What is the current state of the entourage in the countryside?

Many families in rural areas have paid more than 100,000 yuan just for so many years, and some families have come back with them, and some have simply not received them. This bad habit really should stop from our generation. Historically, there was this custom in the old days because people were too poor to afford weddings and funerals, and they needed to raise funds in this way.

There are many things in the countryside that are too early, such as the children are married, the baby is also born, and the things that should be done have passed, but then the money in the rural areas has risen too terrible, and now the farmers who are not at home can only get in and out, and they have to spend about 10,000 yuan every year.

Usually it's okay, as soon as it comes to June, seven or eight, it's disgusting to participate in the college entrance banquet, and some people hold a college entrance banquet after the college entrance examination, and they don't care where their children go to the exam, so they are in a hurry to get the money sent out in the past few years back, not to mention the red and white ceremonies they participate in every year, and they have to take out thousands of yuan just for the college entrance banquet. Sometimes there are many children who graduate this year, and they have to pay out more than 10,000.

I remember when I was very young, we had only 5 yuan in the rural areas here, which should be a matter of eight years, and then slowly 10 yuan, 30 yuan, 50 yuan, 100 yuan, of course, I am talking about only the money of friends, not the main relatives, the money of rural people is also increasing with the improvement of the level of social and economic development, but it is understandable, but now the sow has to give birth to a part, very speechless.

Obviously asking for money, many people went out with 50 a few years ago, and now who will follow so little, so those who come back are at least 200, and the relatives at home are easy to compare, and there are more and more than they come, resulting in the emergence of the kind of sow ** who want to take advantage of some cheap and receive some gifts.

Last month, a distant relative of my family built a new house to set up a banquet, especially distant relatives, and particularly not authentic, his two sons got married, I all followed the ceremony, as a result, my daughter got married without even a blessing, the mobile phone could not get through for a few days, for fear that I would ask him for money, and then said that he did not know about it, said that we did not inform him, and then did not say that the gift, as a result, he built a new house I did not go with the ceremony, because this met and did not talk to me, I was speechless, this bad habit of the followers should really be changed, If this continues, the feelings between people will really become weaker and weaker.

In the countryside, there are generally not many followers, they all follow the crowd and exchange courtesies.

Because in the countryside, many neighbors are very familiar, unlike the general neighbors in the city are nodding friends, so it is impossible for people to say nodding friends, and the neighbors and villagers have gone, not to go is not to give face, to go to pay money, after the money wants to get back as soon as possible, after a long time, people may not return the gift, so every year the big and small things continue to flow, a year can not drop tens of thousands of dollars.

There are not too many people in each family, but there are many people in the village, and big and small things have to be treated, from red and white ceremonies to moving and buying a car, at least 20,000 yuan a year, and I really can't afford it.

Rural people don't have any heart, a lot of small things to do banquets are obviously collecting money, without turning around, a family has received other people's families also want to collect, after all, the money has been taken out, in case people move to the city in the future, after all, now rural people are running to the city, which leads to every household to collect money, eager to take back the gifts that have gone out in the past ten years, resulting in more frequent gifts in rural areas now.

In our hometown, the amount of followers in the countryside is not large. But it's very ordinary, and it's reached a very bad point, and basically every week someone comes to hold all kinds of things, such as being a soldier and going to high school, which is all within the scope of doing things.

In our rural areas, the average person in our village is 200 yuan, and there are more relatives and friends. There were four meals on the first night of his birthday and on his birthday, and the family went to the man's house to hand out a pack of cigarettes of about 20 yuan. The host family is generally at a loss. Only when everyone is courteous and reciprocal can they be close to unity.

Recently, our family soldiers went to follow the gang in three ways, and almost every day we had relatives and friends running errands.

I remember when I was a child, I went to eat a banquet are mostly a piece of two pieces, relatives are basically five yuan, I was married in 03, the same village is basically ten yuan, relatives are thirty, classmates or friends who have a good relationship are fifty, now it's a big deal, it's not a matter of more money and less money, the size of the nail cover has to follow the part, friends have bought a car, the child is full moon, the home has been decorated, to say something bad, even a change of furniture has to be put on a few tables, as little as two or three hundred, more than thousands. When we have something to do, we will go out to work! It's too much of a back!

I'm looking forward to saving money to buy a house in the city now, out of here, the people in our village are almost out of wands, since a family bought a car to entertain guests, everyone seems to have a new way to make money in an instant, everything wants to set up a banquet, collect some money, really drunk.

Red and white ceremonies, seven of eight, anyway, a year's investment in this area is not small, sometimes it is difficult to bear. Therefore, I basically have no social contacts, only relatives move around, and my salary is less than 2,000 a month, so I can't help it. Besides, you have no power, no power, no money, and no one else wants to associate with you.

After reading these comments, this phenomenon is really what I want to comment on in my heart, these people who mess with banquets want to go crazy with money, I only did it once in my sixties, it was my son who got married, I know that I can make money by running banquets, so I am exempt from doing other things, and now I don't eat all those messy banquets,

I think it's okay, it's still an affordable part, and the average relative and friend is only about 500.

Our neighbors here hold a wedding banquet and invite the neighbors, at least 500 yuan, the relatives are thousands of harmony, and the people have to do it.

I have a headache when I talk about this. The daughter-in-law of the daughter born to the grandfather's sister has to call us for her birthday. . . We don't know who it is ...

People told you that you were embarrassed not to go. It's also drunk. There are also a bunch of inexplicable reasons to put wine.。。

It's better to pay free of money and invite people to eat for free.

Don't the people in the city follow the elements, there are no relatives and friends, the stones have changed, how about opening and closing the mouths in the countryside.

One of my elementary school classmates got married, and a few of the better ones in our class all paid 500 yuan together, which is still relatively high compared to other classmates.

Follow what you should follow, and don't go if you shouldn't

It's gone away, in fact, it used to be not with the money, it's what you take, and everyone helps with whomever has anything big or small.

Rural banquet help.

In the past, they all helped each other, your family bent to do things, the east family contributed to the effort, the west family came out of the rice, and the south family came out of the seat bench. This has disappeared in big cities.

Neighbors help with stir-frying.

Everyone has big and small things, they used to help each other, the atmosphere was harmonious, the neighbors were in harmony, and everyone was united. Now almost all of them imitate the help of relatives, and there is no previous atmosphere.

Everyone helped with the ingredients.

It is inevitable that something will gradually become obsolete over time and the development of the city. But some things have to be inherited, especially during the Chinese New Year, after being controlled, there is no New Year's flavor, and there is no such expectation.

No. In the south, it is called red envelopes, and no matter how different the name is, the envelopes are real banknotes.

It is difficult to verify the true origin of the Chinese followers, but most people believe that the reason for the country's followers in the past 1,000 years is Zhu Yuanzhang's "proposal." His original intention was to enable the poor people to form mutual assistance among the people, which could not only solve urgent needs, but also form a good social and moral trend.

However, why are young people so resistant to following molecules now?

Quite simply, the development of "mutual assistance" in the past has changed its flavor now, because the amount of money that inevitably follows the evolution of the elements into boxing competitions and human relations is sophisticated. Not only do you have to follow the courtesy, but in some places there are special account tables, and the amount of money you have with you must not only be recorded, but also shouted out in public, which makes it quite embarrassing for those who are shy and have to attend these meetings.

As far as I am concerned, "taking money with my own money" is a "bad habit" that is quite a headache

If it is a close family or friend, whether it is a good thing or a white thing at home, I am willing to take the initiative to give a gift. It is quite good for the good deed to make a blessing, to express the condolences in the white matter, and to take a hand again in something.

I am willing to give this money, and I am happy to give it away, and if I encounter an accident, the other party will also take me to heart.

There used to be a joke that every year, when people of marriageable age are most afraid of the May 11 holiday, they have to give away their wages for several months before and after. In the past few years, the economic situation has been bad, and everyone's life has been tight.

Why do young people "break off their relatives"?They really don't move! In the past, people followed the group, thinking that someone would help someone in trouble. But now that everyone is living a good life, they don't necessarily lack this share of money, but no matter how good their lives are, no one can afford to send money everywhere.

Specialized culture and customs are passed on in a variety of ways. Parents and elders can teach by word and deed, local cultural and tourism bureaus can protect the inheritance, and teachers and students who specialize in relevant colleges and schools can keep records. Cultivate intangible cultural heritage inheritors and carry out some publicity activities during holidays.

How can China's thousands of years of cultural heritage be tied up because it "doesn't follow the money"? It's too one-sided.

It is quite good that young people have abandoned the bad habit of "following the elements."

<> "Follow the taboo and exquisiteness, don't give it wrong!"

1. The taboo of following the elements.

1. There are taboos in the homophonic meaning of the amount.

The homonym of the number 3 is "scattered", the meaning is not very auspicious and not good, so it is recommended that the gift number avoid 3, and similarly, the homophonic meaning of the number 4 is not very good, and it is best to avoid it is recommended to choose some common auspicious numbers, such as etc. But if the other party does not care too much about the harmonic and closed sound, the implication, it is also okay to follow 300.

2. The amount of the gift should not be singular.

Chinese pay attention to good things in pairs, so the amount of gifts is recommended to take even numbers, such as etc., there is a good sign.

3. Birthday gifts can not be followed.

For some old classmates who have not been in touch for a long time and suddenly notify you of the wedding, this situation is considered a birthday gift, and you don't need to follow it.

Second, the attention of the elements.

1. About how much.

With the most convenient with the whole number, such as etc., these are also good numbers, with the specific number, according to the customs bureau to search for the relatives and their own economic situation to determine the general colleagues and ordinary friends with 200-500 yuan; Good friends more than 500 yuan; 1000 yuan + for relatives and friends, in addition to integers, the meaning of red envelopes ending in numbers is also very good, such as or 888 and so on.

2. Pay attention to the "principle of reciprocity".

If someone gives you too much, the amount of the gift should be equal to or greater than the amount of the gift, otherwise it will make people think a little too much and think that you are taking advantage of him.

3. Talk about "doing what you can".

Some people regard their face as very important and give others a high amount of red envelopes, but if you are under great financial pressure, or your relationship is not so close, then you don't have to be searched by the face kidnapping bureau, and you can express your mind as much as you can.

4. Pay attention to "courtesy and exchange".

If others follow the happy event themselves, then when they do the happy event, they will take the initiative to return the favor without waiting for the invitation.

ps: The above is the precautions about the followers, the money is just their own mind, so how much you want, or you need to decide according to your personal situation!

Marriage itself is a very grand event, for each of us, we need to have a lot of preparation when getting married, whether it is clothing, bride price or the details of the wedding banquet, it is worth a little scrutiny.

However, this is only something that people who hold wedding banquets need to consider, when ordinary people go to the wedding banquet, there is only one thing that can be considered, and that is how many people should go to the wedding banquet.

It is also very important to say that the matter of the followers is also very important, we will choose according to the friendship with the founder of the wedding banquet, as well as the standard of the wedding banquet, so the different wedding banquets with the part of the money, the number is also different, the earliest time, a dime and two cents is already very much, and the later five yuan and ten yuan are very generous.

However, nowadays, we are more unscrupulous when we follow the elements, 1,2000 is a routine operation, and when the relationship is closer, it is also very common to follow 120,000.

And this culture of conformity has followed us for many years, and it seems to us that it is a matter of course to participate in all kinds of wedding feasts.

However, knowing and seeking are not at all in conflict. So everyone who has followed so much money, have you seriously understood the reason why my country got married with a share?

In the beginning, when people participated in all kinds of white and red wedding feasts, they didn't say anything about it, after all, people at that time only thought of celebrations, and every family was like this.

However, this matter has changed to a certain extent in the era of Ming Taizu Zhu Yuanzhang, and I understand from the watermelon ** According to Ming Taizu, when there is a red and white happy event, there is money to contribute and make a strong contribution, and it will always not go in vain.

In this way, whoever has a wedding banquet from then on, no matter what type it is, the little friends who go to participate have to bring something that they can produce, and thus the history of the group began.

The history of the development of the elements.

At the beginning, the followers were able to replace them with goods and labor, but later people's lives became better and better, and ordinary followers could no longer meet everyone's needs.

Qian came into everyone's sight at this time, in the last years of the Qing Dynasty, the matter of followers made countless royal children have a headache, let alone ordinary people.

It can only be said that in order to follow the elements, everyone empties not only their own purses, but also savings and the only things they have, but now we are not only considering relationships, but also considering their own face, after all, the more money they have, the stronger their abilities.