smarter than me!

10. Seek far away and leave near, such as eyelashes.

11. The problem of this matter is on you, don't turn a blind eye anymore!

12. You only know how to blame others, but you can't see the eyelashes, and you can't see your own shortcomings at all.

13. We often make the mistake of not being able to see the eyelashes, precisely because it is easy to observe others, but it is more difficult to examine ourselves.

14. The problem of this matter is on your self, and it's not good to see the eyelashes anymore!

15. Don't turn a blind eye, you have high-level people who can solve this kind of problem, why bother to come here to "recruit"!

16. If a person is blind and does not know self-examination, it is difficult to grow.

The crow laughs at the black pig and can't see that he is black.

Marxism-Leninism to others and liberalism to oneself.

The pot calling the kettle black.

Half a catty to 8 taels.

First of all, this phenomenon that you describe is very common in our daily lives. We often say that it is difficult for a person to find and correct his own shortcomings, but it is easy to find and blame the shortcomings of others.

This is the kind of person you are describing. This kind of person is what we call a person with extreme conceit.

If you are surrounded by similar people, if he is your friend, you can humbly accept the shortcomings he points out for you, and if the situation is true, try to correct it. In addition, you can also kindly point out his shortcomings to him, hope that he will correct them, and everyone will make progress and grow together.

If you don't know him very well, and he is telling right and wrong in front of the audience, or accusing others, then the best thing to do is to talk to him, he talks and talks, no one pays attention to him, he has no market, and he will leave boring and boring.

This kind of person is the bar essence, and the bar essence is common everywhere in life.

What does it mean? That is, everyone else is wrong, and he himself is right. Always refutes others, but he himself can't come up with his own opinion, it's always like this.

In words, the attitude is always to defeat the other party, but in reality, there is no concrete benefit.

This kind of person is general, you think they live a very chic life, but in fact they live a very painful life, because it is a person who is full of thorns.

For specific example, there is a Jin Yong** called Bao Different, Bao is different, no matter what you say, he will definitely refute you.

Generally, these are small citizens, little people, who always refute themselves, so only to prove that he is always right, as a result, this is absolutely impossible, it can only be, to be a little person for a lifetime.

In the face of this kind of person, it is easiest to raise the bar, as the person with the greatest joy in life, just leave him, don't waste your life, waste your time, they just regard this as a kind of joy of life, we must not be like this, the farther away from this kind of person, the better.

Those people are villains, and there are some such people around me, which means that they have a deep understanding. That kind of person can be fully tolerant of himself, regardless of good or bad, and has zero tolerance for others, often picking bones in the egg to blame others, and even the advice given to him by others will be regarded as picking things. Personally, I think this kind of person is very pathetic, I don't know how his character is developed, but he must be very inferior in his heart and crave the affirmation of others.

Often some people are unaware of it, and people who are easy to find fault with others are often inferior to others in all aspects, lest others say that they don't know anything, and use finding fault with others to cover up their own psychological vulnerability.

He is full of shortcomings, and he also blames the shortcomings of others, that is, he thinks he is too big for himself, he thinks he is great, he is arrogant and arrogant, and he has no one in his eyes, and he also says that others are sick, and it is best to stay away from this kind of person, so as not to be hurt.

It is estimated that he is an extremely narcissist, and if this kind of guy doesn't make too much trouble, it's best to ignore it and stay away.

I think he should be very narcissistic, very arrogant, and feel that everyone should revolve around him.

Such people are leaders