Why can t women come to the table to eat when there are guests in rural homes?

Because the countryside is very backward, the status of women is relatively low. Therefore, it is not allowed to be served at the table.

This is a bad habit, an inherent notion of male superiority and inferiority, and women can only eat in the kitchen. In addition, in a long time ago, when it was very poor, after the family had guests, if the women were allowed to serve the table, there would not be enough food.

Shandong guests do not allow women to eat at the table, is it a bad habit or tradition of preference for sons.

The key to consider when men and women divide the table is the custom reason, but this is like saying that men and women are not equal in disguise, if the boyfriend acquiesces to this behavior, first of all, he must consider whether he really has this kind of patriarchal idea in his heart, if there is an early split! In fact, there are many people eating at home, and it is normal to sit like this, and you will drink at one table, but not at one table. The life is lived by oneself, and you know your own warmth and coldness, and you don't have to listen to others after the table is divided.

The division of the table is not based on gender, but according to whether to drink or notIf there are 10 people in the family, it is completely possible to eat at one table, and if there are 20 or 30 people in the family, what should be done? Do you still have to squeeze into a table? Now a table at home can accommodate more than 10 people at most, how can 30 people eat?

When there are many people, you must eat at separate tables, so how to eat? Drinking, non-drinking, smoking, non-smoking, talking about politics, football, housework, gossip entertainment, etc., let a man who drinks and smokes and a woman who talks about gossip and entertainment be together, can they eat and drink happily? 3. Don't make a big fuss just eat at separate tables, the meals are all the same, there is no gender discrimination at all, don't simply look at the superficial phenomenon, if there are men who don't drink, they can also be separated from the men's table that drinks and go to the women's table who doesn't drink; If there are women who drink to the men's table where they drink, it's okay, no problem.

In fact, this is the case in many areas, especially in the countryside, a table for drinking, a table for non-drinking, a table for children, this is actually not divided by gender, women can drink the same as a men's table, men don't drink, can also go to the women's table, and **, the girl also said, the meals are the same, the boy is also very good to himself, and the two are very happy.

In fact, the locals know that it is mainly for the convenience of drinking, the frequency of men and women eating is not the same, and the topics of conversation are not the same, the men's table will be longer because of the problem of wine, and the women's table is because they basically do not drink, and they eat quickly.

Regarding the statement that some rural women are not allowed to eat at the table, in fact, it is not that they are not allowed to eat at the table, but the person who cooks the rice is busy with everything, and the guests have basically finished eating and leaving the table, only those who drink alcohol are still eating.

However, in many families in rural areas, women do the housework and men accompany the guests.

This situation is rare in my hometown, our side is generally in more formal occasions, such as family gatherings or banquets, men and women generally have the habit of eating at separate tables, there is no factor that discriminates against women, but because men will smoke and drink when they sit together to eat, and women will appear inconvenient next to them, so it is generally women and children who sit together to eat, so that not only can take care of the children, but also do not have to endure some smoke and alcohol. Both men and women will eat more freely.

<> this is obviously a disdain for women, anyway, there is no such phenomenon in our hometown, unless there are too many guests in the house, and there are not so many people sitting at the table, and the women in their own family take the initiative to leave the place to the guests, and eat in the kitchen or standing around the table because of the existence of feudal ideas, which constitutes a phenomenon of inequality between men and women, and thinks that women on the table is a kind of impoliteness and disrespect to guests. When guests come to the house, female friends are busy in the kitchen, and guests can't stop eating, which is the idea of male superiority and inferiority of women in the past. Now women in the new era and new society are different, men and women are equal, and women can hold up half the sky!

In the common marriage in the countryside, a woman-dominated wine table will be arranged, which is actually a manifestation of progress. On the other hand, there is a strong sense of sophistication in rural areas, especially in weddings, funerals, festivals and New Year's holidays, there will be relatives walking around, in the old society under the general poverty, entertaining guests, there is good food to take care of the guests, so there is a tradition that women can not serve the table. In the era when the belly was barely filled, the particular guests would not eat the plate cleanly, and sometimes men drank and talked about things, and it was estimated that women would not serve the table if they did not drink, so as to avoid embarrassment.

Now, of course, women are emancipated. Conventional wisdom has also been broken. There aren't so many rules.

Now this phenomenon should be relatively rare, right?,Now women are the sky.,What to go out to eat is decided by women.,When guests come to the house, it's all men who cook?In this era where you can have enough food and clothing without relying on men, you have the confidence to live.

Because in the past, women had a low status in the family, and they were considered to be people who would lose their own family if they couldn't get on the stage, and these bad habits in the countryside were naturally not allowed to serve women on the table if they were not corrected.

In many rural areas, women have a relatively low status, and when a guest comes, the male host chats with the guest, and the woman cannot interject, so when the guest comes, the woman cannot go to the table to eat.

In ancient times, people who were a little more particular about it were entertained by the male host, and the female relatives would not share the table. If a guest comes with a female guest, the host's female family member will have another seat in the inner room to accompany the female guest, and will never sit with a mixed woman.

Of course, there are also women who accompany the wine at the banquet, all of them are some dusty women, professional escorts. This kind of mixed sitting scene can often be seen in "Golden Vase Plum", and serious people generally don't do this. When the ladies eat together, it is easier to see the respect and humility of the elders and the young.

For example, in "Dream of Red Mansions", when Jia's mother was eating, Mrs. Xing and Mrs. Wang had to wait. Sometimes, Mrs. Wang and the unmarried girls sat down to eat, and Li Kun and Wang Xifeng stood aside, waiting for everyone to eat before they could sit down to eat.

This can't be helped, this is called the order of the young and the old. This custom has been passed down to the present day, and it still exists in some places, which has nothing to do with dignity and inferiority, but is just a custom. Old social customs.

In ancient matrilineal clan societies, mothers were respected and worshipped, people knew that there was a mother but not a father, and women occupied a dominant position in the clan commune, and the matrilineal inheritance system and the marriage and residence system of men marrying women and living in women were implemented.

Although the model of equal rights between husband and wife has appeared in the relationship of many rural couplesHowever, judging only from the traditional custom of accompanying guests to dinner and serving tables, the remnants of patriarchy still exist in our countryside, and they are presented in an unspeakable stern and domineering manner. Nowadays, the general practice is that the male guests will sit at the table, and if there are female elders in the host's house, they will also sit together, and the young women and children will set up another table, so that the guests are respected, and they are not wronged by their own families.

Nowadays, in some rural areas, women and children are not allowed to eat at home.

Men are allowed to serve, but women are not, because it is a traditional custom and it has not changed in many places.

It is a kind of patriarchal thinking, and for this kind of thing, women and children can be served together.

Rural homes are served with guests, women and children. That's an ancient saying.

At first, it was mainly because the table was not enough to sit, and later it was also because the children were more naughty and not very strict on the table.

Because rural people think that women and children can't get on the table, they should serve food in the kitchen.

Because before the social status of women was very low, and then small children could talk nonsense.

Women and children can't get on the countertop, so they should serve food in the kitchen because of custom.