What is it like to have a friend with a knife mouth and tofu heart ?

When I saw this topic, a figure immediately flashed in my mind, yes, it was my good friend and bad friend, how good are the two of us? When I was in high school, because she was more beautiful, there were a lot of people she pursued, and I was her friend, under a lot of pressure, but I got a lot of small bargains, and what I most often did was to take out the love letters written to her by those boys, comment on the level of this person's composition, and help him correct typos when he couldn't see it. No matter what I do, she will not be angry, and she also agreed with me that she will never be the same person I like in this life, and if I do, it is her boyfriend, as long as I open my mouth, she can also give it to me.

I despise her, who looks up to your boyfriend? But in my heart, I vowed never to like the same boy as her, and later found out that we were too worried, and our aesthetics were too different.

is such a person, but he is a poisonous tongue. When I was in high school, I liked to wear black, and she said to me, "You wear your hair down and go out at night, and you have black clothes and black hair and white face, like a ghost, and you can scare people to death!" "Your brain is like a pig's brain, don't you open your mind?

Are you still a woman, it's just a man's wife" such an example, a sentence came out, and I didn't know how to reply for a long time.

After graduation, for a period of time, I was poor, but I refused to complain to my family, she knew and asked me for a card number, to give me money, I said that my card was lost, she scolded me, "Why don't you lose your own people, but, you pig brain, lost it is estimated that no one will pick it up" and then directly sent her card to me, and sent me the password. Later, when my financial situation improved, I wanted to return it to her, but she resolutely refused to ask for it, so that she didn't even want the card back.

When you are in danger, you know who your real friend is, although she can't say a good word in her mouth all day long, but I know that she has a good heart and is really good to me, so every time she scolds me, I laugh and get used to it!

I believe that everyone will encounter such a situation in life, for example, some people after saying some hurtful words to us, often hurriedly explain: I'm sorry, I'm a more direct person, sometimes my mouth is unforgiving, but I really have no malice, while explaining, don't let us mind his behavior, in fact, in our life and work, everyone is collectively called such people "knife mouth tofu heart", but such people sometimes speak really mean, Perfect doesn't have the so-called tofu heart, can a knife-mouthed person really have a tofu heart?

I'm serious about the fact that it may not be the case, the knife mouth people may not have a tofu heart, these because they will say that people like them have a tofu heart, those because they have not touched their personal interests, but if they touch the interests in the eyes of the other party, there is no so-called tofu heart at all, in addition to the reality of the current society and the complexity of the human heart, so we can't simply think that the knife mouth people are very kind and simple in their hearts.

We can boldly imagine that the kind of person who can bring you verbal harm at any time, when your mouth or the other party's mouth is used as rice, in fact, it is often to achieve a certain effect, or to say that it is just for some kind of plan of your own, because the heart is already like a knife, you will express your true thoughts and wishes, but even so, you should also exercise self-restraint in words, don't always look for people's scars to expose people's paragraphs, if it is such a knife mouth person, can he still say that he has a tofu heart.

According to the psychological point of view, if he has a tofu heart, then he will definitely be very cautious in his words, but will not easily say something that hurts others, people with a tofu heart are often more kind in his heart, simple and willing to think about others, so naturally such a person will not have a knife mouth.

You should have heard the phrase "knife mouth, tofu heart", from a psychological point of viewKnivesPeople with Zizui are unlikely to have tofu hearts.

"Knife mouth", as the name suggests, means that the words spoken in the mouth are sharper, like a knife, which can stab people and make people hurt. But people with "knife mouths" never feel that they will hurt others, they will define themselves, they are a straightforward and fast-talking person, if their words really hurt others, they themselves do not feel guilty at all, but think that they say these words without any malice, they have no bad intentions, they are "knife mouth, tofu heart".

In fact, there is no "knife mouth, tofu heart", the mouth is like a knife, can the heart still be like tofu? What is said in the mouth, what is thought in the heart. The content of a person's language is his state of mind.

"Knife mouth", a mouth like a knife, how much damage it should have to people. A person with a mouth like a knife will never be soft in her heartPeople with a soft heart will carefully consider before talking to others, and will consider whether their expression will hurt others, even if it is something that must be expressed, it will be expressed euphemistically.

The harm caused by the "knife mouth" to people is sometimes very powerful, because she basically has no grievances with the injured person, so what she says can basically be recognized by people who don't know the truth, and her behavior will be understood by irrelevant people, so those "knife mouths" rarely recognize their mistakes.

In fact, everyone should be responsible for their actions and words. Don't talk nonsense about uncertain things, consider the other person's feelings when talking to others, if a person only takes into account his own feelings when communicating with others, and never considers the feelings of the other party, how can he say that this person is kind and soft-hearted.

The person with the "knife mouth" must not be the "tofu heart", and no one's heart and language will have such a big contrast.

Language affects our thinking, and when harsh language comes out of our mouths, our hearts will unconsciously become mean. If a person does not pay attention to the tone, tone and content of his speech for a long time, he may become bitter and mean without realizing it.

Since language affects our thinking, we need to be aware of and examine our own language at all times

Whatever comes your way, say positive things and don't say negative things.

No matter what kind of character you meet, say kind things and don't say mean things.

No matter what problems you encounter, speak openly, not absolutely.

By deliberately practicing, you can remind yourself to speak kind words and be more sensitive to the feelings of others, which will make others feel better and make yourself better.

"Knife mouth tofu heart" is a metaphor for words that are engraved and sharp, but soft-hearted, generous and benevolent. It's hard to say on the lips, but in fact, blood is dripping from the heart, such a person is very kind. What you say is not the same as what you say in your heart.

"Knife mouth tofu heart" is generally considered to be a manifestation of a person's low emotional intelligence. "Knife mouth tofu heart" is often described as a person who speaks harshly, but has a very kind and soft heart. This phrase is often used to praise others for their straightforward and honest character, not flattering, and soft-hearted.

For example, when someone says to you, "You are the person who is 'knife mouth tofu heart'". Explain that the other party can understand the painstaking work behind your tough language, and there is more appreciation than blame.

Sometimes, this phrase is also used as a way to find yourself under the stairs. For example, say to others: "Don't take what I say to heart, I'm a person with a knife mouth and a tofu heart."

I hope that the other party can understand that he has no malicious intentions, and his starting point is good, but he is just straightforward. In real life, everyone seems to have reached a consensus on this way of speaking: "knife mouth, tofu heart" is a manifestation of a person's pure heart and poor disguise, because "tofu heart" is good, so we can also accept "knife mouth".

However, as a student of Buddhism, we need to take good care of our oral karma, and we should carefully observe what kind of mind is used behind the language, so as not to be deceived by the ordinary mind mixed in it, and develop a habit of using wrong words, which will bring harm to sentient beings, and we will inadvertently sow many evil causes and bad karma.

Why do we think that our "good intentions" show the appearance of "knife mouth"? It is because we are negligent and fail to perceive that "self-grasping" is mixed with "good intentions." Whether there is "ego" or not can be judged in the following three ways:

Sense of Importance "I" feel that my ideas and judgments are very important, but the other person's behavior does not take "my" opinion seriously. This is a contempt for "me", so it is necessary to have a "knife mouth" to make the other party value "me" opinion. Superiority "I" feels that my knowledge and opinions are higher and wiser than those of the other person.

And the other party does not agree, and needs to use the "knife mouth" to let the other party buy "my" account.

The real knife mouth tofu heart is: the mouth says the words that reject you, but still does not hesitate to help you; I'm angry at some of your actions, but when you're in trouble, I'm still the first to be behind you. It's like the relationship between parents and children, the relationship between husband and wife.

When parents communicate with their children, they often use the "most angry" tone and say the most straightforward hurtful words. However, your parents still go out of their way to be nice to you. When lovers get along with each other, they will always hurt each other verbally, but then they will choose to apologize and admit their mistakes and make up for them in another form.

This kind of getting along can be called "knife mouth tofu heart". We know they have no ill will towards us; They are nice to us and give us enough love, but the way they get along with us is difficult for us to accept.

In life, there is often a sentence to describe a person, saying that this person is "a knife mouth and a tofu heart", which means that he says that there is nothing in his heart.

In fact, I always feel that what kind of person can say what kind of person can say what kind of person thinks in my heart. How can there be any "knife mouth tofu heart". It's just an excuse for some people to say hurtful things to themselves.

I prefer to believe that people with "knife mouth, tofu heart", their language and heart are the same.

Of course, people with "knife mouths and tofu hearts" really don't say how bad people are, but they are straightforward and fast-talking, and they don't care about other people's feelings.

In the final analysis, people with "knife mouths and tofu hearts" are still not high enough in their ideological realm, their temper is not good enough, and they are not able to control their emotions well.

However, the people with "knife mouths and tofu hearts" are indeed very real and not hypocritical, and they show themselves to others without reservation. This is much better than those hypocritical, deep city government, gentle on the surface, saying nice things to the face, and stabbing the knife in the back.

A person who is kind and gentle from the heart is not willing to say hurtful words. A person who has requirements for himself will also control his emotions, make himself as emotionally stable as possible, deal with things peacefully, and be able to treat everyone consistently.

There is such a sentence in "Zengguang Xianwen": There are straight trees in the mountains, but there are no straight people in the world.

The meaning of this sentence is: There are many straight trees in the mountains, but there are not many upright people who have no scheming.

In life, there are always some people who speak very straight, very poisonous, without taking into account the feelings of others, this kind of "straight" is actually not loved by everyone, although "good medicine is bitter, loyal to the ear", of course, if it is based on the premise of "really good for the other party", then this kind of "straight", this kind of "knife mouth tofu heart", is completely acceptable.

But if it is just for the sake of one's own temporary refreshment, intentionally, thus hurting the self-esteem of others, then this kind of "straightness", this kind of "knife mouth", is a manifestation of lack of cultivation.

I like what Fan Deng said, he said: "Anyone who says that I speak very straight, we are called driving pigs in the alley straight to the straight, people who say this kind of thing are basically prepared, if you want to say unpleasant words, he is mean, he just likes to say unpleasant things, he just lacks cultivation, and then he uses "straight" to cover up. ”

In life, there are always some people who like to advertise that "they speak very straight", regardless of the occasion, without taking into account the feelings of others, saying some ugly things, and even joking about other people's shortcomings or defects, and then claiming in a grand manner: "I speak very straight, don't you mind!" If you meet such a person, you can scold him back, without showing mercy to the other party, so that he deeply realizes that "speaking straight" and "not cultivating" are two different things.

You must know that people who really speak straight are not aware that they speak straight, such people, thinking of something, without thinking of the brain, will say it without their brains, and they have no intention of humiliating others and embarrassing others, so they will not give others vaccinations in advance to remind others to speak straight.

After all, some things can be said directly, some words can not be said directly, especially when there are many people, we should pay more attention to the proportions of speaking, some people like to speak freely regardless of the occasion, just for their own "spit for the fast", and embarrass others, but also make others stay away, this kind of "straight", in fact, is a lack of brains.

Just like there are always some people who like to evaluate the appearance of others, when others are fat, they say that others are as fat as pigs, ugly and strong, and others are thin, and they say that others are as thin as skeletons, looking old and not good-looking, so should others be fat or thin? From this point of view, such evaluations are not very kind when you taste them carefully.

Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June.

We don't have to deliberately say some nice things, but we don't always have to say some ugly things and mean things to hurt others, which is not only respect for others, but also respect for ourselves.