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You said that you have a friend, and at first, you were fine, but now you find that this person's three views are not very consistent with yours, and you are confused about whether to separate. In fact, your problem is not so serious, we all know that for friends, each of us actually has a definition, not just a person we know, we are all defined as friends, and it is not a person who has known each other for a long time, it must be a friend, at most an acquaintance.

Furthermore, I don't know what your criteria are for choosing friends, but for me, I think we will have some criteria for judging friends, Confucius said: the beneficiary has three friends, friendship is straight, friendship is forgiving, and friendship is more informed. And modern psychology also tells us that we can have friends with interests, friends in the workplace, and friends in age.

For example, if you think this friend is, you don't need to think about changing him, the part you approve of is where you get along, and where you don't approve, you can find other friends.

No one is perfect, and friendship is the same, it is a process, sometimes, we get closer and closer, and sometimes, we go farther and farther. In any case, a 90-year-old psychologist in Japan once said something that I think is particularly good, that is, those who come do not refuse, and those who go do not chase. If you can get along, you can get along, and if you can't, you won't regret losing it.

Whether his negativity will affect your emotions and three views. In the process of getting along, it is impossible not to consider the influence of the surrounding environment on oneself, that is to say, the environment will affect the growth and change of the individual, and this is subtle and will not be easily discovered. You can compare the previous you with the current self, whether there is any major change, such as attitude towards life, etc.

Do you have a relatively strong willpower, this willpower is to maintain your original intention and progress, and be able to influence the people around you. If you have this ability, then you can continue to associate because he needs your influence. You've been together for so long, you must know each other well.

He did this, on the one hand, he may have encountered some kind of pressure, and on the other hand, he showed his true self.

So, between him in the past and him now, do you get along with each other to make you feel pressured or even at a loss? No matter how the relationship develops, you are an independent individual, and you will only be able to adapt and change your environment if you protect yourself. It's up to you, not about what your subjective consciousness will be, but whether your decision will make you regret it.

It is certainly not necessary, because such a friend may not see you as his friend, but only as a punching bag.

There is no need, people who are too emotional are not particularly good and will affect your mood, so stay away from such people.

From time to time, his personality changes drastically and he becomes very irritable, and such a friend can consider cutting off contact, because if he takes this temper on you, you yourself will not be happy.

Some people like to associate with that kind of short-tempered person, not that there is no psychological problem with this kind of person, but it means that this kind of person is likely to see what kind of person the other person is. Let's take a closer look at this situation.

1.First of all, everyone feels that this kind of short-tempered person is not so good. Because short-tempered people are always very impatient when talking or doing things, if there are some things that are not happy, it will make us feel that there are big problems and even big differences with us.

For example, one of my colleagues was like that. Talking to him is often very irritable, which leads to many people being reluctant to talk to him. But in fact, this person is not very bad himself.

So people who really know him will feel that this person is good.

2.And everyone is actually not stupid. Therefore, when you can come into contact with this kind of short-tempered person, you can prove yourself, in fact, most of them have already seen through each other.

In fact, everyone's personality can be seen after a period of contact. For example, there are some people who seem to be very good, but after a long period of contact, they find that their personality is actually relatively poor. And there are some people who seem to have a bad temper, but when they get along, they find that this person gets along very well for a long time.

So I would be willing to get in touch with him.

3.And most importantly, short-tempered people usually have a straight personality. Whether it's talking or doing things, it's the kind of straight to the point.

So it's usually not too stressful to associate with such a person. Something is simply said to each other. So don't waste too much scheming.

It will make the two people talk in harmony. This is the truest attitude that many people like.

Grumpy people are generally acute, some people have strong executive ability, and the other part is neither capable nor bad-tempered. Those who like to associate with such people are either the former or the latter.

Not really! In your eyes, this person is very fierce, but in the eyes of people who like it, it is different, so depending on who this person is suitable for, it will be very gentle if you find the right person.

No, you can work on your endurance even more.

People have different personalities, there will be some people in life who are short-tempered and yell when they encounter things, and when such people are friends with us, will you treat them sincerely?

Learn to get along with themAt the same time, in my opinion, grumpy people tend to be easier to talk to. When getting along with them, you should not be tough with them, but try to explain them with explanations and gentle methods, they are often the most addicted. Learning to get along with grumpy friends can also maintain our friendship and solve problems better when encountered.

Yes, whether I really want to be friends with others is not because the other party is short-tempered, but because of whether the other party is sincere.

Yes. Being short-tempered doesn't mean that he's short-tempered all the time, only that he touches a point that will be like this.

I don't, I think grumpy people, they often don't understand other people's emotions, they can't understand other people's feelings.

Hello, you can worry about your friend so much, it means that you are a very worthy person, you hope to change your bad temper through enlightenment, and it also shows that you are kind and sincere to your friend, which is your friend's blessing and your excellent quality, for which I admire you very much.

First of all, people's temper is the concentrated embodiment of their character, as the saying goes, "the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change", people's character is difficult to change, and it is by no means through "enlightenment" can be changed, if you want to change your character, unless it is necessary for your friend to have a strong desire to change and the ability of self-examination is possible, if he does not have this desire, your unilateral "enlightenment" can only have the opposite result.

Secondly, your friend's sensitivity and fiery temper are just to hide his inferiority complex, and in this way he has more self-esteem when he gets along with others, and "enlightenment" to him may touch his self-esteem and lead to hatred.

Again, your relationship with him is a friend, you have to torture yourself, do you want to enlighten him, do you want to play the role of a rescuer or protector (I miss his parents or teachers)?

Through the above thinking, I wonder if you have any insights? My advice to you is:

1. It is appropriate for friends to be honest with each other, but if it hurts the self-esteem of the other party or hurts the feelings of both parties because of honesty, it is obviously more than worth the loss.

2. When dealing with a person who lacks self-esteem, the best attitude we should adopt is "acceptance", when you accept his sensitivity, irritability, and stubbornness, it is the greatest respect for him.

3. Don't try to change him in any way, because any "transformation" may be our subjective desire, and everyone has the right to live according to their own wishes. Therefore, our desire to "transform" is likely to be the greatest "aggression" against himself.

4. The interaction between people is mutual, maybe your encouragement and respect will make him more confident, when he has enough self-confidence, maybe the problem will disappear automatically.

Wishing you and your friends more confident and healthy!

With such a character, what a blessing to have a friend like you! The first thing here is to identify your friend, who is irritable, sensitive, extreme, self-centered, and overly perfectionist.

If you want to enlighten him, you can't behave too deliberately, put on a posture like "I have to enlighten and enlighten you", on the contrary, the sensitive person's soul is more fragile, you are his good friend, do what to empathize, think about it from his point of view, don't deliberately want to reverse his thoughts, what she wants, how she wants! 、

People with extreme personalities tend to be stubborn and unwilling to listen to other people's opinions, so you can be superficially obedient and knock on the side to make them change their minds, and do not directly criticize or deny what he says. If he wants to listen to you well, you must also gain his trust, so that he understands that you are worthy of his trust and that you are on his side! Then gradually let him realize the problems in his personality, and how his personality has had a bad impact on him and the people and things around him, it is best to let him deeply understand, and then slowly guide him to do professional psychology**!

Good luck, you are a great friend!

That's it. I roughly get it. Is your friend in love and out of love?

..Or the parents are divorced. Maybe a relative has passed away.

Actually, I was the same when my parents divorced. But it's good to take it slowly. All you need during this time is a friend by your side.

You don't have to go to persuade him. Because it would make him very embarrassed. Very low self-esteem.

You can try to be with him as usual. As long as you're by his side. Everything will be fine.

Generally this kind of boy will be machismo, self-centered, with a particularly strong self-esteem, and a temper that is easily grumpy. I think if you're a buddy who has been with him for a long time, you can mention it in a ridiculous way, and if you're a girl, it's better to care silently.

There may be some reason.,I think it's better not to enlighten him.,In case you don't deal with it properly.。。。 You should, take your time to get to know him.

Mental illness take him to a psychiatrist!

Middle school students are in a rebellious period, because the times are different, their personal ideas are becoming more and more obvious, we need to understand him more, not always educate him in a commanding way.

Put yourself in their shoes and empathize with them.