Can a timid personality really be changed?

I think people with more introverted personalities have such an experience, facing a thing, they are actually able to do it well, and they know the right solution in their hearts, but they are hesitating in the same place, not knowing whether to take this step. I struggled for a long time, clenched my fists, sweated, and finally mustered up the courage to move forward impulsively, but the things that should have been handled normally were made a mess by myself.

In fact, this is indeed nature, in my opinion, introverted or extroverted, there is no good or bad, but after all, we all survive in the same society, and extroverted personality is indeed better than introverted personality in the performance of many things.

There is a saying that "the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change", I think it is impossible to completely change the nature of people, but some shortcomings in our character can be eliminated the day after tomorrow.

How can we get rid of these drawbacks?

I am also an introverted personality, and I would like to introduce you to two methods that I try to really work.

Develop a hobby.

The purpose of cultivating at least one hobby of our own is to find confidence in it.

Are there many people like me, who recall that when we were in elementary school, we always didn't dare to raise our hands to speak, and when we got to middle school, we didn't dare to speak on stage, let alone show ourselves to others. We don't take the initiative to know the answers; I thought about it for a long time, and I didn't dare to speak on stage after I finished the draft; We've even laughed at other people's performances for not being as good as ourselves, but we don't even have the courage to show ourselves.

I later thought about what made me change this personality, which was that I started to love playing basketball when I was in high school, and my personality changed from then on. When we like something, we take the initiative to get into it. I remember that in the beginning, I only dared to practice alone in a place where no one was, but then because I really liked it, I also tried to play with people I didn't know, and slowly I found that people would praise you for playing well, and then they would take the initiative to communicate with you, which is a virtuous circle.

Later, subtly, I found that I would dare to take the initiative to communicate with others, and I gradually became more cheerful, and when I felt that my personality was very different from before, I found that I felt confident not only when I was playing basketball, but also at school, in any public place, and in everything.

This power is really amazing, just like when we are hungry and listless, we will feel full of confidence after eating, this may be the difference in personality, the strength shown is different. This change in personality played a big role in my later work and life, and if I had maintained my previous introverted personality after joining the work, I might have really missed out on a lot of opportunities, so I am grateful for the help I received during that time.

Cultivating interest is to find something that we are good at and interested in doing, because it is relatively easier for us to succeed in doing it, and then we will get a sense of accomplishment from it and will be praised by others. You will affirm ourselves and help us find our self-confidence.

Of course, because they are timid and don't do anything, the gap between them and those who have a cheerful personality is even greater. But if you do it the first time, your timidity breaks through, and you will never be afraid again.

No one is born timid, it is caused by a series of reasons, so you can also slowly change your timidity and try to overcome yourself first. Give yourself challenging tasks, such as speaking in front of a lot of people, doing something you didn't like to do before, or something. Then ask yourself what you have gained and what you have lost after doing these things.

But if there's nothing to lose, then naturally you won't be afraid.

Yes. As long as you make up your mind, you are willing to change.

When encountering things, don't avoid them, be confident and independent.

Be brave.

It is safe to say that people's personality can be changed to a certain extent, but the formation of personality begins at birth, so even if a psychological counselor helps you change, it will take a considerable amount of time, at least measured in years, and the older you are, the longer and more difficult it will take for your personality to change.

As for the timid character, you need to understand the internal reasons and motivations why you are timid through the external manifestations of timidity. Perhaps timidity, in addition to making you seem unbrave at times, has also protected or has been protecting you from danger. So don't rush it away just yet.

Harbin Hexin Psychological Counseling Center.