What do you think about an only child having a second child and the woman s surname?

I believe everyone knows that the ancient feudal society was a patriarchal society for a long time, so out of the original patriarchal status, the children absolutely followed the man's surname, and the woman had no right to speak. However, with the founding of New China, the status of women began to gradually improve, until today's modern society, which began to show a situation of "yin flourishing and yang declining", and women's status began to gradually higher than that of men. As a result, there began to be a requirement for the other party born with a second child to follow the woman's surname.

In fact, the man is still disgusted by such incidents, because the traditional Chinese culture instills the saying that children must follow the man's surname. However, this kind of thinking also emerged in an environment of long-term inequality between men and women, so there is inequality in the fact that children follow the man's surname.

Yes, in this society, men and women are equal, and following the father's surname and mother's surname has no effect at all. Women who are pregnant in October are also suffering, and they are also paying to raise a baby in the later stage, and it is not too much to ask a child to follow her surname, and the surname is just a synonym! Who to kiss is the truth.

There are a lot of such situations around me, I have the first child with the student's surname and her surname, agreed, the second child and the father's surname, that is, with the father's surname, one with the mother's surname, the same as the household registration, you can follow your parents, I don't understand why everyone values the surname so much, I think it's casual.

The second child follows the father's surname, which is the mainstream of society, and there is nothing wrong with it, and there is no need to blame. The responsibilities and obligations of the woman's parents will not change. If the mother's surname is taken, it can be seen as a transaction or agreement reached with the man's parents and son-in-law, and the woman's elders will provide the necessary support for the grandchildren's growth (including money, time and physical strength for care, etc.).

These are costs that occur during the lifetime of the maternal grandparents, not the wealth that can be inherited after death, and they are not measured by money. The height of a child's growth determines his value, not just the inheritance of the surname. From ancient times to the present, with the mother's surname, given the surname, and changing the surname, it is not possible to do it, not the mainstream.

Back to the problem itself, the origin of the one-child problem is because of the long-standing family planning policy in China, which has led to the collapse of the family name inheritance, and will gradually disappear with the advent of the two-child era. The choice of the child's mother's surname will still flow in the long river of history.

In fact, I think your point is that the child's surname is two, and I am afraid that the two children will not be close in the future, not that you can't accept the child's surname with the woman's surname. In fact, many of the only children now have two children, and they let the children have two surnames. is pro, there are many adopted children who do not have the same surname as the family, and they still get along very well, let alone biological.

There is also the fact that when I got married, I already said good things, but now it is a bit bad to change the hexagram, which affects family harmony.

Although I am a woman, I don't feel that the child is very good with the woman's surname. It's not good for the child, and when the child is sensible, ask why other children have the surname of their father, and why I have the surname of their mother. Or after the child is sensible, he feels that his father has no majesty, and he must generally be the father who is inverted and the woman's surname.

I may be a little feudal!

It will have an impact on the child in the future. The two siblings have different surnames, artificially dividing the boundaries between the two children who could have been close. The contradiction of the second child in front of the parents is not easy to deal with, for example, Dabao will be jealous of Erbao for taking the love of his parents, his parents' love for himself has decreased, he is not as patient as before, and his parents' time has also been divided into two parts, and Erbao's clothes are ...... more beautiful than DabaoThe brothers and sisters with the same surname already have so many thorny problems, coupled with the fact that the second child has different surnames, the preference of the elderly on both sides adds to the confusion, and the difficulty of parenting can be imagined.

In the end, it was the two poor children who were hurt.

The essence of this kind of problem is not with the mother's surname, but with the grandfather's surname! If the mother's family has always had a tradition of taking the mother's surname, and more than ten generations have followed the mother's surname, I support the mother's surname. If the mother still follows the father's surname, and the child changes it, and follows the grandfather, the grandfather's family is the biggest idea of male superiority and inferiority!

We have some only daughters over there, just thinking that the burden of giving birth to a daughter is light and does not need to buy a house, mahjong rubbing, sleeping in a hotel, washing feet, eating and drinking spicy food everywhere, requiring the man to have a house and a car, a large dowry, and a child's surname, requiring to live in the woman's house, the woman's house for the New Year, regardless of the traditional and modern, how advantageous and how to come, double standards.

There are three sisters in my wife's family, and she is the youngest. The children of the two older sisters have grown up. Our son is two years old and has my last name.

He plans to have a second child next year. But my father-in-law and mother-in-law told me early that the second child, regardless of boys and girls, should be based on his family name and his family's genealogy. My parents were very open-minded and said no problem.

But I always feel that two children with two surnames are strange and unacceptable.

Even if you are not an only child, there is nothing wrong with having only one child in this life and letting the child take your surname.

As for the child's surname, you husband and wife just regret the demolition and discuss it.

The surname is originally artificially created, and it is not unique, so there is no need to deliberately entangle, the blood relationship is there, and it doesn't matter whose surname it is.

That's right, support!

It's wrong, yes, but I won't do it, I'm also the only daughter of Bitong Zao, and if I have children, I won't let my two children have different surnames. It doesn't matter who you have the last name, the children of the same father and mother have the same surname. It's best to have my last name [snickering].

The only daughter, with your surname, is nothing more than to help your father pass on the lineage, please make this clear.

The core question, this child is right, is it with your surname, the problem is still the man's family is raising, may I ask where the child belongs to?

There is a gap between the different surname and the grandfather's family, and the relationship with the grandmother's family is not close enough, this is the reality.

Your child doesn't belong....Do you think you're wrong?

Hello, glad for your question.

I think a lot of things are actually very pure in nature, but we think too much about the worldly before we get annoyed.

There is no right or wrong in this matter, the baby is a husband and wife, as long as both parties discuss it, this matter is feasible. Mom's request is not too much, and the two children follow their mother and father, which is quite fair.

The important things of a small family should be decided by Mom and Dad, and not too many people should be involved (others can give advice). Otherwise, many important things will become difficult to do, difficult to carry out, and even intensify the contradictions in the big family.

Ignorant! They are all literate people, what do you say from a medical perspective? "Bloodline inheritance" follows the father's surname; And the girl's blood is not pure!

If you don't believe it, look at the family biography of Confucius and Cao Cao, so far the genes of father and son are inconvenient ......If the child changes his surname, then he will become a "adopted" child! What about the child's child?

There is nothing wrong, it is a normal idea, and this situation is very common in my family, I am Yangzhou Gaoyou, the post-90s are basically more than one, and now they are married and go at both ends, do not bride price, the man buys a house, the woman's family buys a car, and the two parents help raise the child together, the child gives birth to two on the family with a surname, and the young couple discusses with whom the surname is, my daughter is with my husband's surname, if there is a second child, it must be with my surname, otherwise my parents will fry the pot.

Generally, the reasonable husband's family will agree, of course, the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds, in case the husband's family does not agree, there will be a lot of awkwardness and right and wrong, even if through various efforts to reach an agreement, many suspicions will also affect the relationship between the husband and wife. Then forget it, wheel track [yay].

That's right, support! Because my family's two treasures are also the same as my surname [呲tooth] [呲tooth] [呲tooth].

I think it's okay for a child to follow his father's surname or his mother's surname, as long as the family learns to respect each other and get along happily, it will have the most positive effect on the child's growth, and it will also allow him to really grow up healthy and happy.

Therefore, we must learn to communicate with children in the right way and guide them in the right way, so that they can live a more confident and independent life.

1.Keep your profile down when communicating.

I'm right", this attitude will only lead to the deterioration of the communication relationship and make it impossible for communication to continue. When communicating, it is best to keep your profile as low as possible, that is, to fully respect the opinions of the other party, and to express your opinions and opinions appropriately and not excessively.

Even if you think that your statement is not wrong or there is a problem with the other party's opinion, you should first listen to the other party's words, different people have different ideas, the ability to express and understand is also different, there may be the other party's expression mistakes or their own understanding is biased, you should lower your posture and listen patiently.

2.Keep a calm mind when communicating.

It is important not to be emotional, because being emotional may make communication stuck halfway and unable to communicate, and even lead to abandonment and failure of communication. If you feel particularly irritable and restless in the process of communication because of your emotions, you will have to stop communicating and wait for a period of time to calm down before you can continue to communicate, which will actually make all parties in the communication unhappy.

3.Abandon your self-esteem when communicating.

Unnecessary self-esteem and pride can only become a stumbling block to communication, so at the very least, you should abandon your so-called self-esteem when communicating. Don't say "My self-esteem won't allow me to ......In that case, it will only make communication impossible.

4.Be open and honest in your communication.

It is very important to be honest with each other in the process of communication, and there is no concealment, honesty is an important step for you to deepen your cooperative relationship through communication. First of all, you can make the other party believe in yourself through your own honesty, and then drive the other party to be honest with you, and then promote the smooth and happy communication.

Legal Analysis: Advocate for a couple to have two children; Those who meet the legally-prescribed requirements may request that arrangements be made for the birth of another child, and the specific measures are to be provided for by the provinces, autonomous regions, and municipalities directly under the Central Government. At the same time, it is clarified that if there are inconsistencies in the provisions on the reproduction of children between the provinces, autonomous regions, and municipalities directly under the Central Government where the husband and wife are registered, they shall be applied in accordance with the principle of benefiting the parties involved in the lawsuit.

Zaoqing. Legal basis: "Population and Family Planning Law of the People's Republic of China" Article 18 The State advocates marriage and childbearing at appropriate age and eugenics. A couple can have three children.

Where the requirements provided by laws and regulations are met, arrangements may be made to arrange for the birth of another child. The specific measures shall be formulated by the people's congresses of provinces, autonomous regions, and municipalities directly under the Central Government or their standing committees.

Ethnic minorities should also practice family planning, and the specific measures shall be formulated by the people's congresses of provinces, autonomous regions, and municipalities directly under the Central Government or their standing committees.

Where there are inconsistencies between the provisions on the reproduction of children between the provinces, autonomous regions, or municipalities directly under the Central Government where the husband and wife are registered, they are to be applied in accordance with the principle of benefiting the parties.

Both parties are only children can have a second child, and a family that has received a one-child certificate can also have a second child, and couples who have a second child can go to the place where one party's household registration or current place of residence is registered and if they meet the prescribed conditions and requirements to have another child, they still need to go through the formalities in accordance with the relevant regulations. According to the personnel of the National Health and Family Planning Commission

1. After the implementation of the comprehensive two-child policy, couples who voluntarily give birth to one child will no longer be issued the "Honor Certificate for Parents of One Child", and will no longer enjoy the relevant incentives and preferential policies such as the incentive fee for parents of one child.

2. Those who have previously received the "Honor Certificate for Parents of One Child" shall continue to enjoy various family planning incentives and preferential policies in accordance with the prescribed conditions, standards and years.

3. Those who have already received the "Honor Certificate for Parents of One Child" and request to have another child will no longer enjoy the preferential treatment of parents of one child, and those previously enjoyed will not be refunded.

1. What are the conditions for having a second child?

The scope and object of the implementation of the two-child policy are couples with only children among the urban and rural residents in all districts and counties (autonomous counties) of the city. To apply the two-child policy, the following three conditions must be met at the same time: one of the husband and wife is an only child, both husband and wife have only one child, and one or both of the husband and wife are registered in the city.

2. How to apply for a reproduction service certificate.

1. Couples who meet the two-child policy must apply for a reproduction service certificate according to the regulations before giving birth to a second child.

2. Couples who apply for reproduction shall submit a written application, including the basic information of the applicant and the reasons for the application. The application for rebirth shall be reviewed and signed by the husband and wife's work unit, villagers' committee, or residents' committee.

3. If it is handled by the man, it shall be reviewed and stamped with the official seal by the woman's village residents' committee (or unit), township people** or sub-district office. When applying for reproduction, the original and photocopies of the ID card, household registration certificate, marriage registration certificate, proof of marriage and childbirth of one of the parents of the only child and evidence that the parents have only one child in their lifetime, and two recent 1-inch bareheaded photos of the woman.

4. After submitting the application, the township people's ** or sub-district office will review and approve it according to the procedure, and finally the district and county family planning administrative departments will examine and approve it. From the submission of the application to the approval, it generally does not take more than 30 days.