As a teacher, I often encounter unreasonable parents, how to deal with them

School teachers have to deal with students and parents every day, because there are more students, it is inevitable to encounter some unreasonable parents, so how should teachers deal with this kind of thing? I think there are several main ways to do this.

1. Strengthen communication.

I don't think there is a big conflict between teachers and parents, and everyone's original intention is to hope that children can learn better. Sometimes their children do not study well, which makes parents feel that it is the responsibility of teachers. In addition, in the parent group, teachers may criticize or not praise some children who are not serious enough in their studies, which will also make parents misunderstand that their children are not treated well by teachers.

In fact, teachers treat students equally, and sometimes it is also the teacher's responsibility to educate children. It doesn't mean that the child who is criticized by the teacher is a bad child, many times the teacher just reminds the child and hopes that the child can be better.

Second, affirm your child more.

As a minor, many of the children's behaviors need to be restrained by adults. In the process of growing up, it is inevitable to make mistakes. Teachers should see more of the child's strengths, encourage and support the child, and give the child a positive response.

Parents will also sincerely thank the teachers when they see their children's progress. If the teacher is sincere in helping the students, I am sure that the parents will not be unreasonable.

3. Reflect on yourself.

I think both teachers and parents should reflect on themselves. In daily life, in the face of so many people and things, is there something wrong with me? As the saying goes, if a person is not a sage, he can do no wrong.

As a parent, it is important to understand the work of a teacher, who is dealing with dozens of different children, and it is impossible to do everything in detail. As a teacher, we must also understand the hearts of parents who want their children to become Jackie Chan.

In general, parents should be unreasonable when there is a problem, and the teacher should communicate with the parents well and talk about the problem. Education is a big deal, not something that can be achieved overnight, and schools and families should work closely together to make children learn better and grow faster.

As a year leader, young homeroom teachers often come to me when they encounter unreasonable parents. Because of my age, my parents were relatively calm in front of me. The next step is to ask the parents to talk about the matter.

Explain the process of the matter in detail, the more detailed the better. Keep asking parents to explain the details clearly. Parents are also invited to share their thoughts on this matter.

I'm a loyal listener.

My mood is calm. The key is not to blame. Most of the unreasonable parents are because they are eager to protect their calves.

As long as the teacher doesn't get angry. nor does he deny the character of his children. In the face of hard facts, unreasonable parents will have nothing to say.

Next, you have to cold it. Tell the parents that you are going to find out directly from the person in question.

Wait until you find out about it. There must be something different about the narratives of parents and students. At the same time, I would like to listen to the opinions of the class teacher. You can start to solve this problem.

This is still necessary to communicate with parents well to avoid some unnecessary troubles and misunderstandings, which will affect their own work ......If you are unreasonable, you must listen to them first, understand their needs, and then adjust your own thinking, to guide parents from the side, and take children as a breakthrough ......

Let's talk about it.

Tell him about the student's situation, and also tell him what the parents are required to do, hoping that he will cooperate with the teacher to educate his child well.

Reasons why teachers don't care about parents:

1. You expect too much from your teacher.

Teachers are also ordinary people, the identity of teachers is their profession, and they also have their own lives and troubles. Some parents like the 24-hour call of the teacher.

For example, if you suddenly want to consult your child's recent situation at school at 8 o'clock in the evening, if the teacher does not reply in time after the message is sent, the parents will be very impatient, thinking that the teacher is deliberately not replying to their messages, deliberately pretending not to see, so they are in a hurry to put an irresponsible hat on the teacher.

2. You are too demanding of your teachers.

Many parents are sensitive and often like to communicate with teachers on the Internet, but they like to misunderstand the meaning of words. Maybe the tone of the teacher's reply to the message at that time was not so heavy, but it was a calm tone, but because the parents were concerned about the current situation, they felt that the teacher's reply deliberately increased the weight, more like a challenge to the parents.

For questions about children, it is recommended that parents communicate with teachers in person. Because the power of Chinese characters is really powerful, the same sentence, described in a literal way, may be read by others as a kind of concern, but in your eyes it is a kind of reproach.

3. Your irresponsibility to your children will also be the source of the teacher's indifference to you.

When there are 45 children in the class, 44 of them insist on reading and clocking in every day, only you refuse to cooperate, can the teacher not be angry? When there are 45 children in the class, and 44 of them are very concerned about their children's affairs, you are more Buddhist and throw everything to the teacher, do you think the teacher will feel comfortable?

Children's education should not be thrown at schools and teachers across the country. Don't think that as a parent, you just need to feed and clothe your child and spend money to send your child to school. If you are lazy in the family, your child will have all kinds of bad problems, and when the teacher is exhausted for your child, you are there to enjoy life leisurely, do you think this is appropriate?

When encountering parents who do not cooperate with the teacher, they should take a rational approach to communicate with the parents and tell the parents that only by interacting with the teacher can the child learn better.

I think you just need to analyze the pros and cons to parents and tell them about their children's school situation. If the parents do not cooperate, then when the child is at home, it may be repeated, and the parents will still cooperate with the teacher, after all, this is also for their own children.

You should have a good talk with your parents, and you should also tell your parents about the pros and cons, after all, parents are also for the good of their children, so parents will definitely cooperate.

Communicate well with the parent, explain the child's learning problems to the parent, and explain the worst-case scenario of the child to the parent.

You should find the principal for specific details, communicate with the teacher, and hope that the teacher can have a basic professional Dao Cong Qi De. You should communicate with the teacher calmly, tell the teacher some truths, and communicate comprehensively with Zheng to understand the teacher's situation.

Parents should communicate with the teacher, so that the teacher has basic professional ethics and understands the teacher's situation. You can shout face-to-face communication with the teacher, or call the teacher, when communicating, you must pay attention to the attitude of the bird. Model Suino.

I think the best thing to do is to tell the teacher that if he continues to be irresponsible like this, he will report him to the Education Bureau.

I think the best thing to do is to tell the teacher that if he continues to be irresponsible, he will report him to the Education Bureau, and then the problem will be solved.

Summary. Hello. Parents don't need to blame the teacher, the teacher with a problem with the attitude, you just blame him useless, the first thing parents need to do is to maintain their children's interest in learning.

Since teachers are not responsible, parents can only be responsible for helping children rebuild their interest and confidence in learning.

What should parents do when they encounter irresponsible teachers? How do I communicate with my teacher?

Hello. Parents don't need to blame the teacher, the teacher with a problem with the attitude, you just blame him useless, the first thing parents need to do is to maintain their children's interest in learning. Since teachers are not responsible, parents can only be responsible for helping children rebuild their interest and confidence in learning.

Parents and teachers are the most important guides for children's growth, and they are allies with the same purpose. Therefore, if a child encounters a problem at school, if parents need the help of a teacher to help their child solve it, they must inform the teacher in time and communicate in a timely manner. The communication between parents and teachers must first be correctly positioned on both sides

a friend, not an enemy; be a collaborator, not an employer; It's about sharing responsibility rather than passing the buck. After the correct positioning, the mentality will naturally tend to be calm and rational; Rational communication will not be angry and biased because children encounter problems at school. Instead, they will sincerely inform the teacher of the problems encountered by the children and in the attitude of a collaborator, and put forward their own opinions or questions. Then, listen patiently to the teacher's explanation and fully understand the teacher's educational purpose and educational style.

If both parties disagree, both parties can choose the most suitable education method for the child, based on the child's personality characteristics.

Once some parents are called to school by the teacher, they will have a kind of panic in their hearts, thinking that their children have made mistakes in school again, and they will go to school to be criticized by the teacher again. After meeting the teacher, I often don't ask about the indiscriminate situation, first train the child and then nod to the teacher to make amends, and then say a bunch of words to ensure how he will discipline him in the future. In this way, parents equate their children's mistakes in school with their own mistakes, and apologize in advance, instead of understanding the problem and the root cause of the problem with the teacher before prescribing the right medicine, such communication is obviously ineffective.

Some parents are very disgusted with the teacher inviting themselves to school, thinking that this is a waste of time and humiliating, and that the teacher likes to make a big fuss and talk about heavy rain in the light of the wind, and this kind of resistance is obviously not conducive to the smooth progress of education. After parents are called to school by teachers, they do not seriously pursue the root cause of the problem and find a solution to the problem. Instead, he brought a wave of anger home and scolded and criticized the child.

If it happens that day because something else is not going well and is not satisfied, then the child's experience will be even worse, and parents will blame the child for all the problems, and punish the child as he pleases, which will only increase the child's fear and rebellion, and it will not help.

Hope mine can help you, thanks.

If there is an unreasonable request from a parent, the teacher should refuse the parent gracefully and politely. At the same time, parents should understand that the teacher's job is to preach in school, not to focus on one thing. Nowadays, many parents do not think about whether the teacher can do it when they do things, they think that the teacher should put everything on their children.

But they ignore that there are a lot of students in one school.

Teachers need to take care of the education of all students, and parents should understand that what they have to do is not to disturb the teacher, so that the teacher can focus more on the student. And teachers must also understand that these demands of parents are unreasonable, and these are not their own responsibilities and business. Don't help the parent, otherwise, the parent will feel that this is a matter of course, and if you don't help the parent in the future, then the parent will feel that this is a mistake.

And some of the phenomena themselves are the correct rules in the school, if the teacher does not give the right response, then the parents will go to the teacher. It is important to understand what your responsibilities as a teacher are, and to know that you only need to take responsibility for these tasks. Some teachers do not help parents, and at the same time, these parents feel that teachers are not loving, but some love cannot be overflowing, otherwise it will affect themselves.

Nowadays, there are many young teachers who are unable to give the right response when faced with the unreasonable demands of their parents. In fact, teachers don't need to change themselves too much, and the principles of being a person and doing things should also be empathetic. I obviously can't complete the tasks given by my parents, but at the same time, I must understand that as long as I do my duty, I can do my part, so that it will not affect the relationship between each other.

And in order to achieve a healthy cooperative relationship between parents and teachers, and to provide a good environment for students to grow, teachers must learn to adjust.

Scientific and effective methods should be used to solve the unreasonable demands of parents, and parents should be rejected at the first time, and parents should be allowed to cooperate with their work.

As a primary school teacher, when faced with unreasonable requests from parents, you should choose to refuse at the first time, and also make it clear that you will not agree.

Teachers should face parents correctly, and at the same time, they should also maintain a correct attitude, do not obey parents without a bottom line, and refuse parents' unreasonable requests in a timely manner.

You can directly refuse or tell the parents that it is very incorrect to do so, and it will harm the child and the child's future.

Parents can be told that they should not do this in their lives, otherwise it will affect the child's physical health and will also affect the child's future development.

Teachers should not be wronged, and teachers can choose not to deal with parents when they are unreasonable. Of course, this kind of unreasonableness does not mean disrespecting parents to teachers, on the contrary, teachers should use a correct attitude to deal with parents' unreasonable troubles. Since it has been said that this is vexatious, then the way teachers and parents are reasonable is simply not feasible, at this time the teacher can choose to find the school leader, and then let the leader help deal with this problem.

The reason why most parents have this kind of vexatious behavior is because parents know that teachers can't use such an attitude towards themselves.

What the teacher should do is not to bear the grievances silently, and when the parents are unreasonable, they should try their best to find the leaders of the school, let the leaders deal with this problem, and let the leaders solve this matter from the perspective of fairness and justice. If parents have any unreasonable requirements, then as a teacher, there is no need to directly reject parents at this time, and should choose to let the leader speak, because what kind of regulations are in the school, the leader will be clearer.

Parents can face the teacher's vexatious trouble, but it is very likely that they will restrain their temper when facing the school leader, so it is a very good way to call the leader to deal with these problems, and it can also reasonably protect their relevant rights and interests. In addition, there is no quarrel between myself and my parents, so that my teacher's work will not be affected accordingly, and I will not give people the feeling that I have no quality.

As a teacher, you can feel very angry with your parents, and you can also feel that this matter makes you very impatient, but don't show such emotions on your face. Because everything teachers do is basically to make students better, not to parents. All in all, although teachers should not be wronged, teachers should not express their emotions casually, otherwise it will directly affect the development of students.