Is it my fault I think I m right when I m angry

First of all, as a boy, he can't honestly and clearly face the facts he needs to face, which is his weakness and naivety! In this regard, it is worth criticizing, and it is precisely this awkward fuse.

Everyone has a temper, and when a person first gives you a honey pot, and then removes the jar and gives you a bitter one, no one will be happy. So you are angry, so to speak, absolutely should be understandable.

At the same time, it needs to be said that what your brother-in-law said was right, but yours did wrong. First of all, you are in the process and habit of falling in love, communicating with others, you have not learned to empathize, you stand in your own perspective, you feel that he is not doing well, so you are angry, but you think about it, if you stand in his point of view, your friends ask you to play together, but they are all girls, I thought that friends would have boyfriends, and it was nothing to take a boy, but then I thought about it, few friends had boyfriends, and I began to be in a dilemma, what would you do at this time, you would also be embarrassed, You will also be thinking about what to do, of course, I can't rule out that he is deceitful and concealed in this matter, and I can't rule out that when you encounter this matter, you will handle it better than him. But at least when you learn to empathize, you feel his difficulties, he also has difficult things, too arbitrary, too willful, will only make you angry again and again, in communication with people, the most terrible thing is self-centered, what things only stand in their own perspective to think.!

And also! You end up saying, "Is there money now?" Cheaper?

I don't have a family with him, and I see him once a few months. "First of all, I feel a little sorry for the two of you for your distrust of him, and then I want to say that if you don't trust each other, it's good to break up early, it's already a matter of time before you are separated together, if you feel that you can go further and longer, even for a lifetime! So first of all!

Have full trust in him! Secondly, if you think you can last forever, why bother with a day or two now? You still have your own life without him, don't you?

So there's no need to be angry, it's fundamentally his fault in this matter, and theoretically, both of you are at fault!

- Good things for the sky.

Actually, you two didn't say it clearly... No matter what. Whatever decisions you make between you should be made clear.

So is he ... But he's also for you, well. yes.

It's all boys.。。 It's okay if you don't go. It's just that the way he speaks is not right.

You're right to be angry. Besides. If your classmates are going to go.

That's a really expensive ticket. But I think that's not just what he wants. Actually, he just wants to be alone with you.

To enjoy the world of two alone... That's why I you off ... Right..

In fact, it would be nice to make everything clear to each other ... It's just that you don't like to explain ...

Relax your heart, friend... MAY you be HAPPY ...

Hehe, it's normal to have a little fight, we also often quarrel, but we also feel happy, don't worry too much between friends, from what you said, he's still very good to you, and he's sulking.

We don't know about you! But if you like him, think about it! Since you like each other! Then ask in person.

Don't write this kind of question here to seek answers, what kind of him is you know better than these netizens here, understand more, you think you are right to be angry, if you are sure, find a way to make him feel that he is wrong, you will last long, lovers are sometimes together to say tolerance and not say just like something missed will not come back, only you yourself want to understand is the best answer, and it is very necessary to think about whether he is worth it, if you don't understand, in the end you must be hurt!

1. You should not be angry at any time.

Because it doesn't solve anything, even if you think you're right to be angry, what's the use!

2. It's better to communicate with him and tell him what you think!

Let him know what you're thinking.

Have you ever struggled with someone in your life? You feel that the other party is always sorry for you, and you are very angry when you think about it, and you are very angry for many years.

In fact, you think that all the strong parts of the other party are given by you, and the other party is simply a paper tiger, and all his energy is given by you. Because there's no one else out there, just yourself. The only person who can make you angry is yourself.

If you look back on the course of these years, you will be surprised to find that the person who made you angry at the beginning of the cultivation no longer exists, but there will still be another person who makes you angry. After thinking about it, you will realize that it is not a certain person that makes you angry, but your belief system. It's your belief system that keeps a person going and makes him angry with you.

How can I keep myself from getting angry?

First, the attention returns to oneself from others. The reason why you always feel that someone else is angry with you is because your attention is not returning to yourself, and when you return to yourself and do your own thing, you have no time to take care of others.

Secondly, you feel that it is someone else's fault that makes you angry because you put yourself in the role of a victim, or you feel that someone else is strong and you are weak, and someone else is bullying you, so you are angry. If you have a strong mindset and you are a strong person, then those mistakes of others to you are indifferent and you can tolerate them, how can you be angry?

Finally, let yourself go. Anger will make you lose your mind, people will do stupid things when they are angry, do stupid things, you will be angry with yourself, it is a very worthwhile deal, you will not be angry anymore if you figure this out, no matter what you encounter calmly, even if it is suffering, it will help you grow after the experience.

Summary. There are many girls who get angry easily during a relationship, and sometimes they get angry just because their boyfriend said something wrong. In fact, this phenomenon is very normal.

It's my fault to say the wrong thing + it's your fault to be angry.

There are many girls who get angry easily during a relationship, and sometimes they get angry just because their boyfriend said something wrong. In fact, this phenomenon is very normal.

In fact, sometimes boys feel very tired to have such a girl, but understand that only girlfriends who really care about themselves will be angry because of these little things.

If the boy is careful enough, he will find that his girlfriend is not very easy to get angry about everything, and the reason why he is angry may be because he feels that his boyfriend doesn't care about him.

One will be very angry and feel that it is the fault of the object, and the other will be false, and you will have to be at fault for yourself.

Dear, first of all, you feel that the object is at fault, and then you feel that you are also at fault, which means that this matter may itself be the wrong direction for both parties, maybe he has his difficulties, you have your difficulties, but both sides have the wrong direction, and both sides are also years of observation and discussion due to the actual conditions can not be changed, than if you don't meet and meet, we must meet at the agreed time, but sometimes many things are often delayed on the road, This will lead to the time of your meeting is not necessarily, and if the meeting time is not necessarily, this will lead to a conflict between men and women, this time is after you quarrel with him, you will find that it must be his fault at that time, but in the end you will also think that it is your own fault.

Summary. Hello: Why do you want me to be sad when you make a mistake? This means that your mistake caused me to be in a bad mood, which should not be done, and I should not suffer this result! The other party thinks that there is no sympathy, so he is very upset and angry!

I said, why do you want me to be sad when you make a mistake? His reaction was angry.

Hello: This is a very normal mental reaction.

Hello: Why do you want me to be sad when you make a mistake? This means that your mistake caused me to be in a bad mood, which should not be done, and I should not suffer this result! The other party thinks that there is no sympathy, so he is very upset and angry!

Hello: You can comfort him and say that I am also sad about this, and I understand you very well, but it should be you and not me who are more sad and sad! Because you caused it directly!

Hello: You can comfort him and say that I am also sad about this, and I understand you very well, but it should be you and not me who are more sad and sad! Because you caused it directly!

Hello: You can comfort him and say that I am also sad about this, and I understand you very well, but it should be you and not me who are more sad and sad! Because you caused it directly!

Yesterday, my colleague Tian Tian needed the promotion table of the 10 comrades in the unit, and I found their respective tables from the files of these 10 people, took them to her, and arranged them in the order of the list she provided.

Unfortunately, none of these forms are stamped. I told her, and she said upload it and try it. After a while, he came to me and said:

If the upload is unsuccessful, it must be stamped. I said, "What then?"

She came to get the files of these comrades and said, "I'll look for it again." It turned out that she wanted to find it herself, alas, what a serious little girl.

I said, "I didn't see any stamps when I put it in." She was unwilling and took all three boxes of files.

Although she only needed 10 people, the files of the 10 people were packed in three boxes, each containing the files of 10 people. The serial number has been numbered, the order is arranged, and it is easy to find.

In the afternoon, I needed to find another piece of information, so I opened the file box and found that the original neat files had become a mess.

The materials in the archives, each person's information is independent, and they are held in small clips. Now the serial numbers are messed up, and they are no longer arranged in the order of the serial numbers, and some of the small folders of the files are gone.

I'm a little angry, no, it should be angry.

I don't know what to do with this, but if I say to her, "Beauty, this material should be put in order." However, she finally used it this time, and the next time she used it, she didn't know that it was the Year of the Monkey, so this time, I went to someone to talk about it, and it seemed that I was too calculating.

This approach obviously doesn't work.

So what do I do? I thought, feeling uncomfortable.

So I asked myself three soul questions.

1. It is said that "being angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others", is this sentence correct? It stands to reason that it is a mistake made by others, others have done wrong, and they have not done anything wrong, so there is no need for us to be angry, so why do we have to be angry when we face other people's mistakes many times? In this way, it seems that there is a common tendency to punish oneself for the mistakes of others.

So this statement is true.

However, whoever makes a mistake corrects it has nothing to do with others. So this statement is not true. Because the fault is someone else's fault, and it is someone else who is punished.

So what are you angry about? If you're angry, it's your problem. Think of it this way, that's who is angry and who has a problem.

2. I think maybe some people will not be angry in the face of such a thing, if this is the case, then that is my problem.

3. So, I ask myself, should I be angry, why should I be angry? Mine is very simple, it is that your inner child feels that he is not respected, that he is not seen. Yes, you can look inside when you are angry:

Hey, I'm emotional in the face of this, and I'm angry now because he doesn't respect the fruits of my labor. I felt disrespected. When you think about it like this, your mind will gradually calm down a lot.

Every emotion is an angel who guards you. I learned Vipassana today, and I want to be more aware of myself from now on.

Summary. Good evening, I can feel your anxiety and distress about this situation relaxing. You can try to take a deep breath in such a situation, or look at yourself from a different angle.

This situation can cause you unnecessary stress and annoyance. From a psychological point of view, this condition may be related to your ability to empathize with emotions. Emotional empathy refers to the ability to feel the emotions of others and respond appropriately, which is important for both interpersonal and communication.

Regardless of whether it's right or wrong, I'm also angry when I see others angry, how can I change it.

Good evening, I can feel your anxiety about this situation and the distress of Ki Oak relaxing. You can try to take a deep breath in such a situation, or look at yourself from a different angle. This situation can cause you unnecessary stress and annoyance.

From a psychological point of view, this condition may be related to your ability to empathize with emotions. Emotional empathy refers to the ability to feel the emotions of others and respond appropriately, which is very important for interpersonal communication and communication.

Don't worry, I've found a problem now, it's already a very good start, and then I'll teach you how to get along with people positively and sunny.

Hmmm, good! If you are in an unhappy mood or unpredictable things, you can ask me.

I don't have a girlfriend or pants friend now, I'm afraid that I will always be angry that she can't stand me after the ruler inspection, because girls are the easiest to make people angry, and I admit that I am wrong, and if others continue to be angry, I will directly break the defense.

You're always angry about something, and if you like a girl, how can you be willing to be angry?

It's too late to pamper and love.

Everything has a quiet book, opening and closing sometimes see others pretending to be open, and I find out, I will debunk it, I especially can't stand others pretending to be forced, sometimes I am scolded for doing something wrong, and I am also angry.

Teachers can understand you.

But just don't care too much about things that aren't worth it.

You should be a person who cares too much about others, in fact, people like you are very cautious, and you are afraid that you will not do well enough and disappoint.

But at the same time, you yourself are also very straightforward, and you want to scold if you can't see it.

But it's also tiring, isn't it?

I'll go! Teacher, what you said is right, how can you see it?

The teacher is experienced, you will live very tired if you don't change yourself like this, be careful every day How tired you are, change yourself from now on The teacher will accompany you.

This is a very bad feeling, I can understand it, I can imagine that you have endured a lot of sourness, come and hug you I don't know that you have been in this state for a long time.

I think I'm very smart, but with those elders, I basically don't talk much, but I think about things in my heart, how to solve this kind of thing, but I'm afraid that what I say is wrong, I'm afraid that others will laugh at me, and my uncle often says I'm stingy, and I also know that Pei Sui says I'm stingy, but I can't change it.

Your situation should be caused by the environment, are your parents usually very strict with you?