Boys are not easy to express emotions, how to raise boys who are good at expressing emotions?

In the education of the family, as a parent, you will definitely find that it is not easy for boys to express their emotions, so how to cultivate boys who are good at expressing emotions?

1. Parents should be good at observing the boy's emotions, and also respond to the emotions and resonate with the boy emotionally.

We know that sometimes, children's emotions are relatively weak, maybe they are deliberately hiding something, so parents should observe their children more, that is, care more about their children. For example, when the child is very happy, there may be a movement of the corners of the mouth raised, but the parents do not pay attention to the observation, thinking that the child does not express their emotions, when the parents find the child's emotions, they should tell the child their own thoughts, such as they are really happy for what the child does, and feel that the child has grown up, then he will feel that his parents know him very well, and he will express his emotions to the parents, slowly, not only happy, even if it is sad, angry will talk to the parents. Therefore, it is very necessary to say that parents and children can empathize with each other, so as to promote the expression of children's emotions.

2. Parents should not put pressure on boys, so that they can be the masters of their emotions.

Emotionally, many parents have made such mistakes, such as families with a second child, parents have never heard a boy say that he likes his sister or brother, and he thinks that the boy doesn't like it, but in fact, the boy may like his brother or sister very much, but he shows it in other ways, such as quietly giving his delicious food to his younger siblings. When a boy is a little scared, he always tells the boy loudly that he must be brave, and the boy should do the same. If parents force boys to express their emotions, it will make boys more timid, then parents should change their ways, for example, they can tell boys, when they are afraid, they can tell parents, don't be strong, after the child is not stressed, he is naturally willing to express his emotions.

It is when the boy expresses his emotions, he must listen carefully and not show half-heartedness, so that the boy will express his emotions better.

First of all, it is necessary to strengthen guidance, and we must usually channel the child's bad emotions, and let the child express it in the right way, and then we must learn to encourage the child more often, and create a particularly healthy family atmosphere for the child.

Reason 1: Excessive parental control. If parents are too strict with their children, their children's daily study and life, and even what kind of clothes to wear, need to be decided by their parents, and children are prone to rebellious feelings.

They don't feel free when they get along with their parents, they can't choose anything, although they decide to suppress it in their hearts, they can't change the status quo, negative emotions are "secluded" in their hearts for a long time, and after encountering something, their sons will completely explode, causing boys to be easily emotional.

Reason 2: Lack of scientific guidance. The good physical and mental development of children is inseparable from the guidance of parents and society. In today's society, many parents only focus on their children's intellectual development and ignore their children's psychological growth.

Reason 3: Lack of security. In the case of a lack of security, children are the most difficult to control their emotions, and like to relieve their inner anxiety by crying or throwing tantrums.

Some children like to cry loudly, some children like to lock themselves up alone, and some children like to vent by throwing things, these are all ways for children to be emotional.

In modern society, the social status of men is gradually improving, however, the expression and processing of emotions are still relatively weak. As a result, it is easy for them to be emotionally charged when faced with emotional problems.

Let's take a closer look at why boys are prone to emotion.

First, we need to pay attention to the influence of sociocultural factors on boys' unbridled emotionality. In traditional Chinese culture, male emotional expression is regarded as a form of weakness, and is even despised and despised by society. Therefore, when many boys face emotional problems, they will choose not to express or suppress their emotions, which eventually leads to emotional backlog and emotional collapse.

At the same time, work pressure and interpersonal relationships in modern society will also have an impact on boys' emotions.

Secondly, self-factors are also an important reason why boys are emotional. In the process of boys' growth, many families pay more attention to their masculinity, put too much emphasis on reason and action, and it is easy to ignore emotional attention and cultivation. When faced with emotional problems, it is difficult for them to find a suitable outlet and they are more likely to be emotional.

At the same time, the physiological changes in boys can also make them emotionally unstable, especially during coarse hail puberty, because fluctuations in hormonal levels can affect emotions.

Finally, the living environment is also an important factor. From getting along with family members to getting along with classmates and friends, it all has an impact on boys' emotions. For example, relationship-related issues such as loneliness, discrimination, and bullying can affect a boy's emotional well-being and cause them to become emotional.

In conclusion, the reasons why boys are easily emotional are different, and social culture, self-factors, and living environment all have an impact on boys' emotions. In order to avoid a backlog of emotional problems, boys need to learn how to express their emotions in a way that suits them, release them, and at the same time develop a positive, healthy, and harmonious emotional attitude in life. This requires the support and help of parents, teachers, and friends.

1. Acknowledge your child's emotionality. Everyone's emotional world has its own strengths and weaknesses, so we must recognize our emotional weaknesses and not avoid them, let alone turn a blind eye. For example, some people like to get excited, and when they get excited, they can't control themselves.

Therefore, we must first acknowledge the problems of our children, then carefully analyze the causes and then find ways to overcome them.

2. Listen to your child. When children tell what happened or how they are feeling, parents should pay attention and listen attentively, not only with their ears, but also with their hearts. In the process of listening to the child, parents try to achieve the principle of "listen first and then express", do not easily interrupt the child's words, listen to what the child says with the whole body and mind, and use their own inner self to experience the child's voice.

3. Guide children to cope with negative emotions. Parents can communicate with their children and guide them to find more appropriate ways to deal with negative emotions. For example:

Divert your attention, go for a walk, do exercise, etc. Let your child understand that tantrums and crying are not effective in solving problems.

4. Talk about things and refuse to preach. This is also a situation where parents are prone to "emotion" in the process of education. When parents see that their children's behavior does not match their expectations, or when they see their children making mistakes, they will always be tempted to criticize and preach.

What's more, they will turn over the past and synthesize it together, which is the last thing the child wants to hear.

At this time, parents should restrain their desire to preach and develop the habit of talking about things. The best way to educate and express yourself is to simply describe what you see.

5. Pay attention to the children, and the brother will meet the needs. Most of the reasons why boys are easily emotional is that their own needs are not met, so parents may wish to pay attention to the expression of needs behind their children's cathartic emotions when they question why their children have such emotions. For example, sometimes your child drops something just to get your attention, and then your hug will be more effective than anything else, which is also an important means to increase your child's trust.

Pay attention to family education and mental health, and go to the home-school lecture hall.

In traditional education, boys are generally not encouraged to express their emotions freely. "Men don't flick when they have tears", boys must be strong and brave. Therefore, in the growth of boys, their emotional expression is often ignored by their mothers.

The boy has pain and sorrow, and can only swallow it in his stomach, because it will be laughed at if he vents at will. In this way, boys cannot vent their bad feelings, and they are more likely to fall into depression than girls.

On the surface, the boy looks big and strong, but on the inside, he is just as vulnerable as the girl. Boys are not good at using words to clearly present their inner thoughts, and are more inclined to vent their emotions with actions. Mothers often ignore their needs in this area because they don't understand.

Some boys will use some silly behaviors to vent their emotions; Some boys don't want to show the emotions of being considered "very feminine", so they have to hold them to their hearts. These can affect the healthy development of the boy's psyche.

Mom has to abandon some traditional ideas. For example, they believe that boys should be brave and strong, and they usually use these requirements and standards to measure and educate boys; If boys suppress themselves and do not express negative emotions, they think that this is a sign of their masculinity.

Moms need to learn to understand and help boys express their emotions reasonably.