I found out that my boyfriend was a bit of a habitual lying

Actually, I think it's really nothing to lie innoccupied, man, and if he takes everything seriously, I'm sure you'll be more miserable.

And I think your man is very kind, and he will make something up to give somebody a step, don't you think he's kind, just think he's hypocritical, or just lie?

Actually, it's not a problem, but if you think it's a problem, you're going to be the way you are, and it's painful.

If you think there is nothing wrong with this habit, he is just for the good of everyone, a habit of protecting himself since childhood, you don't have to get along with yourself, and you can't get along with your husband, I advise you to take it as an advantage.

This person's problem is really good, and it should be treated. It is advisable to consult a professional psychologist.

I've only read a few words, and I think you guys should divide it, and he doesn't care about you at all.

It shows that you care about him very much, and you can't leave him for a while. The more you are like this, the more insecure, sensitive, and less confident you become. It will cause a lot of unnecessary conflicts between the two of you.

You have to be open-minded, and even if you are in a good relationship, give each other a space. I think you'll be very happy that way.

Being in love is not the whole of life.

Men just like to lie, you like to lie

This kind of person who lies at every turn is one of the people I can't stand the most......It's very difficult for him to change, so the landlord should do it himself.

Maybe he needs a little more independent space.

In fact, many men will tell a little lie, some women are particularly concerned about it is difficult to last long, love has to be tolerated, white and true lies are essential in life, too serious will lose true love.

Why are men afraid of women being angry, in fact, women must have been angry or often cautious, lovers always test each other's bottom line in love.

For example, a boy and his ex are separated, but sometimes the ex has something to do and hits him **, in fact, the two of them are very innocent, at this time, I am afraid that without delaying getting along with his girlfriend, most men will not tell his girlfriend that his ex hit him **, what is the matter, etc. Because there is no need to say, some things may become darker the more you describe them. As for girlfriends, sometimes they know that they pretend not to see it, and turn a blind eye.

Lying is not the root of the problem, it may be rooted in family interactions, lying as a way to survive for self-preservation or conflict avoidance, or do you feel that if you reveal your true thoughts, you are in danger of losing the relationship? It all has to be combined with your personal upbringing and your inner experience of being an object about yourself and internalizing it in others to understand what your habit of lying means to you.

1. You don't have to believe his words. For lovers, don't always believe each other's words easily, the so-called hurtful heart can not have, the heart of defense is indispensable, even if two people love each other, but they should also be cautious judgment, calm analysis, not too careless and deceived.

2. It is not necessary to debunk it on the spot. If your boyfriend tells you a lie when he is with you, we don't necessarily have to point it out at the time, but the advantage of this is that we can continue to test the other person, and if the other party thinks you are easy to deceive, it will be even worse.

3. Save face for the other party. There is also a situation that the other party may lie to us on a special occasion, at this time, we should save face for the other party at that time, let him say whatever he wants, accept it first, and then reason with him afterwards, face-to-face conflict is likely to lead to a breakup.

1, because of the essence of his play.

Because your boyfriend sometimes can't talk about you, can't find a reason to quarrel, and doesn't want to lose face, he habitually uses lies to cover up his own losses. In fact, he knew in his heart that he was at a loss, but he was just trying to save face, so he would die and find a ridiculous reason. You can actually see it at a glance.

Just see through it, don't say it, in order to live well. My boyfriend uses lies to cover up his shortcomings, and he hopes that you can pass by and not dwell on it. Men are very lazy people, and if he thinks that he can't communicate with you, he will want to lie.

A man's theatrical nature will drive him to lie.

2. Because lies are useful to women.

Men's lies are for deception, for concealment, but men's lies are still very useful for women. Sometimes the truth hurts more than a lie. So in order to protect a woman's self-esteem, men choose white lies.

If he lies to you, it means that he is coaxing you, hoping that you will not be angry and that you will be happy. In his heart, he felt that a lie was better than an explanation. Telling a little lie once in a while is also interesting.

The explanation may fall into an endless loop, so that neither of you can get out, so he simply tells a lie, and everyone is satisfied. They know in their hearts what they are doing, just to please their beloved.

3. Because of the fear of losing you.

Sometimes men lie from the bottom of their hearts. They did something that would you off and knew there would be serious consequences. So I deliberately concealed it, because I was afraid that you would be angry, or even afraid that you would break up, so I chose to lie.

If a very serious thing really happens between couples, and if telling the truth can easily lead to a breakup, then the boyfriend needs to lie to hide it. The reason why a man does not tell you the truth as a lie is that on the one hand, he does not have the ability to bear the consequences, and on the other hand, he is afraid of losing you.

Because your boyfriend is insecure about you.

We are taught from a young age that it is not right. In fact, all over the world, "honesty" is widely regarded as an essential quality for a good person. On the flip side, humans emphasize the importance of not lying because everyone inevitably lies.

Whoever claims to never lie is the biggest lie in itself.

Therefore, judging a person's quality is not whether he lies or not, but how he lies and what kind of lie he tells. Going back to childhood, "lying" is a sign of growth, a product of intellectual development. That is, smart people lie.

Then as IQ increases, there is a group of people who will have a higher and higher quality of lying, and they know that some lies that can be easily debunked cannot be told.

There are some things that are easier to solve by telling the truth than by lying. They are a class of intelligent people with increasing IQ and EQ. But there is another group of people who, as they get older, do not improve much in the quality of their lies, but in that the amount of lies increases dramatically.

Obviously, their IQ and EQ are not as high as they appear.

In fact, a person does not lie for the purpose of earning profits, we should look more from psychology and growth to find the roots. They lie not necessarily to defraud some kind of profit, but rather to be insecure in psychological self-defense. So, if you love him so much, try to talk to him about the past, about childhood.

You have to convince him that some things are told the truth, the world will not disappear, and the universe will not **. It doesn't matter if you play mahjong or not, the important thing is that I will love you if you play. It doesn't matter if you lie or not, the important thing is that you admit that you lied, and I still love you the same.

That's what the so-called "love changes a person" probably means. It takes a little time, a little patience. When he feels secure enough about you, he will slowly get used to being honest with you and not lying.

This is normal and a sign that your boyfriend loves you. Studies have shown that on average, 10% of interactions between partners contain an element of cheating.

Some of these lies are carefully planned, and some of them may just be blurted out without even the liar himself being aware of it. As many as 92% of people admit that they have lied to their partner, but you can think about how difficult it is to not lie to each other about everything in life.

Part of the reason why the rate of lying is so high is that we in relationships can be deceived and concealed in a variety of ways.

For example, when you first start a relationship with someone, many people will exaggerate their strengths and hide their weaknesses by lying, such as misrepresenting their height.

Boys with 168 will be counted as 170, and boys who say that they happen to be 175 are likely not to reach 175, and every time they see the other party blushing and arguing that their net height is definitely 175, they will also feel that it is quite cute to tell this kind of little lie.

And when the relationship is more mature and stable, we often lie to our partner, for example, when the other party asks about our ex, we will emphasize against our will that the ex is really ugly, and it is not as good as you at all!

Lies are very common at every stage of intimacy. But the good thing is that not all lies are heartbreaking, and at some point, they can actually help our feelings.

In ordinary interpersonal interactions, only about a quarter of the lies are made to avoid telling the truth to hurt the feelings or interests of others.

This means that most lies are done for oneself, such as to avoid embarrassment, guilt, inconvenience, seeking approval or material gain.

The first step to see if a man who always loves to lie loves you is to see what he always lies. The lies of a man who loves you are always used to avoid possible disputes between you and this man, such as if you want to buy a dress, ask him if he looks good, and answer that he looks good even if he is not good-looking. Such lies are also done so as not to cause disputes.

A man who doesn't love you at all, he lies to you often in daily life, and he has agreed to go out at that time early in the morning, but this man said that he was going to work overtime, so he couldn't go out together, and the next day he saw them going out together in his friend's circle of friends. A man who lies like this just doesn't love you.

2. Lying about who you go to meet.

A man who loves you will not lie about meeting someone, even if he is going to meet a female colleague or a female friend, in order to avoid your misunderstanding, he will never lie to you that he is meeting a male friend.

And a man who doesn't love you at all, his lies will be used to meet anyone. It's obviously going to meet a female colleague or a female friend, but it's going to be distorted to go out with a male friend, or even with a group of people. When a man lies about such a thing, most of them are out of the bottom of his heart.

A man who behaves like this lies to you because he doesn't love you.

3. What is the motive for lying.

The most important of the whole three points is often the last point. What is this man's motive for lying, is it out of kindness or you can't find an excuse for him? Yes, lies are not necessarily malicious, but a man who loves you, his motive for lying is often to avoid arguments between you and him, to maintain your and his self-esteem, and to live a stable life for you and him.

A man who doesn't love you lies, often just for himself, for his own convenience, for himself not to be annoyed by you. A man who doesn't love you will often lie to you for such motives.