When the year is approaching, how do the older leftover women face the urging of their families?

It's normal, just like my parents, when I was about 18 years old, my parents watched me very closely. I often check whether there are any notes in my books, ask my classmates if they have gone out with boys to learn, and sometimes secretly look at my diary, for fear that the cabbage I have raised for many years will be arched by some reckless pig. When I met my parents again, they were both women in their 30s.

My parents looked at me in the weight of the years, and I looked at my parents who had gray hair on their temples, and I realized that my parents should be the people who care about me and love me the most in the world. So, I packed up my mood and got a good job that was stable. Looking for the marriage of the rest of his life.

But when I waited for marriage again and looked for love, I found that there were so many single men and women in their 30s who did not get married. So, I adjust myself as I work. Live the best state that you haven't had for many years, go with the flow, and just let go a little more.

It can be said that there is already one, but I just want to surprise you, and I will take him home to show you next year.

It can also be said that I want to wait, adjust myself, I haven't thought about it yet, I hope you understand, I don't want to get married in a daze, after all, I already have someone I like.

Do you remember when I was not married, every year when I went back, my parents caught me and asked me if you have a boyfriend? Why did you come back alone? Next time I don't get a boyfriend and bring it back, I don't want to go back, I don't feel like I'm big, I'm only 27, why did I become an older leftover girl?

Sometimes I'm speechless, but I'm thick-skinned, and I forgot after my mom finished speaking, and I didn't find a boyfriend for a year and still ran home, my parents just said, alas, everyone is like this, can't find a boyfriend, worry about not being able to get married, find a boyfriend, and worry that the boyfriend is not good enough for themselves, I think every parent is like this!

Now with the development of the economy, the number of older leftover men and women is gradually increasing, and it is natural for late marriage and late childbearing. There are a lot of such friends around me, and they usually use common use to face this kind of problem, such as what they don't like; There is no such idea yet; I want to postpone it for another two years; None of the objects were available; There is also the fact that you don't hear it, stay away from your family's sight, etc., but these are not good ways to solve the problem, the main thing is to find a partner quickly, if you don't want to face the family's urging.

In fact, it's not just older young women who are being asked, but older young men are also being asked! My younger brother is now, he is 30 and 4, and every time he is at home during the holidays, my dad will be urged to get married! But really, as long as you sit down and communicate with your parents, for example, it is not yet time to start a family, men first start a business, and then start a family, the current social development progress is very fast, and a little carelessness will be banned!

So it's better to communicate with your parents!

Especially after being over 25 years old, entering the stage of older leftover women, and returning home during the Chinese New Year, many people will ask about their marriage. If someone asks, they will tell them that someone else is introducing them, and it will be settled immediately. If you don't say that, there will be more people urging.

It's just a little awkward.

With the continuous development of society, people's psychology is also constantly changing. There are many older leftover women, who have their own ability to work and survive. Feel empowered to live.

So the marriage was delayed, but the family would urge. Some of their family members will divert the topic and avoid it when they bring it up, and slip away. The family did not have the opportunity and time to press him in.

At that time, I will use some of my professional knowledge to communicate with them, for example, I can ask them how they have been doing recently, what difficulties they have recently with the Internet, so that I can communicate with them in very professional terms, and they will not ask me again if they don't understand.

I know an older sister who is not married yet! When the Chinese New Year was approaching, I was scared and didn't dare to go home. I asked her why she didn't go back, after a year of hard work outside, didn't she come home to see the old people at home?

She said, it's not that I don't want to go back, but I don't dare to go back, and the seven aunts and eight aunts in the family heard that they are all waiting at home to introduce the object to themselves!

In today's society, there are older leftover men and women every year, and these leftover women are very depressed when they go home for the New Year, and they are psychologically under pressure and have to bear the urging of neighbors and parents, and they are really irritable, but there is no good way, so they can only stay at home for a few days and then go back to work.

It's just that I feel that this matter should be done as soon as possible.,After all, girls may be busy when they're old.。 Moreover, in fact, men and women are almost the same, because if you scratch more, maybe your concept of being urged to marry will become more transgressive, especially if you love someone, it is still quite stressful.

From my personal point of view, older leftover women themselves belong to the stereotype of some people in this society, and at the same time belong to a prejudice. I think everyone just needs to live their own life for a few days, and there is no need to point fingers at other people's people. Regardless of whether a person has good intentions or not, when a person calls others an older leftover woman, the behavior itself is very unqualified, and can even be described as a lack of education.

Why bother to entrust Xiangchen to succumb to Brother Bird's own fight.

In rural areas, there are many people who get married at the age of 20, and there are even people who have been together since graduating from junior high school. When all of our peers get married, we will become "leftover girls", and our parents will think that we can't get married. Parents force themselves to find a boyfriend every day, hoping that they can start a family.

It is very difficult to communicate with them at this time. We need to be clear about our own thoughts, learn to understand our parents, and communicate calmly.

1. Figure out what you think

Marriage is the most important thing in life, and you can't be sloppy when choosing a partner. We need to think clearly about our own needs, understand what we want, and what kind of talent is suitable for us. Instead of facing the urging of his parents, he hurriedly found a boyfriend, and then married each other inexplicably.

This is an irresponsible approach to yourself, and you may regret it one day. When we understand our needs, we can find someone who suits us and loves us according to our life situation. If you can't find it, you can also perfunctory your parents and ask them to be patient.

2. Learn to understand your parents

Nowadays, many young people will be urged by their parents, and at this time, with the troubles of their own work, there will be a sense of exhaustion. Under this exhaustion, we may become emotionally irritable and make a fuss in front of our parents. We have to understand that our parents are urging us to get married, which is a kind of love for us.

They can't accompany us until we are old, they can't take care of us for the rest of our lives, and they hope that we can have a good home. It's just that this expression of the idea produces mistakes. We don't have to contradict our parents, we have to learn to understand their thoughts.

3. Communicate effectively

When we communicate with our parents, we need to tell them all about our thoughts and situations. Our living environment and pressures may not be suitable for us to be in a relationship at all. And the city we live in is also an existence that they don't understand.

Try to communicate with your parents so that they understand that it is not that they do not want to be in love, but that they have not met the right person yet.

Since you have reached a certain age, I think you should find someone to accompany you through this life, since they are already married, then you should understand that they are also for your good, I hope you can know how to find a suitable partner for yourself in gratitude.

Now the dead pig is not afraid of boiling water, an indifferent heart is too carried to the end, after going home, arrange a blind date, there is a look, even if you don't see it, you still have to continue to work after the New Year, exams. Why do you want to do so much, the soldiers will block the water and cover the earth.

No matter how much others urge marriage? We have always adhered to one thing, that is, we want to marry love, not to get married when we should get married, only by marrying love, we will be happy, will make our future life very happy, so we still have to stick to our own philosophy, this is the right choice.

During this period, I will be a little anxious in my heart, and the opinions of friends and family will make me even more uneasy. In fact, you don't have to worry, it's better to live the life in front of you, live how you want to live, live in the world, be happy, and don't make yourself unhappy because of some things in front of you. What they say is their business, you just laugh it off, when love comes, it can't be stopped, maybe soon your other half will appear.

Why don't you introduce me to a suitable one?

One sentence faces everyone, and one sentence that is inappropriate can also dispel everyone's thoughts.

There is no way to figure out love, and when you meet the right person, you will naturally choose to get married.

Life still has to go on, how to live it, anyway, I don't usually go home much, and I can't eat you in **.

When a woman can't get married at a certain age, she is very anxious, and at this time, coupled with the urging of relatives and friends, it is easy to mess up.

Therefore, the girls must keep a clear mind, know clearly in their hearts what kind of future they want, and can't choose any one in order to get married.

At the end of the day, getting married is your own business, don't let others dictate your life.

I think that the family's urging to marry should be taken seriously and explained well! After all, they are genuinely anxious about your business! However, because they are in a hurry, they can't force themselves to find someone to marry casually!

Lifetime events must be taken seriously and prudently! Your own life, live for yourself! As for my friend's urging to marry, I think it's completely negligible!

Don't worry about them, just do your own thing!

Hey, can't you marry abroad?