Why do many people like to find lofty reasons for their mistakes?

The reason for this behavior, starting from the root, is the lack of love in a person's heart, a person with true love in his heart will have sincere enthusiasm from the bottom of his heart, willing to live actively, sensitive observation of himself, and constantly feel how he interacts with the outside world, it is precisely because of love for himself and the world, will not be messy and improvised in life, will have an enterprising spirit. I hope that I will become a better person, so that I will not be afraid to face my mistakes honestly and embarrassmently, so as to achieve the purpose of correcting and making up for my own defects as soon as possible; will also know how to restrain themselves, take responsibility, and will not just try to be easy and willful, and blame factors other than themselves at will. I admit that in the face of one's own mistakes, it is inevitable that people will feel embarrassed and frustrated at the time, but the attitude of running away because of unhappiness is short-sighted and extremely immature, and the sign of a person's maturity is that he can calmly deal with what he likes to do and should do, and reluctantly and responsibly complete what must be done, even if it is such a disgraceful thing as admitting that he has made a mistake and wants to correct it.

Making excuses" is the ultimate factor that hinders a person's growth. The "self" in our subjective consciousness is not the same as the "self" in the objective world. When two "selves" appear at the same time, there is a sharp contrast.

People are narcissistic, and when we find it difficult to accept the gap between our two selves, we will use "excuses" to revise the "self" in the objective world and turn it into the "self" in our subjective consciousness. Since we cannot accept that the "self" in the objective world is the main motivation for "making excuses", the best way to get rid of the "excuse-making" as the ultimate factor hindering our growth is to step out of the "self" and look down on them from God's perspective.

I think it's selfishness and vanity that are at work, and that's still the root cause. Everything else is far-fetched. Afraid of taking responsibility, afraid of damage to their reputation or interests, so find excuses to shirk. I'm afraid of admitting that I'm naïve, and I'm afraid of being ridiculed by others, so I have to find an excuse to cover up my shame.

It seems that we need a reason to do or not do something, for example, we like it, so we do something, we do something for someone, I am good enough in this regard, so I don't need to go to tutoring, my coordination skills are very strong, so it is okay to do it when things come, there is a reason, so we act, if there is no reason, we will not act, this can limit people's behavior to a certain range, there are certain benefits, but because there is such a limit, That's why we have to meet our own needs, and we will overrationalize the reason, and overrationalization will be a bit contrary to the facts, and sometimes it is an escape from reality.

If you don't realize that you have a problem and fall into an embarrassing life mode, then there is really nothing to say, you can't save yourself, no one can do anything, just like people who don't realize that they have made mistakes probably don't even need to find excuses, which is also a stupid blessing. If our minds are constantly strengthened, then it should be possible to find an opportunity or even create an opportunity for ourselves, tear open the exit, break out of the vicious circle of interaction between life and ourselves, and seriously examine and ask ourselves, life is short, what do you want to get, what do you want to do, how do you face yourself? If the most difficult step of self-awareness, the most difficult step of self-awareness, is reached, then it must be a natural matter to adjust and improve, and the effect of realizing that you are stuck in a vicious pattern and not being able to get out of it is very similar to realizing that you have made a mistake and making excuses to avoid correcting it.

Principles of Psychology. People will deceive themselves again and again, and after making their own choices, they will always find a lot of reasons to prove that they have made the right choice. There is a term in psychology called "the principle of commitment consistency", that is, when you make a decision and make a statement, your subsequent words and actions will unconsciously be consistent with your decision and statement.

We can't accept that we've failed, and we have to find a reason to counteract it. That is, to "rationalize the failure" backwards.

This may make us feel better, but it is detrimental to our interests. In view of the inequality between men and women, the most reasonable way is to recognize the many disadvantages of women, and then find ways to reduce these disadvantages and be stronger than men in other aspects, so as to make their overall strength surpass that of men, and make themselves capable, influential, and voiced people, and then promote the process of gender equality in the whole society.

Instead of comforting yourself with a few lame reasons.

This issue is very subjective, and the parties involved are unilaterally subjective. The other side of the relationship may also ask why people always like to be self-righteous.

Objectively speaking: all reasons that do not go into the listener's mind will be regarded as excuses, just as all legitimate, objective reasons can be used as excuses.