How to overcome timidity

1. Develop a hobby.

Cultivate at least one hobby of your own, so that you can find confidence in it. If you like something, you will take the initiative to devote yourself to it and achieve success, and subtly, you will find that your personality is very different from before, and you will feel confident in any public place and when you do anything.

2. Do only one thing well.

When you are cranky and uncertain, the solution is to force yourself to focus on only one thing to do well, no matter what you like, whether it is a big thing or a small thing, just find one thing that you will do every day. For example, it is a hard rule about what time you go to bed every day, or how long you need to run every day if your body allows.

Choose only one thing for yourself in the beginning, and be sure to follow a plan when doing it, make sure you concentrate while doing it, and allow yourself to think wildly the rest of the time. When you can do one thing according to the plan and concentrate on doing one thing, you will not be timid when you slowly arrange other things for yourself to enrich yourself.

3. Write down the fear and look for the source of timidity.

What exactly are feared and worried, and why are you worried and afraid, if you understand this question, it will be conducive to overcoming timidity. You can write down your timid thoughts about something in the form of a diary, and after a few days, when you read it again, you will find that these things that make you worry and fear are actually not worth worrying about and fearing, and they are unnecessary.

4. Assuming that you are not timid, look for opportunities to express yourself.

Cowardly people, in fact, think they are cowardly, they are their own virtual psychological feelings, and using virtual psychological feelings or situations generated by hallucinations to scare themselves is tantamount to cocooning themselves.

You can assume that you are not timid, you are not afraid of anything, you can speak first in class, seize the opportunity to perform on stage, speak loudly in public places, participate in debates, etc., and try to do it in a style that is not timid, and slowly, you will really not be timid.

5. Be fully prepared to lay the foundation for building self-confidence.

Self-confidence doesn't happen in a vacuum. If you want to take an exam, but you don't review it at all, then no matter how bold and confident a person is, he will not dare to think that he will definitely be able to do well, let alone a timid person who is not confident in the first place, and he will be even more nervous.

For people who are already timid and withdrawn, every failure can be a major blow, so before doing something, you should be well prepared, so that you will lay the foundation for self-confidence and provide yourself with the possibility of success.

Cultivate optimism. One of the psychological roots of a child's timidity is that he is prone to pessimism. Optimistic people regard difficulties as normal, feel that difficulties are strong and weak, weak and strong, and full of confidence, determination and perseverance to overcome difficulties; The pessimistic people artificially exaggerate the difficulties and surrender before the battle.

Therefore, it is necessary to encourage your child to look at problems from a positive point of view, make more progress, and see his achievements, so as to have confidence in himself and develop an optimistic attitude. Start small. Lack of perseverance is another psychological root cause of children's timidity.

A person who is not strong in perseverance will have a retreat mentality when he feels that difficulties are difficult to overcome. However, by accumulating victories in overcoming small difficulties, we can gradually cultivate people's perseverance in overcoming major difficulties. Therefore, children should be asked to start with small things, especially those that he ignores the most and is most likely to expose the weakness of will, to cultivate perseverance.

For example, getting up on time every day, writing notes, morning exercises, etc., under any circumstances, not sloppy, persevering, can not make excuses, over time, you can gradually cultivate tenacious perseverance. Encourage social interaction. Timid children are often introverted and withdrawn, so parents should create more opportunities to encourage children to take the initiative to socialize with others and obtain emotional support from their peers.

For example, let children take the initiative to greet people, invite peers to come to play, introduce children to guests and play together, etc., to train children to act boldly. Don't criticize sarcasm. Timid and fearful children have strong self-esteem, parents must not criticize and blame for their shortcomings, which deepens the impact of children's bad emotions, parents should give their children more encouragement, praise language, eyes, etc., enhance children's self-confidence, reduce psychological pressure.

When adolescents are faced with strangers or in an unfamiliar environment, timid and shy people often appear cramped and restless, unable to interact with people frankly and naturally, and at the same time make the people next to them feel uncomfortable; When encountering unfamiliar but familiar classmates, timid and shy people often do not greet others because they are embarrassed, and the result may be misunderstood as arrogant and unsightly, which affects interpersonal relationships; When a new task is placed in front of them, people who are timid and withdrawn always lack confidence, thinking that they may not be able to handle the task, and may give up or evade, so they may have many fewer opportunities for development than others; Timid and shy people always care too much about other people's evaluations and are too sensitive to other people's words, so a negative or criticism from others may make them depressed and upset, thus affecting their own mood; Whether in study or life, timid and withdrawn people always lack initiative, courage and confidence when pursuing their goals, so they may miss out on their own success and happiness.

Have a good mentality, you have money in the card, what are you afraid of?

I used to be like this, but now I think that what about people, just these decades, how boring it is to cower and cower for a lifetime, it is better to live out your own ideas.