What do pessimists think when faced with a difficult situation?

Life is already so difficult, and it may be even more difficult in the future, and I don't know when it will be the end.

Everyone's attitude towards life is different, some people can always face the world with a smile, and some people are always shrouded in pessimism in their hearts. For pessimists, the predicament is like a wall on the road of life, unable to climb over it, without the courage to bypass it, they can only look at this wall in a daze, waiting for the wall to fall down by itself.

Spit on luck and complain, this is the norm for pessimists when faced with a difficult situation. I used to be an optimist, but after a year of unemployment, I think I've finally become a pessimist. During that time, life was chaotic, everything seemed hopeless, and I felt like I wanted to back down when I encountered any problems.

I'm most afraid of my mom calling me to ask me how I'm doing, because I don't want to lie, but I can't tell the truth. This made me very entangled in my heart, and I often complained that God didn't give me food, and I often complained about my former boss, and I also complained about the interviewer during the interview.

In life, there seems to be nothing left except complaining, nothing is very pleasing to the eye, there is no interest in doing anything, and the whole person seems to have no energy.

When will the hardships of life end, this is a question that I have always considered. During that time, every time I failed the interview, I would feel very depressed, and even I was reluctant to go to the interview later, always afraid that I would be rejected again. There was an idea in my mind that as long as I didn't go to the interview, it was that I didn't want to look for a job, not that I couldn't find a job.

Every time I get a ** from my parents, I tell them that everything is fine, but I have been busy lately and have no time to go back, and then hang up in a hurry. It's just that occasionally when I can't eat, I feel a little uncomfortable in my heart, and I always want to cry, but I feel embarrassed.

I'm always wondering when it's going to end, and I'm really fed up. Perhaps for pessimists, everything around them is problematic except for themselves.

In fact, in real life, there is not much difference between pessimism and optimism. Because whether you are pessimistic or optimistic, there will always be many difficulties waiting for you in life, and you must face them and find ways to solve them.

Be an optimist, at least when you're crushed by life, and the tears in the corners of your eyes don't affect the smile in the corners of your mouth.

In the face of the trough of life, some people compromise with reality and give up their ideals and pursuits; Some people do not bow their heads and admit defeat, they constantly examine their lives, analyze their mistakes, and have the courage to face them, so as to get out of the predicament and chase their dreams.

They will feel that they are finished, that they can only give in to their fate, and that they will always be in trouble.

He will feel that the people around him and even the whole world are against him, feel that he is unlucky, and will always complain, but will not take positive measures to solve it.

The third way of thinking in the defensive mindset is absolutist thinking.

An American psychologist once did an experiment with clicking dogs. Later, the results of experiments led to the psychological concept of learned helplessness. In fact, not only dogs, but also people can have such a psychological phenomenon.

Learned helplessness is an abstraction of harm. This kind of abstract thinking ability is good at summarizing laws and improving survival rates, but it is also easy to abstract the damage suffered and expand the scope of defense. Absolutist thinking is the abstraction of harm.

Every injury is like marking a landmine in your mind, and every time you touch it, it triggers an emergency response. To avoid revisiting the hurt, we put signs in our hearts.

The more severe the injury, the more the scope of the damage will be magnified by abstract thinking. When this defensive thinking is severe, it will fill the mind with marks and make it impossible for you to go.

Pessimistic thinking manifests itself in three aspects: permanence, universalization, and personification.

Permanence is temporal, which means that it will happen all the time. It is also reflected in the perception of others, believing that others will never change.

Universalization is as black as a crow in the world, magnifying one thing to other dimensions.

Personification is the development of things that is directed to oneself. It's all my fault, it's because of me that it happened.

The biggest problem with absolutist thinking is that in order to defend against possible dangers, it closes life in a vacuum, so that we dare not touch reality, and thus lose the opportunity to heal from reality and life.

I've never done a serious internship to think about my own thinking before. I feel lost and depressed from time to time. The mood is not very high, and I can feel that there is something wrong with my thinking.

But there was no suitable way out. Through today's study, there is an extra mirror in my mind. I can feel that I have a defensive mindset.

Seeing that the problem is the beginning of solving the problem. Pessimism itself is a normal psychological phenomenon of human beings. The frequency can be reduced by effective regulation.

1. Recognize the law of conservation of troubles and open up a positive and pessimistic mental model.

Wilde's paradox: it is misfortune not to get it, and it is a disaster to get it. Qian Zhongshu:

The fairy tale ends with "From then on, the prince and princess lived happily ever after"; And the true story is that "the prince and princess lived happily ever after, and ...... from then on."Peter's Principle: If a company motivates the selection of talents, "you will be promoted if you do a good job", the end result is that the person will be promoted to a position for which he is not qualified.

The troubles of this world obey the "law of conservation of troubles", and they unconsciously create problems while constantly eliminating them. Work and life are like a game of demining, you have solved this level, and the next thing waiting for you is more and more hidden mines. Recognize the situation and be an active pessimist.

2. Stay away from appeasement harmony (bribery harmony).

Common sense and instinct are often extensions of the same dimension, and solutions to new scenarios should be effective solutions in new dimensions and new situations. Each of us is like a terminal under a specific scene of WiFi.

Changing the mindset in specific scenarios such as managing employees and educating children is to make them feel like you're asking for something for you to making them feel like they're doing things for you. Make them soberly aware that they can do without him, and even more.

Effective management methods are often roundabout, make things or make things happen, create situations, scenes, learn to create an enemy outside the city-state, and make him switch his behavior in the scene.

3. The power of the powerless to prevent cognitive degradation.

Be vigilant against the phenomenon of "petite children are not filial", and reasonably set the boundaries of power. Restricting and depriving children of their infinitely expanding power is moral education on the one hand, and intellectual education on the other hand, so as to achieve the state of "holding the left contract and not being responsible for others".

The Atlantic: When a person is in a high position, his perception and judgment ability will gradually decline. When a person has a high level of power, his path and way of solving problems will become more and more single, and many of his abilities will be "endogenously inhibited".

The power paradox: once we gain power, we lose the abilities we need to have in the first place to gain power.

It will not be possible to look at things around you objectively and correctly.

It's easy to do that when you're frustrated.

There are many reasons why people fall into pessimism, and the family environment in which she lives, the people in contact, and their own emotions and other many influences, when the mentality is not adjusted well, pessimists will appear, and everything is not good, especially when the environment they are in, when they are not as good as others, or when they want to get something, but they do not get the fluctuations in their hearts, they will impact his already unhealthy mind wave after wave, and over time, after not getting liberation, The mindset becomes distorted.

Because everything is impermanent, only the mind is true. Wealth and glory cannot last long. When you leave, there is only pain, and there is nothing to be called happy. Therefore, one should practice diligently, accumulate merits, and make a wish to be reborn in the Elysian World.

There are many pessimistic factors, such as family changes, unsatisfactory work, unsatisfactory life, physical reasons, etc., which are easy to fall into pessimism.

People fall into a pessimistic view. Most of them are because they are sadder in their hearts. Pessimism and sadness lead to their inability to be lively and confident.

When you are most frustrated, it is easy to fall into pessimistic thinking, which lies in adjusting your mentality and being positive and optimistic, so you will not have this kind of feeling.

I guess so.

I think the reason why people fall into the mentality of pessimism is because we have some difficulties or some unexpected things in life, and we think that they are imperfect, or we do not face this kind of pressure correctly.

Do we hear this phrase often: Think about your own happiness. We often think that all our interests and possessions are "deserved".

If we calculate our own happiness, enjoying happiness will help us overcome our worries. Although thorns are everywhere, but each of us will have a long way to go, you have to choose to face him bravely, go on hard, and examine them. "Strengthen the advantages and eliminate the shortcomings.

What a good sentence. The difficulties are not as terrible as they seem. The scary thing is that you curl up because of the difficulty.

Excessive worry can lead to greater difficulties, which will never solve the problem. You should face the difficulties bravely, face them positively and optimistically with your strong heart, and eliminate them!

There is often the idea of overcoming difficulties. And they are more confident in themselves, and they will also take practical actions to overcome difficulties.

These people may often see the positive side when faced with difficulties and will think that these difficulties will only make them stronger.

When an optimist is faced with a difficulty, he often thinks that this difficulty will not defeat me, this is nothing, and I will definitely get through it.

In the face of difficulties, they will be stronger, force themselves to work hard, not afraid of challenges, and bravely realize their dreams.