What will become of those children who have not been well loved by their parents when they grow up?

Everyone needs love, whether adults or children. In the process of educating their children, many parents only let their children grow up without fulfilling their responsibilities as parents, not accompanying their children well, and not loving their children well. Children who do not feel the love of their parents at the time of death will definitely grow up with great character flaws.

1. Children who lack family care when they are young may become very sensitive when they grow up, because these children's minds will be very delicate, and others can feel a little care about him, and such children will care very much about other people's emotions and will please others in order to be recognized by others.

2. You will become suspicious. Since they were not loved by their parents when they were young, such children may have a lot of negative emotions.

will be very fond of complaining and blaming others, sometimes others say a casual word, this kind of child may have a lot of thoughts in his heart, and will be angry about the harm of others to himself, become suspicious.

3. You will become unconfident. Because such children lack the care of their parents when they are young, they will be very unconfident when doing things, like to deny themselves, always feel that they are not perfect enough, feel that they are not worthy of the love of others and the recognition of others, and when others praise themselves, they will also feel ashamed.

4. It will be very insecure.

When children are young, children without parental care will be very insecure, will be very distrustful of the relationship between people, and very eager for the love of others, but after getting it, they will be very suspicious, so they want to keep proving it. And some people will be very indifferent, will not accept the love of others, and will not express their love.

Children who have not been well loved by their parents when they are young are very lacking in love in daily life, so this kind of child is likely to close themselves off, will not let others see their true thoughts, both eager to be loved, but also very afraid of being loved, so they will always be in a contradiction.

The character is very poor, the things are very unruly, may go astray, the personality is very irritable, and it will be very extreme.

I think when I grow up, I will become very irritable, I will become very impolite, I will become very unqualified, I will become very dislike of learning, and I will become very introverted.

When you grow up, you may become very withdrawn, and then you will become very rebellious, and your psychology will be very abnormal, and you may not be a very good child.

It was a cruel experiment in which he took some baby monkeys away from their mothers and brought them to two fake monkeys, using the fake monkeys as their "** mothers".

One of the two fake monkeys is made of hard wire, and the other is made of soft flannel.

There is a feeding bottle on the wire mother, and the little monkey will go to the wire mother to find milk to eat when she is hungry, but most of the time the little monkey is still willing to be with the flannel mother, and after eating the milk, it will closely lean on the flannel mother.

Comparing the data, you will find that the time spent with the little monkey and the flannel mother is several times higher than the time spent with the wire mother.

When frightened, the little monkeys will run to the flannel mother and hug her tightly, even if the monkey grew up eating the milk powder from the wire mother, the frightened little monkey will eventually quiet down next to the flannel mother.

The data from the trial showed that the baby monkeys of the wire mother would have poor digestion, and if there was no flannel mother, the frightened baby monkeys would clump up, tremble, eat their fingers, etc.

If it is sent to the "** mother" after 30 days of separation, the little monkey will quickly pounce on the flannel mother, and it seems that he can find comfort from there. And the little monkey brought up by the wire mother is indifferent and autistic.

The upgraded version of this trial is to put the newborn baby monkeys in cages, do not prepare ** mothers, and only feed them on time.

These baby monkeys grow up to be aloof, selfish, and even lose the ability to find a mate and give birth, and after forcibly mating, they will not take care of the baby monkeys and may abuse them.

These baby monkeys, which have not been in contact with their mothers, grow up and do not get along well with other monkeys.

This is the famous "motherly deprivation" experiment, Harlow believes that maternal love is "comfortable touch" and play, and the lack of maternal love from an early age can cause obvious psychological and behavioral consequences, such as depression.

People who don't have a mother or have almost no maternal love in their lives must have something that is not easy to get close to, weird, and extremely defensive, which is like melting into the subconscious, making them have some weird, extremely sensitive, defensive, and aggressive feelings in their gestures.

People have richer emotions than monkeys, and babies and children also need the warm love of their mothers, no matter what the reason, respond to the child in time, give more hugs and touches, and the child can have a sound body.

A child who does not receive the love of his parents is very painful in his young heart. So much so that they want to use something to self-harm to get the love of their parents, but many parents don't pay attention to it.

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It depends on what kind of person he will meet in the future.

It depends on what his upbringing environment is, and whether the child's personality is introverted or cheerful, I know a person like this, she now thinks that she has no relatives to do whatever she wants, and she has no tutor is quite annoying.

The days that God has given us are tests of love, family affection, and friendship....If the child is sensible, then he is a little introverted....The ignorant are a little reckless, such as the world is the biggest.

Children who grow up in love are confident, gentle, and firmly believe that they are compatible with all the good, and their gestures are traces of being truly loved.

The children who have not been loved are also well disguised, most of the time cheerful and optimistic, tenacious like a tree spreading around, lawless and violently tearing down weeds.

But as long as he was loved a little, he immediately appeared in his original form, and he wanted to take out all of his self-branch banquet jujube for you with great anticipation.

But what can a barren weed take out for you, and the weed itself doesn't know, but that doesn't prevent it from wanting to give you a little more out of its already barren life.

As Duras said, "I love you so deeply and desperately, I just want to empty myself and give it to you." ”

Hello, subject.

I don't know if you've heard: the lucky people spend their childhood ** life, and the unfortunate people use their whole life to ** childhood.

There are some psychodynamic views that children who do not feel the love of their parents from an early age may be avoidant attachments, may be emotionally isolated, etc., resulting in inner powerlessness and frustration, as well as low self-esteem, etc., will make the child panic, they are always habitually oriented towards negative interpretation of others, longing for intimacy while destroying intimacy with their own hands.

The fact that the subject is able to ask a reward here also means that you are aware of the hindrance that this question can have on your daily life.

There are no absolutes in anything, and fate still slips through the net, even if many opinions support it: before the age of 6 is the prototype of life, and life after the age of 6 is just repeating the story before the age of 6.

How to break the curse of fate?

The hardest thing in life is not that you don't feel that others love you, but that you don't love yourself.

When you think that your misfortune is caused by your family of origin, think about it, do you have expectations of others?

It is very easy to blame others, but if you want to grow and have what you want, you must refuse to run away;

It's very, very difficult to change yourself, but if you want to grow, you have to break out of your comfort zone.

Therefore, what the subject asks: When a child who has not felt love since he was a child grows up, will he not love to pretend to be a rock child because he does not feel loved?

First of all, it is not possible to judge whether it is a mental illness or not.

Mental illness, there are general psychological problems, there are also serious psychological problems, and so on.

However, rest assured, this is definitely not a definite answer.

Psychologist Honey once said: If a person wants to truly grow, he must understand himself and accept it calmly, and at the same time pursue something.

The sooner you know yourself, the better, but it's not easy to actually do it.

And the subject's anxiety is because the subject's awareness of himself now makes you see that you and the outside world may repeat the relationship between you and your original family when you were young.

Because psychologically, your relationship with others is essentially a relationship with your past, present, and future.

Therefore, the subject, first of all, we must solve the relationship with ourselves, accept ourselves, give ourselves the nourishment of love, and the curse of fate will be broken if you lack friends.

When I was a child, I was very lacking in love, and when I grew up, it would be difficult to express my love correctly when I met He Shi and the right person, and it would be difficult to express my love correctly.

Growing up without love, you don't seem to know how to express your needs and how to love others, so you feel that others don't understand, and you are miserable, because you have set up a wall emotionally. You are helpless when you are a little arguer, but now you are slowly growing up, and it is recommended that you can adjust your state from five aspects: self-understanding, self-forgiveness, self-acceptance, self-care, and self-encouragement.

One is self-understanding, which encourages the connection between your current (and past) behavior and your traumatic experiences. This connection can make you feel more caring for yourself and feel less impatient, critical, and angry about your actions.

The second is self-forgiveness, forgiving yourself for being involved in an incident where you did not get the love of your father and mother after your parents divorced, because you are an innocent victim and should not have been fostered in different relatives' homes. Forgive yourself for not being loved, and forgive yourself for not knowing how to love;

The third is self-acceptance, healing oneself is to wholeheartedly touch and pretend to be one's true self, whether it is fragile or strong, cold or passionate, nervous or peaceful, incomplete or complete, accept oneself;

The fourth is self-care, compassionate self-comfort, positive self-suggestion, go inside, cultivate an inner voice full of motivation, care for your body, meet your own needs, and become the parent you desire: encourage, respond to yourself, and feel your needs;

Fifth, self-encouragement, according to your own ability, adjust the goals you set to get along with others, admit that your ability is limited, reward yourself for progress, self-correction rather than self-judgment, you have a way of loving yourself and loving others.

The most important thing we can do as parents is to worry about whether our children are growing up in a healthy state. But what I didn't expect was to say that when some children were taking care of their parents, how could they say that their parents didn't care enough for themselves. Therefore, for this matter, we still have to deal with it one by one.

Because the bridge school is for the children, when they are growing up, if they do not care for them in time at this time, it will have a bad impact on them when they grow up. This is really something that we can't imagine and understand. So this also tells us that as a family leader, we must have a good communication with our children from an early age, because this is a very good design for ourselves.

Colleague is also a very good solution for children to buy. Therefore, this also tells us as a parent to have a clear audience for a child's behavior in daily life, because only in this way can the child feel a thing that the parents have for them in the subtleties, which is also the thing we as a parent want to see the most.

When I grew up, I felt insecure, felt that others would not love me, and lived a very inferior life.

Become very strong, always find a way to solve difficulties by yourself, and don't want to trouble others, because you feel that others will not help you.

When they grow up, it is easy for them to believe in the people around them, as long as that person is good to him, they will unconditionally believe in each other and give their sincerity.