Read What Others Do to You, You Teach .

Douban score Chang Zao:

Publisher: CITIC Publishing Group.

Year of publication: 2019-6

Pages: 376

Brief introduction:[Any bad relationship, there must be a credit from you] When lamenting the unsatisfactory life and complaining about the unfairness of fate, please ask yourself: How did I get to where I am today?

Who pushed me into this situation? What pattern within me is making the world do this to me?

To improve interpersonal relationships, we must first see our own life model] 16 behavior patterns, 10 thinking patterns, 22 emotional patterns, and combinations constitute your life model. The reason why we fall into one predicament after another is related to our life pattern, and only when a person sees and perceives his own pattern will he naturally make changes.

One Psychological Investor, Senior Psychology Tutor Huang Qituan Students Break 100,000 Psychological Growth Course] The author Huang Qituan is a senior psychology tutor, focusing on the application of psychology for more than 20 years of education and communication, and has done nearly 10,000 hours of personal counseling cases, benefiting more than 100,000 students.

The economy has the laws of economy, and human nature also has the laws of human nature, and for entrepreneurs, psychology is a good supplement to economics. Huang Qituan's new book "What Others Do to You, You Teach" is a book about the laws of human nature, if you can't change the general environment and pattern, this book can help you see yourself and understand the way others do things, avoid the minefield of interpersonal relationships, and is worth reading for business people. - Wu Xiaobo.

In addition to eating and sleeping, people live in the world as much as doing things and interacting with others. Interactions with people, including colleagues, neighbors, friends, and what is commonly known as public relations, but also love, marriage, and family relationships that are linked by sex and blood. From how a person interacts with people, we can especially see his life.

Zhou Guoping. About author:Huang Qituan. Senior Psychology Tutor.

For more than 20 years, he has focused on applied psychology education, successfully applied psychological theories to business management, marriage, family, parent-child education and other fields, invested in the creation of a famous Chinese psychology platform - One Psychology, and provided valuable psychological services for society, organizations and everyone with interesting, loving and practical expressions; At the same time, it also invested in the creation of psychological institutions such as Zhizhixing and Wuhan Xinzhai. He is the author of popular psychology books "Just Because There Is No One in My Eyes" and "Circle Breakthrough".

Face the emotion, see it, accept it. In fact, we usually have a lot of emotions, such as anger and unwillingness, and many times we are patient, but we know that it is not a good thing to endure emotions.

After a long time, these emotions will accumulate in our bodies and hearts, which is a great harm to ourselves.

The author tells us that the right way to face an emotion is not to manage it, but to see it and accept it.

We need to learn to be aware of emotions and see the true expression behind them.

Everyone is your mirror.

This statement is succinct and straightforward.

You teach you how others treat you, and I think this sentence makes a lot of sense. Like an introvert, he is usually reluctant to speak, so he is very silent in a strange group. After spending a long time with everyone, you can slowly be accepted by everyone.

Introverts are generally slow-burning. He is reluctant to take the initiative to talk to others, so others also think that he is very indifferent, and they are not willing to talk to him. Therefore, the relationship between the two parties is not only generated by one person, but by the joint action of two parties.

That is to say, people are mutual, the side you show to others will be accepted by others, then he will naturally have a right and wrong judgment ability for you, and then choose a corresponding way to treat you in the opposite way, so most people will not target you or be good to you for no reason, it must be at a certain moment that your behavior has an impact on him.

Just like a classmate and a teacher, this teacher is a person who makes you very afraid, so you will be very in awe when you face him. Then when the teacher sees you, he will have a sense of distance from your personality. This is what you teach you that others have done to you.

This sentence is like saying that a lively person blends into a strange group, and it doesn't take long, and in a very short time, he can get along with everyone. Because he can open his heart to everyone very quickly, so that everyone can also trust him and get along better. If you are enthusiastic about others, they will be warm and cheerful to you, and it's all mutual.

The simple understanding is that if you are good to others, others will be good to you, if you are not good to others, others will also be bad to you, so in our lives, whether it is making friends or getting along with others, we must pay great attention to our words and deeds, and don't always be careless.

This sentence reminds me of family education for children, I often hear such a sentence in life, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, as the first teacher of children, the appearance of parents determines the appearance of children. Just like a child, because you don't have the ability to judge right and wrong, you can only learn some things through imitation, just like sometimes parents shout at their children, then children will naturally not obey the management of their parents when they grow up, and they will become short-tempered and disrespectful.

Just like your good friends or your best friends, you must be very good to them, and they have a good relationship, so they will play with you, study and work together. It is precisely because you open your heart and treat her with sincerity that she is willing to stay with you.

Some of the qualities or bad things that emanate from you will become extremely obvious and prominent in the eyes of others, and at this time, they will unconsciously leave some specific impressions on others, and everyone will have their own mode of communication and comfort in the process of getting along with others.