Why some people regret losing because they don t cherish it, such as love

When people have, they are always accustomed to those happiness, take it for granted, think that it will never go away from themselves, over time, they are used to enjoyment, accustomed to acceptance, but forget to give, forget to dedicate, forget that the other party also needs to be cared for, also needs to need to cherish, every feeling needs to be responded. didn't realize that the happiness that had always surrounded him would one day be far away from him. People always think that those who can't get the best are the best, but in fact, they don't realize that the simple happiness around them is what they need.

That's why too many people don't know how to cherish it until they lose it...

The beginning of the beginning is always sweet.

Later, there was boredom, habit, abandonment, loneliness, despair and sneering at the longing to be with someone for a long time, and later, how glad I left the person we thought we loved deeply for a short time.

Later, we found out.

That's not love, that's just lying to yourself.

Believing that love can change a person is the benefit of being young and the sorrow of being young.

The prodigal son will always be the prodigal son. It may be God's love or Buddha's mercy that changes a man, but it will never be a woman.

The most suitable for marriage is the prodigal son, and the most suitable for marriage is also the prodigal son.

It is often not the woman who changes a prodigal son, but the woman who happens to come out just when the prodigal son wants to change.

Yes, there are some things or some things, when people don't know how to cherish it when they have it, once they lose it, they feel the value of its existence and use, and it is irreparable to regret it. The cup is lonely, someone poured boiling water, the feeling of being hot, so the cup thinks this is the feeling of love, when the water becomes warmer, the cup feels very comfortable, I think this is the feeling of life, the water has become cold, the cup is very scared, I think maybe this is the feeling of being afraid of losing, the water has become cold again, the feeling of the cup is also very uncomfortable, I don't want to have a tasteless feeling, I want to pour the water out、、、 the water is finally poured out, at this time the cup feels very comfortable, but it is also poured on the ground at the same time, and it falls into a piece, The cup found that on every fragment, there will be traces of water, it knows that it still loves water in its heart, it wants to love water again but it is impossible, is it only lost will know how to cherish? Only when everything has passed does you know the happiness of the past?

The facts have warned us to cherish what we have now, and not to regret it until we lose it, but it's too late. Reality is always cruel, it doesn't give us that chance, some things are missed and won't come back. --

If you really want to struggle, what you can't get is always the best! Anyway, my experience is like this, in a word, cherish what you have now, and don't regret it anymore!

Will she ever come back to me?

Summary. The fundamental reason why we know how to cherish after loss is that the fact of "loss" breaks the conventional state of "possession" and can no longer return to the original point, which damages people's habitual life pattern and makes people feel disgusted and anxious. So instinctively began to struggle to find their own safe territory, and the brain thinking system will continue to send signals, telling the most practical happiness after the cost performance, so the more you lose, the more you will think of the people and things that you have ignored.

Often these cause a series of crux of the problem, that is, because people have a dependency psychology to a certain extent, so there is a lack of adaptation. When you have it, you may feel dissatisfied or even disgusted, but the habits that have been formed will be tacitly accepted as dependence instincts. In other words, it is not that people suddenly know how to cherish, but that they know how to recognize the emotions caused by the fact that the loss and cost have been correlated.

Distance produces beauty, the more you lose, the easier it is to remember and play back, all the dissatisfaction of the past is blocked, and it is replaced by the good and happy bits and pieces of the other party in the past, those memory fragments let us rekindle the sense of satisfaction and need, when there is no thing that can replace this habit, people will unconsciously produce confused, helpless and panicked emotional changes.

The fundamental reason why we know how to cherish after loss is that the fact of "loss" breaks the conventional state of "possession" and can no longer return to the original point, which damages people's habitual life pattern and makes people feel disgusted and anxious. So instinctively began to struggle to find their own safe territory, and the brain thinking system will continue to send signals, telling the most practical happiness after the cost performance, so the more you lose, the more you will think of the people and things that you have ignored. Often these cause a series of crux of the problem, that is, because people have a dependency psychology to a certain extent, so there is a lack of adaptation.

When you have it, you may feel dissatisfied or even disgusted, but the habits that have been formed will be tacitly accepted as dependence instincts. In other words, it is not that people suddenly know how to cherish, but that they know how to recognize the emotions caused by the fact that the loss and cost have been correlated. Distance produces beauty, the more you lose, the easier it is to remember and play back, all the dissatisfaction of the past is blocked, and it is replaced by the good and happy bits and pieces of the other party in the past, those memory fragments let us rekindle the sense of satisfaction and need, when there is no thing that can replace this habit, people will unconsciously produce confused, helpless and panicked emotional changes.

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People are like this, what you can't get is always the best, so people always deliberately pursue those things that can never be obtained, and often ignore the people around them who have been silently loving them. If you are in true love, then don't break up easily, and don't wait until you lose it to regret it. At that time, the pain was unforgettable.

There are many people in the world who only know how to cherish when they lose, we should cherish the people we have around us, and don't lose an opportunity or a lover because of others, so we will lose a lot.

In the face of our lover, we should treat it with a tolerant heart, no matter what happens, we should tolerate each other and think more about each other's good, so that the relationship between two people will last for a long time.

Because when you lose and find that no one is as good as she is to you, you will regret not cherishing her before.

The more I want to cherish the things that I feel are gone, the more things that pass away, the more I want to cherish them, and life constantly reminds me not to wait until I lose them and then go back and cherish them, but when I pour them, I will only leave deep regrets and empty sighs.

Because I have it, I feel that it is my own.

So gradually I became uncaring.

And when it is lost.

will suddenly find that he only belongs to himself temporarily.

So will regret it.

will know how to cherish.

Therefore, only those who have lost will know how to cherish it.

Because after losing it, I realized that it was so important, that I would be so sad if I didn't have it, that it was so precious.

So I regretted why I didn't cherish it in the first place. Only then will people really understand what is most important. Of course, while our experience is slowly deepening, we will become more and more cautious in doing things, and we will cherish the things around us more and more, and no longer be rash, which is also what we learn to cherish after we have lost.

In fact, the most important thing is not the things that have been lost that make you sad, but the fact that you learn to cherish what you have around you and what you have now. That's what really matters!