Why is it that after the relationship between relatives breaks down, the resentment is deeper than t

After the relationship between relatives broke down, the resentment was deeper than that of outsiders. I deeply understand this, my parents and my second uncle and aunt have not spoken for decades, and even when they were young, they quarreled and scolded at every turn.

The breakdown of their relationship originated from the unfair treatment of the grandfather, the grandfather has been living with the second uncle, and naturally he is more partial to them in the family property, which is understandable, but the second aunt is not a trouble-free person, and often likes to say some "witty words", my mother is particularly unaccustomed to her cheap and well-behaved appearance, so, since the first quarrel and quarrel again, the relationship has become more and more stiff, and it is really not as good as an outsider.

Brotherly discord is not used to this kind of situation in my hometown, especially in the 80s and 90s.

Why is there so much resentment between relatives? There are two reasons for this:

The first point is that they have given each other, and the more they give, the heavier the resentment in their hearts after not being understood. From the level of giving, when we pay for our relatives, we always have no regrets and do not ask for anything in return, even if one of the parties pays more, we will not care.

And when we get along with outsiders (except for friends who have a strong relationship), we are more or less more accountable for the gains and losses, and we will not blindly give for the other party without considering our own situation.

People have a sense of value to be recognized, especially between relatives, the other party does not agree with themselves, denies themselves, and sadness is naturally more harmful than being denied by outsiders.

Second, the closer the person, the more you know which point you will poke you will be more painful. When there are differences between relatives, some people often only care about their own comfort and are completely disregarding the consequences, saying anything that is difficult to hear, and doing whatever they do to hit the other party.

The so-called knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent really refers to where to fight!

And when we have a conflict with outsiders, we may just say what we are aggrieved about, and generally we can't grasp each other's pain points to attack each other.

And between relatives, those heart-piercing injuries are difficult to heal.

Write at the end:

Why does it hurt the most when family affection changes, because it is our relatives who hurt us, they used to be people we relied on and trusted, and we will not believe that the relationship between ourselves and each other ended like this in the end before things are irreparable.

And once the damage is formed, it is really difficult to convince yourself to redeem it, and even if you are willing to bow your head to redeem it, the other party may not be happy to accept it.

Even so, we should let go of each other's prejudices, choose to forgive and accept each other's badness, whether it is father and son, the relationship between brothers and sisters, is precious, this kind of feeling, there is no afterlife!

There are thousands of people in this world, who can meet in a big family, with blood thicker than water, it is really unavoidable, what resentment is worth putting in our hearts for a lifetime?

Learn to let go, let go of others, but also let go of yourself, and make way for your own heart.

Because I care. Expectations of loved ones are higher than of strangers, so there will be deeper resentment.

Because the two of you are the closest, people are always like this, you want to get something from some people who have a better relationship, and if you don't get anything, you will be very resentful after the relationship breaks down.

Because they are two very close people, but because of a contradiction, they will break down, and the contradiction that blood is thicker than water will be even deeper.

First, there is no communication except for economic exchanges. Second, they start to look at each other unpleasantly. Third, start to slander each other behind their backs and gossip about each other. It is easy to turn into enemies.

The first is that there are frequent quarrels, which often occur between relatives and can seriously affect each other's feelings.

Second, there is a lack of contact, a lack of communication between relatives, and the relationship will get worse and worse.

Third, there is an entanglement of interests, there is an entanglement of interests between relatives, and if it is not handled properly, it will make relatives turn against each other.

Relatives do not move around each other, do not greet each other when they see each other, and go to court to file a lawsuit, indicating that the relationship has deteriorated and become enemies. In fact, life goes by for decades, so why bother! It's all self-inflicted.

Anything must be said between relatives, and because a bowl of water is uneven, they value their own feelings more and ignore the interests of others

1. If there is a misunderstanding between relatives, if you don't say it, it is easy to have estrangement. 2. When there is a problem between relatives, many times the bowl of water is not even.