How to get through the newlywed run in period? How many years of marriage is the run in period?

The newlywed Yan'er is undoubtedly happy. However, from the previous "can't ask for it" and "tossing and turning" to the current "ear and sideburns grinding" and "staying together", from the previous "flowers before the moon" to the current "firewood, rice, oil and salt", there will always be a process of adaptation.

So, how can newlyweds get through the run-in period as soon as possible?

1. The joy of the bed is modest. Everyone understands this. The basic principle is that both parties have a pleasant experience that is in line with their wishes, without affecting their health or their normal work.

2. The work and rest rules should be synchronized. Unless there are work reasons, the work and rest arrangements of the husband and wife should be kept regular and synchronized as much as possible, so that it is easier to run the "mom-and-pop shop" of "family" well. For example, in the morning, the two of them go to work together.

In the evening, the two met to go home from work. Cleaning together as a family on weekends and traveling together on holidays. What a warm and harmonious picture.

3. The division of housework is complementary. There is no need to pay attention to the old-fashioned rules of the male protagonist and the female protagonist, and the husband and wife can divide the family affairs reasonably and reasonably on the basis of consultation. Strength work, of course, belongs to men.

Meticulous work, of course, belongs to women. Men do the outfield work, the inward directors do it, and the women do it. The basic principle is to show off each other's strengths, do their best, divide labor and cooperate, and cooperate internally and externally.

4. Financial management. The income and expenses of the family are an account that can never be calculated. It can be managed by one party.

Major expenses are decided by both parties. Overall control of daily expenses. You don't have to calculate too carefully, otherwise you will be too tired, and it is easy to misunderstand and contradict.

But it's a good idea to schedule a checkout once a month.

5. Take care of the mother-in-law's family. This is a sensitive aspect. Many conflicts and disputes between husband and wife are caused by this.

Therefore, whether it is a daily visit or a New Year's gift, both husband and wife should put their mentality right, take care of each other's families, and achieve a basic balance to avoid unnecessary trouble.

6. Selfishness and selfishness must be stopped. Unlike single dogs, couples live together, and all aspects of hobbies are no longer "personal behaviors", but can affect each other at any time. For example, men drink late into the night, which is "free" before marriage.

However, if it is still the case after marriage, it will definitely cause dissatisfaction among women. And a woman's clothes come to stretch out her hands and her mouth to eat, which is okay in her mother's family, but it is not suitable to marry into her mother-in-law's family. Therefore, in the run-in stage of husband and wife, we can no longer selfishly think about "what should I do", but should think more about "what should I do".

It has been said that marriage is the grave of love. However, I said that as long as the husband and wife successfully pass the run-in period, properly handle all aspects of the family's affairs, and share the responsibilities of the family, then, in the school of marriage, love will be more rational, more mature, and sweeter.

<>Although I haven't been married yet, hehe, because I'm still very young But I think that many people are prone to conflict when they first get married because they don't understand anything, which affects the sweetness of the couple and the joy of the newlywed, I think, this is also what everyone doesn't want to see, so my mother told me how she and her father went from being embarrassed to opening up and running into each other

My mother was on a blind date at that time, and she married my dad because of the words of the matchmaker, and she was also set by her parents, so she married my dad with a worried heart It's no wonder, at that time, my mom imagined that I was so small, only a little bit old, only 20 years old, and too young, my grandma married her so ruthlessly Then the run-in process was a little long She didn't sleep with my dad normally on the night she got married, but slept with my grandma, just because she wasn't used to it, and it was weird to sleep with someone she didn't know very well. Then my dad can be said to be more emotionally intelligent, so he took her to the temple fair, although he didn't have money, he borrowed money to take her to buy bags and clothes, and watch the lively temple fair, so that they at least became harmonious, and then my mother accepted him in her heart and moved back to the new house. Later, they did housework together, and my father helped to do it together, and then treated my mother politely and took her to the hospital to see a doctor

So, now that you are young, you know enough before marriage and even lived together, at least it will not be more embarrassing than my mother and father, help each other, be careful and considerate, accommodate each other, I believe that you will be able to pass the run-in period smoothly soon<>

How can newlyweds safely get through the "run-in period"? Someone will teach you a few tricks, and old couples can also learn it.

I think that in about three or four years, especially after having children, everyone will quickly get tired of married life and tired of each other.

Not long after we got married, I conceived a baby, due to malnutrition, and because I didn't know how to cook, my husband didn't have time to take care of me, so I could only go to my mother-in-law's house for a while, and then I felt that my husband and my husband slowly began to be estranged, I told him many times, his mother is not my mother, it is impossible to treat me like my mother, but he doesn't listen, he always says that his parents are very good, how is it, but I went to my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law plays mahjong every day, The cooking is not on time, and my father-in-law smokes at home every day, and it is useless to say it, and at this time he always says that I am not sensible, etc., and slowly finds that he is unwilling to call him to say these things.

Later, I went back to my parents' house, and my mother took care of me, she had a lot of things to do, but she was also taking care of me wholeheartedly, because I was pregnant and vomited too much, my appetite was really not good, and I was very picky, so I could feel the distress of my parents, and then after giving birth, my in-laws did not say to help take care of the confinement, nor did they say to help take care of the child, in short, my confinement was taken care of by my mother, and he felt that his mother's waist was not good, and I had to understand.

Then we couldn't take the baby alone, and it was true that a person would not take care of it, so I took the baby back to my parents' house, and his parents didn't hit one, at first I and he would be a day **, and then slowly I didn't want to pick him up**, and I didn't want to talk to him too much, we were separated for about ten months After I went back, I felt that the two of them could not feel like when they were in love.

From falling in love to becoming husband and wife, men and women have gone through the process of mutual understanding and mutual recognition before marriage, and they have happily entered the wedding hall in a state of mind that is inseparable from each other. However, most of the time before marriage is in the romantic time before the flower. After marriage, it is an ideal life based on firewood, rice, oil and salt, and at the same time, most families are followed by the birth of children, so the romantic time before marriage should be put into the growth and education of children.

In addition, in a family life, the husband and wife must be blended in all aspects of friendship and affection, and at the same time, there is a ...... of emotional freshness between the husband and wifeand so on.

Therefore, to sum up, if husband and wife want to have a happy family, they should communicate with each other frequently, understand each other, and have a sense of obligation to run a happy family. At the same time, the sex life between husband and wife is also a preservative to maintain family happiness, so husband and wife should have more concern for each other and less blame; More caring, less indifferent.

I believe that after mutual affirmation between husband and wife, from time to time to stop the seasoning of feelings, they will definitely run in harmony and inseparable, and the sweetness of life will be sweet! Before marriage, both of them will intentionally or unintentionally cover up their own defects, both sides look at it from a distance, what they see is each other's advantages, living together after marriage, many defects will be exposed, will not be accustomed to each other, that perfect She also has so many shortcomings, so she is a little anxious, so what to do?

First of all, the role has changed, and you have to learn to adjust. It used to be a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, but now it is a husband and wife, and it is necessary to adapt to this role change, no longer blindly enjoy the accommodation of the other party, and to assume the obligations of marriage and reasonably share the housework.

Second, learn to accommodate. After getting married, you will find that the other party may have some flaws that you can't bear, you have to learn to accommodate the other party, instead of blindly blaming, or forcing the other party to change to conform to you, about some small shortcomings, you must learn to turn a blind eye.

Third, more encouragement and praise. Negotiate more when the other party encounters difficulties, you should encourage the other party more, and don't blindly complain. The other party's small achievements should be praised more, which will make him more confident and motivated.

In ordinary life, you can bring each other to travel, you can also bring each other to shop, you can also bring each other to eat, you can also prepare some surprises for each other, and you can also prepare some delicious meals for each other.

There must be a clear division of labor, a good plan at the beginning, and let the other party also do housework together, so that it is more reasonable.

We must strengthen communication, and we must also strengthen exchanges. Don't be impulsive when you encounter problems, learn to be patient, and don't always quarrel.