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Behind this phenomenon are factors such as living conditions and eating habits in the northern countryside. In the northern countryside, the meal is eaten on the kang. Generally, seven or eight people can sit on a fire, and about 10 people can be squeezed hard.

When a big family in the north had a dinner, they couldn't sit on the kang at all. Moreover, when eating, men like to drink first, and those who sit in the seats will be persuaded to drink. The women naturally retreated, or helped the hostess cook and stir-fry, or found another place to chat.

After the man has drunk and bragged, he will lean back and let the women and children, who have not eaten, go to the table to eat (that is, go to the kang). The weather in the north is cold, and the big family gathers to fry a lot of vegetables, and the cooking efficiency is not so high. If you wait until everything is ready and then eat it together, the food will be cold.

Therefore, the hostess who cooks is very pitiful, so she can't eat with everyone. This is one of the reasons why we can't eat together. Usually these situations are not discrimination against women, not that you are not qualified and have no status to serve, but that this dining habit and objective conditions make it impossible for everyone to serve the table.

In this case, women do not eat at the table, which is a kind of humility, a kind of contribution to the housework of cooking. However, in some areas, there are families who do discriminate. In these families, women's humility and dedication are taken as inevitable and formed a habit, and over time, women are given a feeling of low status when they don't eat first.

Usually these family men are also more violent, and there is also an element of pseudo-machismo. Why is it called pseudo, that is, this kind of family is usually a very poor, very primitive and backward feudal family, and men have no ability, and they use these details to save face, that is, the so-called poor and exquisite. In their family, housewives are indeed oppressed.

Regardless of whether there is a place on the kang or not, whether you can sit open, you have to wait for the man to finish drinking and eating, and the woman can serve the table. It is considered rude and offensive for women to sit down and eat together. As a girlfriend, if you encounter the latter situation, you must think twice, whether you want to accept a boyfriend cultivated by such a family?

Maybe it's their local customs, I know that in some places in Shandong, women are not allowed to serve at the table. You can only eat when the man has finished eating.

This is also a local custom, so don't pick this kind of etiquette, some places are still relatively backward, since you have chosen such a boyfriend, you should understand each other.

Why do you marry over there with such a custom? Women have no status.