After many people get married, why do they say that the other party has changed a person?

A man looks like a grandson before he gets married, and like an uncle after he gets married. A woman looks like a lady before she gets married and like a shrew after she gets married. The nature of the country is easy to change, everyone's living habits and personal conduct are not changed casually, but before marriage, the two people only saw each other's advantages, and turned a blind eye to the shortcomings, and there were some brains that actually said I found that the shortcomings of TA are advantages in my eyes, I just want to say, you are really stupid and naïve.

In fact, many times TA is still TA, and it hasn't changed at all, but the time between the two people before marriage is relatively short, and the novelty has not passed, even if I see each other's shortcomings, I smile because of the power of love, and I only see TA's strengths, so I think TA is good there. However, after getting married, as you spend more time together, you turn a blind eye to the other person's strengths, and even the former strengths become disadvantages. For example, some girls like to smoke men, think the posture is very handsome, but after getting married, I see him smoking one after another as if he is dying, he is disgusted when he smells smoke, and he kisses as if he is licking an ashtray.

For another example, some boys like girls with heavy makeup, before marriage, they think her makeup is so beautiful, and they have face when they go out, but after they get married, they slowly get bored, go out for five minutes, put on makeup for three hours, and finally wait until she is ready, you are asleep, and girls who are used to makeup have to make a lot of money every time they go out, and over time you don't want to go out with her.

That's why it becomes before and after marriage, it's not that the person has changed, but that the feeling has changed, so you feel like a different person. After being together for a long time, love has become family affection, do whatever you want at home, fart before marriage has to be sandwiched, after marriage, the two of them fart to see who has the loudest voice, there is no sense of mystery, I don't want to go to TA private venues, I don't want to go shopping, I have long lost the freshness before marriage, and I naturally feel that before and after marriage is different.

In fact, people will change, and they will be disguised, if you find that your other half has become different after marriage, it means that you did not fully understand him before getting married, but there are good and bad changes, you must keep your eyes open and observe whether the other party is worth it, if it is not worth it, then you must stop the loss in time.

Because before getting married, the two were not often together, and when they were together, they only showed each other the good side. After the two got married, they showed their truest side, not that the other party had changed, and it turned out to be like this.

Answer: Falling in love is not the same as getting married, probably because they don't belong to each other when they are in love, so they cherish it very much, and they are afraid that the person they like will like someone else, but after getting married, it is different, and there are many people who just don't know how to cherish it when they get it. Of course, part of the reason is also because there are more things after marriage, and the center of firewood, rice, oil and salt has changed.

Because there are only two people in love, everything is fresh and beautiful, but after marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship and children need to be worried, how can it remain the same!

Because once you get married, you realize that the other party is already your other half, you will become lazy, unwilling to create surprises, and life is only firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Because there are too many trivial things in life after marriage, and around firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, it is impossible to have the romance when you are in love, and two people will definitely find each other's shortcomings after getting along for a long time, so I feel like a different person.

There is still a big difference between falling in love and getting married, boys will be very positive when they are in love, but after marriage, that kind of enthusiasm is less, most of them are like this.

Because after getting married, people will change a lot in personality and other aspects, so after marriage, the other party may feel that you have changed as if you have changed a person, without the previous immaturity, and have become particularly mature and stable.

Because after getting married, everyone's mentality will change, and it won't be the same as when they were in love before, so they will say so.

Because the other party's personality will not be as good as before. And after a long time, I feel that the other party's character has become bad.

I often hear female friends around me complain that "when a boyfriend gets married, it's like a different person", and even some men have not yet entered into marriage, and after getting a woman, they no longer cherish women before.

Is this a woman's delusion, or has the man really changed?

Just like the problem that the subject is encountering now, the boy who used to be gentle with himself now begins to yell at himself.

What do these changes mean? First, men have changed.

In fact, people and gods are changing all the time, but the difference between changing in a good direction or a bad direction. No one, no emotion, will always be the same.

So, yelling at you now, a guy who used to be gentle means that the boy's attitude towards you has changed.

The reason for the change in the boy's attitude may be from the pressure of life, or it may be that the boy is empathetic. When all the tenderness and patience of a person is given to another woman, it is natural that there is no patience to speak softly to you.

Second, men are reluctant to pretend.

Humans are camouflaged animals, and not all tenderness comes from the heart. When a man sees a woman as a prey to conquer, he will put on his most beautiful clothes and say the most beautiful words, with the aim of nothing more than to make the woman fall completely.

When a man conquers a woman, she will naturally feel differently when she takes off her disguise.

Third, men's lives are going through great "changes".

Men don't want women to see their failures, and tell them that when the pressure hits, their emotions are out of control, and You Kuan shows that she yells.

So, what can a woman do? If the man is only occasionally emotionally out of control, the woman might as well not ask anything, say nothing, and give the man space and time to be alone. I believe that as long as the man recovers, he will apologize to the woman.

If a man suddenly puts away all his tenderness towards a woman, and the man's attitude towards other people does not change much, at this time, the woman should understand that the man is no longer in love.

Everyone will have emotional out-of-control times, and once or twice once in a while is not a problem, but if the man's attitude towards you has been so bad that he can't communicate normally, there is no need for a woman to struggle and entangle indifferently.

Leaving is the best protection for yourself.

Love can be done by one's own nature, or it can be romantic, but in the face of marriage, we need to be a reasonable person. So don't copy what you did when you were in love into your married life.

In marriage, you need to perfect each other's personalities. If one person has a stubborn personality, the other person will learn to tolerate it at the right time, and even if they quarrel, they can reconcile in time; One person is sensitive and fragile, the other person is thick-skinned, and going out will also make the other person feel a sufficient sense of security.

As a result, there may be more frustrations in the relationship, and it may be less likely to get through them safely. In intimate relationships, most people only see each other, not themselves, so they have a high sense of need, fall into negative emotions, accusations, and complaints, and ignore the importance of being themselves.

If you want to better adapt to your new married life, you have to try to adjust yourself a little. Although it is said that you should not lose yourself in marriage, you must also remember that in marriage, you cannot be stubborn about yourself.

What attracts us when we are in love is the advantages of the other party, marriage will magnify the shortcomings of the other party, and the process of running in between two people is the process of accepting and tolerating each other's shortcomings.

Everyone tries to find a perfect person, but unfortunately, in the end, you will find that there is no perfect person in this world.

I always believe that even if a person is good, I still think that he must have shortcomings. When you are in a relationship, you only care about the good in the other person. Even, you will magnify the advantages of the other party ten times and a hundred times.

However, when it comes to getting married, it's very different. All you see at this time is the other party's shortcomings, and the more you look at it, the more angry you become, and you are so angry that you can't wait to get a divorce and find another one.

It's lucky to get married for love!

When you get into marriage, you will understand that if there is no love, you will live a miserable life. If the purpose of your marriage is to say that I don't love you in the first place, I got married when the time came. At that time, I didn't know who delayed whom.

It is said that when a girl misses the person she wants to marry the most, she will become more and more critical; When a guy misses the person he wants to marry the most, he becomes more and more casual; Picky because no one is as good as you, casual because it's not you anyway. Therefore, there must be love in marriage.

How many women in marriage always regard each other as their sustenance, and always want each other to help them solve their problems. No one is a savior of the world, and it is impossible to help you solve your problems all the time.

Everyone is an independent individual, always relying on the other, and the other party will feel tired sooner or later. Don't regard feelings as the only sustenance in life, and don't regard the other party as your own happy attachment, so as to be able to let go of excessive attachment and anxiety.

You have to understand that marriage is the icing on the cake, not a gift in disguise. Don't always think that getting married can make your future life worry-free, and regard marriage as the sustenance and destination of your life.