How to turn a bad temper into a good temper?????

I'm doing a routine that seems to work for me, and I'm sharing it with you that it's economical and useful, but it takes courage and confidence. Whenever you feel like throwing a tantrum, count to 30 before talking; If you still want to lose your temper, count to 50 before talking. I used to have a temper and I had been doing this routinely for about a month, and I felt like I had less time to lose my temper.

This method may not be very effective at first, but after a few times, the mentality eases. At first, I counted 30 out loud and then 50 to keep my anger down. At that time, my friends were stunned when they saw me counting, and when they saw that I was angry, they realized what I was doing, haha.

Self-cultivation The easiest way is to read a book Find a book that interests you and take a look at it Read more books and have a natural temper Even if it's ** It's good There is always something worth learning in the book You have realized that you have a bad temper means that you have the heart to change for the better Then you just need to find a role model to learn There are many role models in the book Come on I believe you can.

When you want to get angry and want to scold, don't open your mouth immediately, wait for the most vigorous momentum to pass, and then think about whether it is necessary to be angry or not.

The key is what you think is bad and what is good, and grasp it yourself, mainly in different occasions, put yourself in the shoes of the person you are communicating with.

Getting married first and having a child is the most effective way to do it!

The quality of a person's temper is related to a person's character, and a person's character is related to a person's virtue, and virtue cannot be pretended, and virtue must be cultivated bit by bit.

Grumpy people are generally more impulsive people, in the face of many things often only rely on their own perceptual understanding to deal with problems, this is very bad, if when dealing with problems do not be so impulsive and rational look at the problem then the temper will be much better.

Grumpy people will often talk and act aggressively, which not only gives a bad impression to others, but also encourages your short temper while others tolerate you.

Grumpy people usually lack self-control, and self-control is actually very easy to exercise, when you are doing something that you find very interesting, if you stop doing it and there is nothing to lose except for making you feel unpleasant, force yourself to stop immediately and not do it.

How can I get rid of my bad temper?

First and foremost, it is important to have a good understanding of the dangers of a bad temper. In our social life, we always have to contact and interact with other people, hoping to get the favor, friendship, appreciation, and cooperation of others (of course, not everyone), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lonely, lifeless, and unable to move an inch. People's behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness, and when we understand the harm of bad temper, we can generate a demand from our hearts to change our bad temper.

Second, it is necessary to strengthen ideological cultivation. Only when we always think of others in our hearts and respect the interests and needs of others will we be warm, considerate and loving to others. Only by always putting the interests of the collective in the first place can we not be rash and stubborn, and can we be calm and think twice when encountering problems.

Finally, you must have determination and perseverance to change your bad temper, and if you can't remember it today, just be cautious, and after two days, you will still be the same. With determination and perseverance, you will definitely get rid of your bad temper.

Be calm, don't be light, don't be joking, don't be joking, don't be relaxed, it's not relaxing, it's calm, it's calming, it's giving time and space to others, and to yourself. Don't raise the bar, don't be self-righteous, don't judge others, in fact, these three are a problem.

When others have different opinions, I eagerly question and rhetoricalize, in fact, the premise is that I think I am reasonable and stand on the other side's position, so I have this feeling that others are unreasonable, so impulsive rebuttal is actually just self-righteousness. For example, if you think about what others think of you, you don't care about what others think, and the same goes for others.

Be quiet, listen more, watch more, talk less, and then others can be quiet. Be conscious of your own state of mind, such as when the chaotic feeling caused by physical discomfort is heightened or when you don't take a nap, etc., it is especially important to talk less, because it will convey chaos.

First of all, I think that a person can have a temper, but he can't lose his temper. There is no such thing as a bad temper. Having a temper and being able to express it means that you not only have ideas but also can insist on expressing your thoughts, but sometimes you express your emotions in the wrong way, or the occasion is not right, etc., which causes this emotion to have a bad impact on yourself or others after venting, so it is called a bad temper.

So I think it's important to first figure out what is the reason for your bad temper and anger. Only by understanding what went wrong can we prescribe the right medicine and find a breakthrough to solve it.

But if you don't know what went wrong, I think you can improve it by cultivating some small habits. Drive the whole with the part. I'm going to write down some of the practices that I think are useful and that I usually use.

1.Psychological suggestion: To put it in layman's terms, that is, to think twice before acting.

In order to avoid emotions as much as possible that are difficult to control suddenly, you can usually think more about "is it okay to do this, what will be the consequences, etc.", and make more psychological hints, maybe one day when you really want to be big, you will also think about it a little more, and say to yourself in your heart "I can't do this" Maybe it will change the situation.

2.Learn to empathize: Actually, I think this is also part of the psychological suggestion.

That is, think more. Think about what impact you will have on others if you say this, if the other person makes you annoyed, before losing your temper, try to think about why the other person did it, whether it is reasonable, and if you are the other party, will you do the same. A little more understanding, a little less conflict.

3.Cultivate more hobbies and transfer emotions in daily life: the subject has talked about irritability, bad attitude towards others, etc.

I don't think a person is naturally irritable, and it is generally because there is nowhere to cause emotions such as irritability and impatience. Modern life is stressful, so we must learn to release stress on our own. For example, regular exercise, travel, singing, writing a diary or something.

Let some bad emotions not accumulate and weaken in daily life.

4.Have at least one confidant (or friend) to whom you are talking. People are not independent individuals, everyone needs a certain emotional release, usually there are any happy and unhappy things that do not come out, you can find someone to tell, even if you don't say it, to have such a person to accompany you, it is also a comfort to the soul.

Having companions, not feeling lonely, can also make people more rational and less emotional.

In short, the country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to change. If a person is really bad-tempered, it is very difficult to completely change it. The most likely thing to do is to minimize the number of tantrums, reduce the frequency, and minimize the damage value. So don't be too depressed and restrain yourself, take your time.

Finally, I would like to say a little more, I have seen a lot of chicken soup in my daily life, but not many of it is really in my heart. Whenever I want to lose my temper, I always think of this sentence, and I think it's also off topic, so I also mention it:

Don't let your temper outweigh your abilities. ”

Above, all encouragement.

It's a psychological problem.

Adjust your mindset.

It's okay. As long as you want to change it, you can.

Believe in yourself, I used to have a bad temper, and then I bought a book on "Mindset Determines Destiny" to see that I finally learned to change myself. You can also buy this book and take a look. ok。