Should remarriage take care of the children with the ex husband, and how to treat the children with

We all say that children are the hearts and minds of parents, and there are no parents in the world who do not love their children, but if there are more children, the parents' feelings will change, and they will not regard every child as a treasure.

Especially after the parents divorce, remarry, and have children, the feelings for the children in front of them will become more and more indifferent, and human nature is like this.

The parents are divorced and both remarry and have children, and the children they all have no one to love, pitiful!

So don't overestimate human nature, let alone father's love and mother's love. A cruel truth in marriage: whether it is a man or a woman, as long as they still have children after remarriage and have a good relationship with their current partner, then they will love their current children very much, and they often don't love the children in front of them so much.

If you don't see each other often, you won't love the children in front of you even more. Regardless of men and women, after getting married, they generally don't pay much attention to the children in front of them, and the reality is cruel.

If the couple divorces, the child lives with only one of the spouses, and the other spouse does not see the child for a long time. After the divorce, the party who does not have children will only get farther and farther away from the children, because the children are not around, and they have not brought them up. In addition, if this party has another child, the time and energy are focused on the child in front of him, and the more he pays, the more he loves, and his heart is full of the child in front of him.

How can there be time to think and love the child who is not around?

Generally, the more you pay for your child, the more it hurts, the more you see your child, the more it hurts, and the less you pay and often don't see it, the less distressed. Human nature is like this, not to say who is good and who is bad, but all feelings need to be managed, even if it is their own children, the feelings that have not been contacted and managed will gradually become strange over time, and only when they are often together can they have feelings. The reason why people are affectionate is that there is no replacement, and once there is a replacement, they can be forgotten.

Treat them as your own children, or they're going to be a problem in the future.

1.Lower expectations. In the eyes of children, stepparents are the "enemies" who break into their family and steal their love.

This time must be mentally equipped in advance. Children have the nature of children, don't expect children to be intimate with you when they come up, adjust your expectations first, and you will reduce the anxiety and worry of remarried couples.

2.Love me, love my dog. If you truly love each other, you will love each other's children from the bottom of your heart.

When the daughter put her arms around her mother's neck, she pleaded with tears in her eyes: "Mom, I don't want stepfather, I will listen to you and serve you in the future." "Is the man willing?

This is a big problem. Therefore, if a remarried family wants to congratulate each other's children and have a happy life, the husband and wife must truly love each other.

3.Treat sincerely. Don't think that the other party is a stepchild, so you don't dare to express your true self, dare not cause conflict, and swallow your anger in exchange for a smooth interpersonal relationship. In this way, the child will also let go of "demanding" and "hostile", and give each other a chance to truly build a relationship.

4.Accurate positioning. Stepparents should not try to replace their parents, and always give their parents an unshakable position and space in the child's macro psychology, and the child can give his parents love from their parents, and at the same time they can give their stepparents love from their stepson, which is not contradictory.

Dealing with the issue of the ex's children in a remarried family takes time and space, and requires patience and effort on the part of both spouses. It is only through genuine treatment and mutual understanding that a healthy relationship can be built, which will bring happiness and security to the new family members.

In reality, remarried families, especially those who have children, are mostly planning for their own children, holding their money bags tightly, for fear that the other party will have a plan.

Not to mention the super high emotional intelligence.

Most of them are divorced because they didn't handle their first marriage well, and if they have a strong ability to introspect, they will naturally grow, but most people don't have this ability at all, and it's more common to blame each other.

As for the kids, that's luck.

If you're lucky, the other person's child will accept you; If you are unlucky, if you meet a bear child, you can't beat, scold, manage, or speak.

If you want to deal with this kind of remarriage situation, in addition to your super ability, you also have to rely on luck.

Second, one party has children and the other party has no children.

Blood relationship is really a magical thing, as long as there is a blood relationship, no matter how bad the other party is, no matter how bad it is, there will be more tolerance and care.

But without that relationship, it's going to be hard.

In fact, many men and women understand in their hearts that since they have remarried, they should be kind to each other's children, so as to facilitate the harmony of family relations.

But in reality, it is far more difficult to accept the other person's child than to love a strange child.

Because the other child's child represents the other's past, seeing this child will remind the other party's former other half.

Unless you really like the child, and the child is smart and sensible, the probability of harmony is higher.

But most people are ordinary people after all, not saints, and the party with children will want the other party to treat their children as their own, while the party without children hopes that they are the most important in the other person's heart.

If they have different emphases, it is easy to contradict each other.

Especially the requirement to treat it as oneself, as I said earlier, there is a blood relationship, you don't have to ask for it, and the relationship between the two will be very close.

After remarriage, try to treat your ex-husband's children as if they were your own, let him feel your love, and slowly let down his guard, even if he will not have a good impression of you for a while, at least don't become an antagonistic relationship.